Swearing problem

CH27

cheeswright wrote: »

ok - this is my last post on this.....
swearing is not a consious act
it is not like smoking that requires you to go out and buy cigarettes
or alcoholism...or..........it is ingrained in a virtually inaccesible part of your brain that requires alsorts if things to erase it
its not like he's dancing aroud the room singing the F***ty F**k song..!

It is or he would swear in front of his customers & i'm sure complaints would be made.

Boots888

cheeswright wrote: »

ok - this is my last post on this.....
swearing is not a consious act
it is not like smoking that requires you to go out and buy cigarettes
or alcoholism...or..........it is ingrained in a virtually inaccesible part of your brain that requires alsorts if things to erase it
its not like he's dancing aroud the room singing the F***ty F**k song..!

You are wrong, it's not like a tic or an itch to be scratched, its not like smoking or alcoholism.

It may become a habit but its not something that cannot be knowingly stopped thought it is harder when less inhibited by either drink or drugs. It certainly comes from external influences but one has a choice, unlike an addiction, to nip it in the bud.

It's about being responsible for your own actions and words and respecting others and reading thier responses - most people tolerate a bit of bad language now and again, but otherwise abhor it.

pimento

ClareEmily wrote: »

...However he just thinks it is funny, in response if i mention it he tells me to "shut my head" or to "F off", and worse, which is horrible.

He is a lovely hubby and dad....


Any suggestions?

He's a lovely dad?

No, he really isn't if his response to you asking him not to do it is to tell you to "shut your head".

My suggestion? Tell him he changes or you're off.

paddy's_mum

None of this bickering helps the Op who, clearly, has a genuine problem.

OP, you may not like it but I refer you back to my earlier response.

I wish you well.

coolcait

Well, OP, although I understand why you dislike your husband's swearing, I hope you have found some comfort from the good advice you received earlier in the thread.

And even more comfort from the that fact that your OH's behaviour might not be as bad as Boots888 (aka Gracey) and GracieP's bickering!!

Money_maker

I had an acquaintance who would swear freely in conversation. Don't think she even realised she was doing it half the time. Her kids grew up knowing some choice swear words which they had no idea were 'bad' words.

The neighbours stopped their children playing with her kids.

School was most displeased with the swearing.

How about suggesting that if your OH doesn't stop, your child could become a bit of an outcast amongst other kids? That any normal person upon hearing a small child swear would be shocked before coming to conclusions about the sort of family that breeds offspring like that.

anguk

Okay. My husband does swear at times (not as much as the OP's husband), mainly the f-word, he has never sworn at me it's just when he's talking the odd swear word will slip out. He's worse when watching football, I'll hear him shouting at the telly.

He often genuinely doesn't realise he's doing it until I tell him and he apologises straight away. He doesn't swear outside the house either, I think he just does it when he feels comfortable and at ease, the words slip out. I really don't know why he swears, I've never heard his parents swear, I can only think it's something to do with spending years working in a male environment, they all swore.

My kids have never repeated the words because I always told them Daddy was naughty for saying them, they're now adults and don't swear so just because the Dad swears it doesn't mean the kids will. And the swearing wasn't a sign my husband was having a mental breakdown either. :huh:

red_devil

ClareEmily wrote: »

My hubby (42) has always had a gutter mouth but lately it seems to have got worse and he will use the "F" word with ing on the end and even the "C" word nearly every time he opens his mouth.

We have a near 19 mouth old so obviously don't want him to copy this. Also I find it embarrassing in front of certain people like my mum.

I have tried ignoring it, have pointed out that we don't want our son to start swearing, got angry about it.

However he just thinks it is funny, in response if i mention it he tells me to "shut my head" or to "F off", and worse, which is horrible.

He is a lovely hubby and dad but his gutter mouth has got to stop.

His dad instead of saying the "F" word says "bloody" when he can't remember what he is trying to talk about, so on a recent journey to a family party, I had to put up with "F-ing and bloody" all the way there.

Any suggestions?

sounds very mature.

Gloomendoom

ClareEmily wrote: »

Any suggestions?

I have heard my dad say f**k only once.

OP you could try what my dad did to my sister when she said a naughty word. He washed her mouth out with soap.

It worked. She only did it once.

lucyhope

I work with taxi drivers and their language is appalling! I once had a virtual swear box in the office and 4 drivers managed to clock up £560 in a 6 hour shift! I really don't think they realise they're doing it and it does intrude on their lives. Most of our drivers have school contracts and NEVER swear in front of the children or passengers.
I don't know what to suggest though.