Who Gets The Ring?

lostinrates

Sollie wrote: »

Emmzi wrote: »

If you are arguing over this now I don't rate your chances of working together to get your son to 18 and independence.

The fact that my ex and I arguing over a ring has nothing to do with my ability to raise my son. Nor does your comment help in anyway to the matter at hand. Please stick to the current topic, thank you.

Its not about the 'you' singular but the pair of you. Challenges more important than a ring ate likely to occur in your sons life and your future relationship with ths man as parents. I would want as little acrimony and as much goodwill to be involved. Personally i would ask him if he would agree to the savings idea, if not, i would give it back with a smile.

bryanb

Sollie wrote: »

Emmzi wrote: »

If you are arguing over this now I don't rate your chances of working together to get your son to 18 and independence.

The fact that my ex and I arguing over a ring has nothing to do with my ability to raise my son. Nor does your comment help in anyway to the matter at hand. Please stick to the current topic, thank you.

Should that be "Our son"?

Sollie

Sorry, yes our son! I honestly don't mean to come across as argumentative as you may understand it is quite a difficult time for all those involved. At the end of the day, i will always do what i feel is best for our son. I think i shall be speaking to my ex about putting the money into our sons CTF, hopefully he will agree to this as its the best outcome.

Thank you to everyone for all your helpful comments and advice

scooby088

When i was engaged my fiance gave me the ring back when i asked for it, I then sold it. My advice just give it back stop arguing and get over it.

raven83

Personally i would not want to keep a ring from a relationship that had ended, it would be like holding onto the past! If it was me i would give it back to your ex or if it is quite valuable i would suggest selling it and putting half the amount you get in your sons account and the rest to the ex, then move on.

Kynthia

The law isn't cut and dry on this issue although it's usually assumed in UK law that it's a gift unless it was every agreed that it should be returned if the marriage didn't take place. Who broke off the engagement can affect the decision, along with if the ring was already in the family or whether the proposal was on a special day such as Christmas or Valentine's Day therefore making it a gift.

However it's up to you to decide what is best as you and your ex try get on in raising your son. If giving it back would get you goodwill for other decisions you need to make then it could be worth it.

pimento

Unless it's a 2 carat Tiffany ring, you'll probably find it's worth a lot less than he paid for it anyway.

Not worth making yourself look like a gold digger for.

getzls

Without reading all replies, i, as a man would say that you keep it. I know i would not expect it back.

apesxx

if it wasnt expensive in the first place then it will be worth next to nothing to sell.
Although the law states you canlegally keep it, the moral thing todo is give it back. if i split from my fiance i certainly wouldnt keep my ring. in fact i have thrown it at him a few times when we have argued.

Bluemeanie_2

kittykat100 wrote: »

The ring is a promise to contract (the marriage). If that promise is not fullfilled than the promise is broken and the ring should be returned to the person that bought it.

(Not an expert but lots of viewings of Judge Judy confirm this )

Kittyx

I love Judge Judy! But unfortunately in England and Wales that is not the position.

In English and Welsh law, engagement is no longer a legally binding contract. The ring is a gift so the receiver gets to keep it.
The only exception is if it is unique (for example passed down the generations or a family heirloom.)