Angry..do you see this as ok?

MeganKate

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Are you two seriously saying that you think it is ok for someone in a relationship to go to a beach because there will be topless women there, get aroused by them and then whack themselves off while thinking about them?

Well personally topless women dont do it for me, but if Brad Pitt and George Clooney, or even some random sexy bloke was on a beach near me, then I might pop over and have a sneaky peek yes!!!

It certainly wouldnt bother me if a partner did that! I would think it was funny!

Lotus-eater

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Are you two seriously saying that you think it is ok for someone in a relationship to go to a beach because there will be topless women there, get aroused by them and then whack themselves off while thinking about them?

Like it's never happened in a marriage before. LOL

It is wrong for women to watch a particular program they like on tv, then fantasise about a bloke in it later while in bed and masturbating?

I've heard this before on here, my partner is only allowed to think about me in a sexual way.

Sounds a bit boring and narrow minded to me. But it's your partner who has got to be OK about it, I couldn't care what you do in your relationships.

Lotus-eater

MeganKate wrote: »

Well personally topless women dont do it for me, but if Brad Pitt and George Clooney, or even some random sexy bloke was on a beach near me, then I might pop over and have a sneaky peek yes!!!

It certainly wouldnt bother me if a partner did that! I would think it was funny!

Personally here, a topless beach is about as exciting as mud wrestling, ie not very.
Sounds like someone may have some body issues as well and a general problem with people wanting to go naked, or topless.

BugglyB

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Are you two seriously saying that you think it is ok for someone in a relationship to go to a beach because there will be topless women there, get aroused by them and then whack themselves off while thinking about them?

Do you think if you're in a relationship with someone who would want to do that, or feel compelled to do that, you saying 'please don't', or 'lets both agree not to masturbate' will have much of an effect?

You can't police someone elses thoughts or police their actions every day when they're in the loo or on their own.

purple.sarah

The thread seems to have got off topic here! The OP was not concerned about her OH watching !!!!!! or even fantasising but actually sending a sexual text to a real life woman! It's a totally different issue!

MeganKate

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Personally here, a topless beach is about as exciting as mud wrestling, ie not very.
Sounds like someone may have some body issues as well and a general problem with people wanting to go naked, or topless.

Someone doesnt have to be naked for me to fantasise sexually about them either! a nice sexy copper or fireman in uniform does it for me every time..

JimmyTheWig

Lotus-eater wrote: »

It is wrong for women to watch a particular program they like on tv, then fantasise about a bloke in it later while in bed and masturbating?

For me, this would become wrong in a relationship if they were watching this TV program because they wanted to masturbate while fantasising about the bloke. If the two were incidental then I wouldn't have a problem about it.

JimmyTheWig

BugglyB wrote: »

Do you think if you're in a relationship with someone who would want to do that, or feel compelled to do that, you saying 'please don't', or 'lets both agree not to masturbate' will have much of an effect?

Yes, I would, actually.

Some people like to go out on the pull on a Friday night.
Nothing wrong with that.
If I started a relationship with someone who did that I think that it is reasonable that they stop doing it now they are in a relationship.
If for some reason they didn't realise that it was no longer appropriate when in a relationship then I would certainly expect them to stop once I explained why I didn't want them to.

In the same way I would expect someone to stop going out looking for attractive people once in a relationship.

JimmyTheWig

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Sounds like someone may have some body issues as well and a general problem with people wanting to go naked, or topless.

Just to make it clear that MeganKate was the person to bring up topless beaches not me.

Gingham_R

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

For me, this would become wrong in a relationship if they were watching this TV program because they wanted to masturbate while fantasising about the bloke. If the two were incidental then I wouldn't have a problem about it.

Just to check - we're censoring what is in people's minds too? I'll stand in anyone's corner but expecting people not to have an imagination is quite an extreme step along this spectrum.