Swearing problem

ClareEmily

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

Its a tricky one and don't envy you at all.

You know him best, what do you think may help?

Have no idea, but as others has suggested will try taping him, or have a chat when in a less sweary mood.

Boots888

I still can't understand why anyone would be attracted to such a fowl mouthed person in the first place.

This is not just your own personnal dilemma, this is antisocial behaviour and yet another fowl mouthed youth the rest of us are going to have to contend with over the years to come.

What on earth made you want to mate with such a person???

Survival of the fittest??? Oh, I don't think so.

ClareEmily

janninew wrote: »

He doesn't sound like he has much respect for you to be honest. You've said its offensive and not good for your child to hear, yet he still does it? Swearing isn't essential and coming from a grown man's mouth sounds quite childish. I work in a secondary school and all the kids think they sound so grown up saying the f word in every sentence!

As for telling you to shut your head or f off - these are not the words and actions of a man who cares much for his wife. I simply can't imagine my husband telling me to f off for any reason.

Sorry to be harsh. Not sure what else you can do, either put up with or tell him straight to stop swearing (at least around your child and directed at you!)

I do agree with you, when he calls me names (but he thinks he is joking), it makes me feel completely rubbish. He has even told me to "shut my head" in front of my mum, now humiliating is that.

Have told him over and over to stop doing it. One of my girlfriends was horrified when he did it in front of her, and she told him so and he stopped for a while. But we don't see them very often, and his best friend has a even worse gutter mouth.

Boots888

ClareEmily wrote: »

No it has never been this bad, only got worse lately, he seems to be constantly annoyed with himself and thinks the world and its dog is against him.

But will seriously swear about the silliest, minor things.

Been with him since 1999, so yes attracted for some time.

i'm wondering then if he's suffering from stress, maybe depression. I'd try talk to him.

It takes a long time to become depressed, one can try be tolerant only so much.

It takes a long time should he reach that stage to be depressed, this would become more apparent to you as other aspects of his personality will also change. (Left too late he could give up work etc) too much to go into here, just want you as his partner, friend and mother of his child to be aware.

also, I can take a long, long time to recover from a depressive illness.

There's my thoughts, it's easier to be angry than hurt so bare that in mind

Laura721

Sorry but how is he a lovely hubby if he tells you to "shut your head" or to "F off", and worse?

Who uses "shut your head" anyway?!

ClareEmily

Boots888 wrote: »

I still can't understand why anyone would be attracted to such a fowl mouthed person in the first place.

This is not just your own personnal dilemma, this is antisocial behaviour and yet another fowl mouthed youth the rest of us are going to have to contend with over the years to come.

What on earth made you want to mate with such a person???

Survival of the fittest??? Oh, I don't think so.

OMG, he has a swearing problem he isn't a murderer or wife beater.

He is hardworking, caring, funny etc etc

We have a much wanted child after 6 years of trying. He will of course be brought up with good manners.

He is stressed as at the moment he has to be the sole provider so his swearing has got worse.

Blimey only asking for suggestions.

Anyone would think I have mated with an ape!!

ClareEmily

Laura721 wrote: »

Sorry but how is he a lovely hubby if he tells you to "shut your head" or to "F off", and worse?

Who uses "shut your head" anyway?!

Well he doesn't tell me all the time to F off, mostly calls me hunny.

I do hate the "shut your head" think it is really horrible, don't know anyone else who says this that is over the age of 10.

tescobabe69

Get a large clear jar, every time he uses a word you dont like, stand up and drop 10 p in it (you might need a bit of change).
Eventually he will ask "what the f**k are you doing?"
Then say its a swear jar, every time you swear Im going to put 10p in.

shop-to-drop

I think you should tell him how you feel. Tell him that you want him to stop swearing around you and your child and that if carries on it will show you how little he respects you. You know he can control it as he does when speaking to his customers. Tell him how important it is to you.

Boots888

ClareEmily wrote: »

OMG, he has a swearing problem he isn't a murderer or wife beater.

He is hardworking, caring, funny etc etc

We have a much wanted child after 6 years of trying. He will of course be brought up with good manners.

He is stressed as at the moment he has to be the sole provider so his swearing has got worse.

Blimey only asking for suggestions.

Anyone would think I have mated with an ape!!

Oi! Oi! Oi! Calm down.

I'm trying to help you realise he might be suffering a mental breakdown. That does NOT suggest he's going to go out killing anyone. It wouldn't be unusual for you to be the last to recognise what's going on, depression doesn't always manifest itself in someone falling down in tears all the time.

Just trying to give an outside opinion and give you some foresight as I've some knowledge of this with hindsight.

Other than that, yes, you've hooked your sail to a really bad ship and will most probably end up sinking, but you knew that 6 years ago.:o