Angry..do you see this as ok?

Lunar_Eclipse

MeganKate wrote: »

Is that not like saying watching sport is the same as going to the gym?

That would be great!

MandM90

determined_new_ms wrote: »

sorry I was replying on my phone so kept making typos. I guess we are both arguing the same point but from different sides of the fence. I did find what you said quite provoking. I am completely open minded, in fact the level of liberalism I argue drives some of my friends and family to distraction.

What I do know without a shadow of doubt is I do have a relationship where if either me or my partner were unhappy with a decision we had made we could go back to the table and revisit and recompromise.

So, if your partner wanted to 'revisit' the rule that he cannot watch !!!!!!, what would be your compromise, just out of interest?

I've read the latter part of this thread with interest. My friends and I have often giggled about weirdy !!!!!! we've found in our respective boyfriends/girlfriends/wives/husbands internet history. The only time I've encountered one partner telling the other partner not to use it is in desperate posts on internet forums (usually the poster complaining that their other half agreed to stop watching it, yet has been found to still be watching it. I guess old habits die hard).

MandM90

This came up on a Google search for how many men watch !!!!!!:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/6709646/All-men-watch-!!!!!!-scientists-find.html

:rotfl:

determined_new_ms

that's a hard one! Sometimes he watches it, especially if I am away for a couple of days. The whole discussion got really out of hand and my views got distorted - there was never a discussion that involved me and a stick telling him what he can and can't do.

After many years of being single he was addicted to !!!!!! and it was damaging our relationship that he was waiting until I went to sleep to go off and watch !!!!!!. He was neglecting our mutual sex life to meet this need which was damaging to our relationship

MeganKate

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Why not? Can you really not begin to understand that ... or is it just not an opinion you share?

I also think you might be confusing control and morals/ethics. It is not controlling to expect complete respect within a relationship and a portion of society believe that !!!!!! violates that respect. You disagree, but that doesn't make the opposite opinion invalid or crazy (or serve people right for marriages failing.)

(As an aside, along moral/ethical lines, people can be anti-!!!!!! for objective reasons, such as exploitation of children and young people in general. It's the same as people who enjoy burgers refusing to eat at McDonalds and people boycotting GAP due to the sweat trade etc.)

No I honestly dont get it!!

Its control, end of. If one person wants to do it and the other doesnt want them to, then they need to compromise. Its not illegal (illegal !!!!!! is a different matter entitrely), it may be 'wrong' in some peoples eyes, but that doesnt make it WRONG full stop.

As I said before, if that is cheating, where does it end? perhaps some people should keep their husbands in a box under the bed?

Make a big deal out of something and men will just find a way to hide it. Pointless.

MandM90

determined_new_ms wrote: »

that's a hard one! Sometimes he watches it, especially if I am away for a couple of days. The whole discussion got really out of hand and my views got distorted - there was never a discussion that involved me and a stick telling him what he can and can't do.

After many years of being single he was addicted to !!!!!! and it was damaging our relationship that he was waiting until I went to sleep to go off and watch !!!!!!. He was neglecting our mutual sex life to meet this need which was damaging to our relationship

Honestly, at first I agreed with MK that telling an adult not to watch !!!!!! was controlling, but when it is actually having a detrimental affect on a couples sex life I can completely understand not wanting your partner to use it.

Perhaps maybe along the way of the debate the idea of 'not wanting your partner to watch !!!!!! because it is evil and adulterous' has been confused with 'not wanting your partner to watch !!!!!! constantly instead of spending time with/having a sex life with you'.

Lunar_Eclipse

MeganKate wrote: »

No I honestly dont get it!!

Its control, end of. If one person wants to do it and the other doesnt want them to, then they need to compromise.

End of? I hope you see the irony. :rotfl:

I'm not sure anyone actually said it was wrong either.

Lunar_Eclipse

MandM90 wrote: »

Honestly, at first I agreed with MK that telling an adult not to watch !!!!!! was controlling

I agree with the rest of your post, BUT no-one on this thread has said that they've told their partner they can't watch !!!!!!. Why have some people assumed that?

determined_new_ms

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I agree with the rest of your post, BUT no-one on this thread has said that they've told their partner they can't watch !!!!!!. Why have some people assumed that?

thank you oh thank you oh wise one! So many assumptions have been made since the digression of this thread! So if you don't watch !!!!!! you have a low sex drive, if you think fidelity means not watching !!!!!! you are controlling, if you watch !!!!!! you are sexually deviant! Jeez guys so provoking and uncalled for especially seeing as most people are arguing for doing what's right to them and letting others live how they want to!

BugglyB

Lunar eclipse, im sorry I can't quote your post I'm on my phone.

Being anti !!!!!! for ethical reasons is not the same as being anti mcdonalds - it would be the equivalent of being anti-burgers because you disagree with McDonalds, or being anti jumpers because you disagree with gap, or being anti coffee because of Starbucks. There is such a thing as fairtrade !!!!!! :-)