Swearing problem

ClareEmily

My hubby (42) has always had a gutter mouth but lately it seems to have got worse and he will use the "F" word with ing on the end and even the "C" word nearly every time he opens his mouth.

We have a near 19 mouth old so obviously don't want him to copy this. Also I find it embarrassing in front of certain people like my mum.

I have tried ignoring it, have pointed out that we don't want our son to start swearing, got angry about it.

However he just thinks it is funny, in response if i mention it he tells me to "shut my head" or to "F off", and worse, which is horrible.

He is a lovely hubby and dad but his gutter mouth has got to stop.

His dad instead of saying the "F" word says "bloody" when he can't remember what he is trying to talk about, so on a recent journey to a family party, I had to put up with "F-ing and bloody" all the way there.

Any suggestions?

Penny-Pincher!!

IMO hes not a lovely hubby or dad if he uses vulgar language like that in nearly every sentence! I honestly can't see him changing when he's aged 42 and thinks it funny.

ClareEmily

don't think he actually thinks he does it so often, become a horrid habit.

Just_Plain_Jane

Make a promise to yourself that in future when (not if) nursery/school teachers want to talk to you about your son's swearing, you will make your husband face them to explain.

nickj_2

why don't you record his "conversations" and then play them back to him ,

ClareEmily

BTW he is a lovely hubby in all other areas, currently working really long hours to support us all, and helps out with child care when he is here etc etc, so not hubby bashing here at all

chris_n_tj

ClareEmily wrote: »

don't think he actually thinks he does it so often, become a horrid habit.

Try recording him without him knowing, then play it back. That jsust might make him sit up and realise just how much he is using it. x

Lady_S

Is swearing really that big a deal if he is ace in every other way?

Seanymph

does he swear in front of his mum? Or his boss?

Is it optional for him is what I'm getting at, or habit?

Penny-Pincher!!

ClareEmily wrote: »

don't think he actually thinks he does it so often, become a horrid habit.

Im really trying to think of a way to offer help, but other than tell him how offensive that kind of language is to people, I can't think of anything. Would he not change for the sake of his child? Obviously a child copies how we speak and act in growing and learning.

This kind of language from a child could get him suspended or kicked out of school when they start. He needs to set an example.

I was always told when growing up, that swearing is lack of intelligence as you can't find a more articulate word to use.

May I ask what he does for a living with a foul mouth as Im surprised that others haven't mentioned being offended?

Boots888

ClareEmily wrote: »

don't think he actually thinks he does it so often, become a horrid habit.

Swearing like that doesn't just become a habit.

You've made your point and he's doing it to wind you up.

It's vile language, especially around your little one, so I'd give him one more chance to nip it in the bud.

He's 42, doesn't have torrets sydrome, you've make it clear its unacceptable so if he doesn't stop it right here, right now, he's free to go live in the gutter along with other foul mouthed morons.