Who Gets The Ring?

caeler

I kept my ring. I 'technically' bought it, says it all really! haha! I traded in a family ring that didn't suit towards one that I picked and we paid with joint money. If it is for funds for your son and your happy to part with it then you sell it and put it in a savings account. Everybody is happy (or he won't be if he truly didn't mean the money being for son).

paddy's_mum

Sollie wrote: »

My partner and I .... are locked in a battle about who gets the engagement ring.

Any help at all would be greatly received!

Seriously? Grow up! :mad: :mad: :mad:

You have a two year old child who is completely dependent upon parents who are "locked in a battle" about something that ranks close to nowhere on a scale of 1 to 100 of human problems, disasters and devastation.

You think I'm being harsh? If your boy (Heaven forbid) gets hit by a car tomorrow or chokes on a fish bone or starts convulsing, where the hell, then, does a childish and pathetic squabble come? Is this really the most important thing in your life?

You asked for advice - this is mine. I hope you are indeed grateful if I have made you pause for even an instant and really think just what you are doing and what you hope to achieve. If you still think that your quarrel is of such importance, I suggest you pop along to your nearest A + E and see what real life is all about!

Give him the ring, or chuck it down the nearest drain, or donate it to a charity but please, please realise that you are placing huge priority on THE WRONG THINGS!!!

Good luck.

pinkshoes

The ring and your child are two separate issues.

The ring was a gift as a token of marriage. As you are no longer getting married, and as he paid for it, just give it back and stop being so petty.

Ring or no ring, money or no money, it's up to your ex to provide for his child in the best way that he can.

If he wants to sell the ring and spend it on a festival, then that's his prerogative.

Fredula

He obviously saved up for that ring to give to you. You could at least give him the courtesy of returning it to him.

I would want to keep it, if it were me. But it's morally wrong. Men get a rough deal, they have to fork out for eternity rings, engagement rings, etc... What do women have to buy?

Mojisola

Fredula wrote: »

Men get a rough deal, they have to fork out for eternity rings, engagement rings, etc... What do women have to buy?

Men don't have to. I didn't have an engagement ring and we bought our wedding rings from joint money.

wannabe_sybil

I paid for my own engagement ring. Looking back, I really begrudge that £12.50.

Perhaps you could sell the ring and put it towards the costs of battles for access.

Good luck!

Person_one

An engagement ring is just a gift, that's all. Not given under duress but freely.

Is the OP a petty, immoral, tacky gold digger if she doesn't return every other gift he gave her during their relationship?

Presumably he should also be giving back every gift she's ever given him...

Stephb1986_2

I've been previously engaged before I met my now fianc! the chump I was dating at the time cheated on me with my so called best mate I threw the ring at him, speaking to the friend some 7 years on he sold the ring and had a day out with the money, only thing is he's done the same to her!

I'd give it back it's only full of bad memories

meer53

What else did he give you during your relationship ? Are you going to sort all that out too ?

It's really petty, give him the ring back.

Person_one

meer53 wrote: »

What else did he give you during your relationship ? Are you going to sort all that out too ?

It's really petty, give him the ring back.

This makes no sense.

If she owes him the ring then surely she does in fact owe him all the other presents back, and he owes her everything she gave to him.

People shouldn't give gifts if they might want them back one day. That's kind of the whole deal with giving people things, the things stop being your property and become theirs!