School Party invite - how do I deal with this?

andyrules

A party is a huge event for a child - in my class they are excited for weeks beforehand. And let me add, the ones having a friend for tea are just as excited as the huge 'fun factory' mega expense ones!

When mine were small, I opted for a 'fun factory' type one year - it was all-inclusive, activities, tea and party bags. Half way through, a mum took me to one side and warned me that the 'bags' were quite meanly filled and if I liked she would supervise the children while I nipped out to add some extra goodies to the bags!! I decided to take my chance with being thought mean.

I feel for that little boy, and agree with others here that he should be treated to a special day out, preferably with a friend or cousin who is not connected with the school.

lab-lover

I think it should be,no invite=no present.Why pay for a present that probably wont be appreciated anyway.
My dd was invited to a birthday party at an ice skating rink,i said she couldnt go,she is extremely clumsy on concrete never mind ice! she wasnt bothered about not going as her friend was also having a tea party which she was going to. the other 3 girls couldnt go either, so the birthday girl invited girls from the class she didnt like.when my dd asked why when she didnt like them, she replied it was so she would get more presents and that was all!!
My dd went to tea party but i deliberately choose a cheaper present than i normally would.
What do u think about this attitude from girls aged 10?

Gal

When your sons birthday comes round just book the same place and then the same people and '!!!! up' the numbers and break it, to her son first that he can't go then give her the same excuse. See how she likes it.

When they all have there party take your son somewhere else and spend the afternoon with him. I would be annoyed but end of the day there is nothing you can do. Just have to accept it.

suekjw

My little boy and his friend have just shared their 5th birthday party and invited everyone, as I think it's horrible at this age to exclude them. I always find that the ones that do 'exclude' the odd one or two are always quick enough to accept any invite going. Found out that my son has been excluded from a boy who came to his party, but I think that's because I'm not in with the in crowd lol!

Just a hug to you and your son.

across

that is really mean and i dont know how anyone could do that she should of just let him go and act like she didnt realise the numbers had gone over because at the end of the day theres bound to be one who doesnt turn up (kids are always ill or parents cant be bothered to go!)
give him the present like another poster suggested and tell him the child wont be coming to his party either so dont worry he'll miss out and the ones she hardly knows probably wont have a party back!!!!!!!tough!!;) take care and take him out yourself you'll have a better time in the end!

jimsmum

My DS is in pre school class ,he's nearly 3.
A little girl goes to his class who is the daughter of a "lovely" mother whom i dont get on with at all.I would never dream of not inviting her to DS party this year,at the end of the day its not the childs fault is it.
I am apalled at the way the children have been treated in some of these stories but i dont agree not to invite the child to the OPs childs bday party,it may not be the childs fault.
I believe if you are going to have a party for your child,never leave just the odd few out and if your child says they do not wish for a certain child to come to their party id say they cant have a party then.

mountainofdebt

I can still remember the look on the face of the nursery nurse when we handed her the invities to my son's 3rd birthday party.....we'd invited all the children that he'd grown up with at that nursery to a party we'd arranged at the local sports hall and I think there was about 30 children there!

(The meal time was a bit like a chimps tea party though!)

needmoney

for your little boy xx

BernadetteN

Rachie_B wrote: »

what in the home ?! :eek:

no childs party is cheap n cheerful these days TBH ,by the time you do food ,games,any extras such as party bags,decorations,any entertainment etc

There is no obligation to spend money on party bags, decorations or entertainment. The most I have ever spent on any child's part is £50 and I call that expensive.

It's the memories and the enjoyment that counts, not the amount of money spent.

rev229

I have come to the conclusion that some people are just very odd. My little girl has never been invited to a birthday party or to someone elses house to play because even though she is apparently well liked and accepted by her peers (she is autistic), The parents obviously feel she is too different to be included, anyway it saves me money not having to buy presents every other week. It is very sad when your child is excluded for what ever reason.:(