Homelessness at 34 weeks pregnant?

Lancslass1982

I was going to reply to certain posts in this thread, but I actually think that Tiddlywinks has taken the words right out of my mouth!

puddy

i think that one of the major problems these days, i see it with children i work with and my step kids is that there is little preparation for independence.

the idea that at 13 or so you go out and get a paper round is anathema to parents and kids nowadays

where are the cooking, budgeting skills and people skills for kids now, they should be learning these in saturday jobs and at home

another poster further up gave an example of sewing on her 18 year old son's school badge on his blazer! why wasnt he doing it himself!!

we have created a generation of overgrown babies who then get a huge, unwelcome shock at the age of adulthood (whenever that is) because they cant cope with life and dont understand how life works

some people then think the answer is to baby them some more because they dont know how to 'cope'. im sure it sounds harsh but the way to cope is to 'do', not to have it done for you. by all means as parents we must support and guide, explain how to do these things and who to contact, but to keep doing, means that the young person or new adult wont ever learn to do it themselves

Dunroamin

We do seem to have come a long way down a slippery slope when it's considered "commendable" to have a job, abnormal to plan and save before having a baby, normal to be living on benefits and assumed that someone's living in social housing!

FatVonD

jellyhead wrote: »

So everyone in this thread waited until they had savings and a mortgage before they gave birth? Presumably you are all too wealthy to claim tax credits?

Yes, and yes. And if I were to be made homeless tomorrow I wouldn't stand a snowball's chance in hell of getting a council house.

moneypuddle

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

Its commendable that your young partner is working and that you're obviously do the best you can for the baby and your circumstances.

:rotfl:Its really not. Its normal!

Penny-Pincher!!

For everyones information, what I meant about having a job being "commendable" is that many 18yr olds aren't working and although they are in a sticky situation atm, its still a positive thing that he's working and not on the dole.

Penny-Pincher!!

moneypuddle wrote: »

:rotfl:Its really not. Its normal!

Is it though in this day and age with the economy the way it is and lack of jobs etc?

dundeediva

OMG what is wrong with people...can you not read!!!

The OP asked for information and advice. She got that.

She asked for advice 14 weeks ago with EXACTLY the same circs (except the fact she wasn't as far gone) and she hasn't taken on board anything. The fact her OH got a job is great, but its not commendable !!!!!!! They are both young adults and they have a responsibility to look after both themselves and the unborn child.

You need a house, and have decided to wait for one to be given to you. How is that providing for your child?? You havent answered the question whether you contribute to OH parents bills/household. Could you maybe sit down and discuss how you could remedy the situation?

As for the comments about having savings and a mortgage, why is it such a shock these days for people to have that BEFORE having a child? I have had a mortgage since age of 18 (3 days after 18th birthday actually:p) and I now have a 3 bedroom "forever" house at 25. I have savings and I only started trying for a baby at christmas. I understand that things happen by accident but the responsiblity lies with the OP to provide for her child. No one else. I've never claimed anything in my life from anywhere, I pay for everything myself and always have.

OP, please listen and take notice of what people say on here. Your child needs you to be strong and self sufficient. Don't let this get you down. Work hard and look after your baby and no matter what happens, you will aways know you have done your best

Penny-Pincher!!

dundeediva wrote: »

She asked for advice 14 weeks ago with EXACTLY the same circs (except the fact she wasn't as far gone) and she hasn't taken on board anything. The fact her OH got a job is great, but its not commendable !!!!!!!

Take a chill pill hun:rotfl:I did say that I hadn't read the whole thread, so if I had (which I should have done) I may not have wrote that.

daisiegg

jellyhead wrote: »

How is the bf's mother managing to keep a house that has a spare double room anyway? I am guessing that she is sitting in a large council house, yet refusing to allow some of that house to be used to support her own son and grandchild.

What a strange assumption to make! who ever mentioned the boyfriend's parents are in council accommodation? Anyone with a spare bedroom must be 'sitting in a large council house'? My fiance and I have FOUR spare double bedrooms and we own our house (well, mortgaged!) and are not in receipt of any benefits whatsoever.

ETA - I replied as soon as I saw that quote but didn't read on to see other people had also picked up on it, so sorry for repeating what they've said!