Who Gets The Ring?

Sollie

My partner and I recently separated and now we are locked in a battle about who gets the engagement ring.

We decided to call it a day after months of constant arguing and no longer being able to trust one another. We both agreed that we were doing the right thing by separating but he's now changed his tune and is now blaming me for the whole relationship breakdown. He says he wants the ring back so that he can get the money to help provide for our 2 year old son but i know fine well i will not see a single penny of that money and he will spend it all at the festival that he is going to.

Can anyone help please tell me who would rightfully get this ring? Iv read bits and pieces online about lawyers opinions (i know that if i don't give him this ring back he will seek advice from his lawyer) but nothing really makes sense! Any help at all would be greatly received!

Mojisola

Do you really want a ring to remind you of him every time you wear it?

In your position, I'd give it back to him.

sealady

When I split from my ex I kept the ring! Why don't you try and sell the ring and them give him half the money! That way you both benefit from it!

kittykat100

The ring is a promise to contract (the marriage). If that promise is not fullfilled than the promise is broken and the ring should be returned to the person that bought it.

(Not an expert but lots of viewings of Judge Judy confirm this )

Kittyx

74jax

I agree with Mojisola.

Yes it was a gift from him to you, so I guess yours to keep. But you also accepted it as an 'engagement' ring with the promise to marry, which you're not. So i'd give it back.

I think it's a personal choice, but I couldn't imagine you'd still wear it if you met someone else etc, and selling it and keeping the money I think would be wrong. I'd give it back for him to do with what he chooses.

CrazyAngel_3

An engagement ring it regarded as a gift. You do not have to return it and he cannot force you to do so. Sell it yourself, you have no obligation to give him any of the proceeds.

Morganarla

When I split from my ex future DH, I gave him back my ring.

Mojisola

CrazyAngel wrote: »

An engagement ring it regarded as a gift. You do not have to return it and he cannot force you to do so. Sell it yourself, you have no obligation to give him any of the proceeds.

That's the law but not necessarily the "right" thing to do.

Unless it was an extremely expensive ring it won't be worth paying solicitors to settle the argument.

How about suggesting that you sell it and put the money in a savings account for your son? That way neither of you benefit from it but your child will.

balletshoes

I'd give him the ring back, you didn't get married and an engagement ring is supposed to be a ring committing yourselves to marriage in the future, right?

picnmix

I'm another vote for giving it back, I threw mine at my ex-fiance when we broke up, I wouldn't want to have kept it.

barbiedoll

The ring was a gift to you and he cannot legally ask you to return it. It doesn't matter whose fault the break-up was, the ring is yours to keep.

From what I understand, the only exception is if the ring was given to him to give to you by his mother (for instance) and is considered to be a "family heirloom"
This would be the case if you had been given an antique ring that belonged to women through the generations, it wouldn't be considered to be a "gift", more a "loan" which would be expected to be passed down to your children or to other members of the family. You wouldn't be allowed to sell it or to keep it if you split up.

If he bought it for you, you can do what you like with it, although if it was extremely expensive then I would personally sell it and [STRIKE]keep the money for myself[/STRIKE] offer him half of the money.