Swearing problem

ClareEmily

Lady_S wrote: »

Is swearing really that big a deal if he is ace in every other way?

It is becoming so as my son is beginning to talk and I don't think there is any excuse for your toddler to be using the "F" word cringe

ClareEmily

Seanymph wrote: »

does he swear in front of his mum? Or his boss?

Is it optional for him is what I'm getting at, or habit?

He does swear in front of this mum, he is a self employed taxi driver and as far as I am aware he doesn't swear in front of his customers.

ClareEmily

Penny-Pincher!! wrote: »

Im really trying to think of a way to offer help, but other than tell him how offensive that kind of language is to people, I can't think of anything. Would he not change for the sake of his child? Obviously a child copies how we speak and act in growing and learning.

This kind of language from a child could get him suspended or kicked out of school when they start. He needs to set an example.

I was always told when growing up, that swearing is lack of intelligence as you can't find a more articulate word to use.
Yes I was also told this when I was growing up, and my parents never ever swore in front of me

May I ask what he does for a living with a foul mouth as Im surprised that others haven't mentioned being offended?

He is a taxi driver and I am almost certain he would not swear in front of customers, so he can stop if he wants to arghhh

Penny-Pincher!!

Its a tricky one and don't envy you at all.

You know him best, what do you think may help?

Boots888

Are you only concerned now you've had a child??

You've been attracted to him for some time, obviously as you've made a family with him??

janninew

He doesn't sound like he has much respect for you to be honest. You've said its offensive and not good for your child to hear, yet he still does it? Swearing isn't essential and coming from a grown man's mouth sounds quite childish. I work in a secondary school and all the kids think they sound so grown up saying the f word in every sentence!

As for telling you to shut your head or f off - these are not the words and actions of a man who cares much for his wife. I simply can't imagine my husband telling me to f off for any reason.

Sorry to be harsh. Not sure what else you can do, either put up with or tell him straight to stop swearing (at least around your child and directed at you!)

Taadaa

Can you not speak to his mum and ask her of she would politely interject the next time he swears? He may think it's just you nagging.

It's awful that he swears at you and thinks it's funny. It doesn't sound like he is taking his parental responsibilities seriously to me. It's about more than putting food on the table. He sounds like an immature !!!.

mumto2loves

I don't swear (well maybe a bloody very occasionally;)) nor do either of my parents, but one side of my extended family do swear all the time f this f that even the c word sometimes. Its just natural to them to swear every other word. they've always been like it. when I was growing up I can rememeber being gobsmacked that they spoke like that but I don't think I ever copied them. I knew it was a naughty word and wasn't to say it.

What does your mum say when he swears in front of her? If it was my mum and husband I think she'd tell him to pack it in herself, i think he'd listen to her.

Penny-Pincher!!

janninew wrote: »

I simply can't imagine my husband telling me to f off for any reason.

Thinking about it, husband and I have been married nearly 20 years and he's never sworn at me before....well not to my face anyway:D

ClareEmily

Boots888 wrote: »

Are you only concerned now you've had a child??

You've been attracted to him for some time, obviously as you've made a family with him??

No it has never been this bad, only got worse lately, he seems to be constantly annoyed with himself and thinks the world and its dog is against him.

But will seriously swear about the silliest, minor things.

Been with him since 1999, so yes attracted for some time.