leaving children for 6 months

DuckEggGingham

GracieP wrote: »

We'll never know if that's true or not will we, seeing as how that's not what you did in the first place?:)


I don't know, it's 2012, I'd have figured that what is and isn't rude to do online would be common knowledge by now.:)

Look, I can click on smilies too.:):):)

Lol what may not be true? My experiences or that I took the time to read the thread and my answer would still of been the same?! Which was based on the first post?

Ok, I admit...my head is hurting now lmao! You got me! You are the most perfect "netiquette" slayer of MSE.

Please accept my sincere apologies. I will be sure never to [STRIKE]post I have not read the thread yet[/STRIKE] do it again.

GracieP

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Well yes, I realise that it's currently quite fashionable for psychologists to bash boarding schools and single parent households but I can't imagine that many true scientific, controlled studies have been done. Though if you have any to link to I'd be more than happy to read them.

Ah now see here is where I realise there is no point in talking to you. You don't like the evidence and so will dismiss it based on your own bias.

The thing is if you are going to do something that there is evidence showing can be problematic and you just dismiss that evidence you increase the chances of creating problems. When you acknowledge that following a particular course of action is likely to create problems and accept that fact, you are then in a position to do what you can to mitigate your odds of causing problems. It's like if you accept driving can be dangerous so you wear you seatbelt, buy a car with airbags and drive safely and soberly the odds of you suffering a serious injury are dramatically decreased. But if you think driving is nothing but a brilliant lark and do it any old way you feel like, never bothering with safety features, the odds of you having problems are greater.

If the OP had come on and said, 'right I know this might cause issues for my children, but long-term I believe it's the best course for our family, what can I do to make it work in the best way possible?' it would be a completely different thread. Instead her best defence has been the completely untrue claim that it's fine when men do it, so why shouldn't she. And when numerous posters have said they don't think it's fine that men do it, her best response is that she has never heard of it implying that anyone who has said otherwise is just a liar. Something that you yourself are guilty of, because despite the fact that numerous posters have said they see a man going off to work for 6 months as just as bad a woman doing so, you have also claimed, after that, that nobody would have a problem with a man doing it. So actual evidence of people saying 'I have a problem with X' not suiting your outlook of nobody having a problem with X, so you ignore it.

SophieCat

Also, just reading your 'Where do I stand?' thread made 6 months ago, you say:

We have 2 children and I am the main carer.

Do you think your husband & children will be able to cope for 6 months without you? Not just with day-to-day practicalities, but emotionally. 6 weeks would be a different thing, but this is 6 months.

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thatgirlsam

DuckEggGingham wrote: »

Lol what may not be true? My experiences or that I took the time to read the thread and my answer would still of been the same?! Which was based on the first post?

Ok, I admit...my head is hurting now lmao! You got me! You are the most perfect "netiquette" slayer of MSE.

Please accept my sincere apologies. I will be sure never to [STRIKE]post I have not read the thread yet[/STRIKE] do it again.

I am amazed at how seriously people take posting on forums these days :rotfl:

Kimberley82

SophieCat wrote: »

Also, just reading your 'Where do I stand?' thread made 6 months ago, you say:

We have 2 children and I am the main carer.

Do you think your husband & children will be able to cope for 6 months without you? Not just with day-to-day practicalities, but emotionally. 6 weeks would be a different thing, but this is 6 months.

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I am no longer the main carer, we also have a large surport net work,

Person_one

OP, sorry to be picky, but its spelled career, not carea. I don't normally like being a spelling nazi but if you're going to have one you'll need to know how to spell it!

Kimberley82

Person_one wrote: »

OP, sorry to be picky, but its spelled career, not carea. I don't normally like being a spelling nazi but if you're going to have one you'll need to know how to spell it!

I have learning disabilites and have been posting quickly and not spell checking, I do have one thank you and so far it has never been an issue.

thatgirlsam

Person_one wrote: »

OP, sorry to be picky, but its spelled career, not carea. I don't normally like being a spelling nazi but if you're going to have one you'll need to know how to spell it!

I would imagine thats a typo

Kimberley can usually string a coherent sentance together :cool:

GracieP

aliasojo wrote: »

I suggest you take out a full page ad to inform everyone then because this site has zillions of posts which start 'I haven't read the whole thread......'

I think 'netiquette' means different things to different people.

Not reading the whole thread wouldn't flash up on my radar for example whereas writing in capitals might. As might telling people what to do before they reply. :D <gentle banter not a serious dig.

:DYeah I know, I'm actually just messing, I don't really take words like netiquette seriously. It's just my that my hyperemesis has gone away and I'm feeling stupidly giddy. I guess I should actually have made better use of the smilies myself. (Where's a facepalm smilie when you need one?)


Edit: Apologies DuckEggGingham, you didn't deserve to end up the butt of my silly mood. I'll go back to tormenting my husband.

aliasojo

Person_one wrote: »

OP, sorry to be picky, but its spelled career, not carea. I don't normally like being a spelling nazi but if you're going to have one you'll need to know how to spell it!

Kimberley82 wrote: »

I am no longer the main carer, we also have a large surport net work,

I'm confused.

'Carer' as in main care giver? Not career.

Am I looking at the wrong thing?