Urgent help please...is he lying?

POPPYOSCAR

You say he is on here regularly, do you think he might recognize you anyway just from what you have posted?

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine

So on the very first occasion that you've been able to track his browsing history, he has visited a dating website (Plenty of Fish)? It doesn't look great, does it. I don't think he could excuse himself if he tried.

If you want out of the relationship -and it does seem that you're waiting to find a reason- than this would seem to be all the reason you'd need.

Maureen43

I don't think he would look on this forum, but I am just playing safe.

SO, is the general concensus that there is no innocent explanation for this?

I am so churned up - my tummy feels weird....How on earth am I going to manage going forward

Errata

Put your money where your mouth is and challenge him. It's your call.

carolan78

I wouldn't challenge him just yet. I would set up a POF account and see if someone that could potentially be your hubby got in contact. Search POF you never know he may have used his real name or his mothers maiden name for a profile.

pimento

If you know the hotmail address you can search Facebook using it. Just put the email address into the search box and it will show any accounts using that email.

sunflower_2

carolan78 wrote: »

I wouldn't challenge him just yet. I would set up a POF account and see if someone that could potentially be your hubby got in contact. Search POF you never know he may have used his real name or his mothers maiden name for a profile.

excellent idea

pimento wrote: »

If you know the hotmail address you can search Facebook using it. Just put the email address into the search box and it will show any accounts using that email.

again - excellent idea


i so feel for you OP - this must be awful.

but as someone has already mentioned - you are worth so much more than this untrustworthy pr&ck.

i would go with the above suggestions and defo try the keylogger.
approach him with hard evidence.

do you think he would be bothered if he was caught out?
is the marriage good in other ways?

xx

coinxoperated

Plenty of Fish is a dating website. I know, because I met my current partner on there.

I'm sorry - But people don't go on there to meet fishing buddies.

You need to tell him you know he has been talking to other women on Plenty of Fish and you want to know why. Then you need to pack his !!!!!! up and kick him out and sign up yourself and get a new man.

Total waste of time trying to 'build' trust here. He's blown it. If he EVER sits at another computer it'll be running through your head.

Does he have a normal password / user name for things? Might be worth going on and trying to log in so you have some hard proof.

I am so sorry your going through this, I really am. I can only imagine how heartbreaking this must be for you and how much of a shock it may be.

But I promise, you can do better. In situations like this, put yourself first. Sometimes we should all be selfish to enable us to keep our sanity. x

coinxoperated

carolan78 wrote: »

I wouldn't challenge him just yet. I would set up a POF account and see if someone that could potentially be your hubby got in contact. Search POF you never know he may have used his real name or his mothers maiden name for a profile.

Sod the private detective work. Whats the point? Have you seen whats on POF? If you need alias's, spying, etc etc it obviously isn't working.

Its always hard walking away, but the end result will be better for you in long run.

Maureen43

I haven't challenged him yet, nor have I done any spying yet.

I don't know what to do. I know he has been a liar this time and in the past. However I have two children (13 and 11) who adore their Dad.

I am scared of money problems, moving house, everything really.

But I can't carry on like this either.