leaving children for 6 months

skylight

Too many questions about how the family is set up, how well they cope normally, how much money, what will it lead to etc.

If I was satisfied with the answers then I would say yes.

robpw2

crusty_toenail wrote: »

As a mother of young children of similar ages I agree that it would be most unhealthy.

Sadly the family unit is breaking down around us because of crazy feminists who lied to us women telling us we could have it all - but the work/home balance (esp with young children) is a nightmare.

My female friends, now in their thirties with young children would love to be stay at home mums.

I'm sorry girls but we were sold a lie, and now the family unit has broken down and we have a massive problem!

ooh i am a feminist does that make me crazy .... possibly

thatgirlsam

crusty_toenail wrote: »

As a mother of young children of similar ages I agree that it would be most unhealthy.

Sadly the family unit is breaking down around us because of crazy feminists who lied to us women telling us we could have it all - but the work/home balance (esp with young children) is a nightmare.

My female friends, now in their thirties with young children would love to be stay at home mums.

I'm sorry girls but we were sold a lie, and now the family unit has broken down and we have a massive problem!

What a load of b0ll0x!!

Maybe your friends don't have careers they enjoy?

Hovel_lady

quantumleap wrote: »

I can only speak for myself but I would giving the same opinion whether the OP was male or female. I don't think it would be healthy for the family unit for either parent to just vanish for 6 months.

Thousands of service personnel are routinely posted to places like Afghanistan and Iraq for months at a time.
Does this mean their families are unhealthly?

sassyblue

crusty_toenail wrote: »

As a mother of young children of similar ages I agree that it would be most unhealthy.

Sadly the family unit is breaking down around us because of crazy feminists who lied to us women telling us we could have it all - but the work/home balance (esp with young children) is a nightmare.

My female friends, now in their thirties with young children would love to be stay at home mums.

I'm sorry girls but we were sold a lie, and now the family unit has broken down and we have a massive problem!

It's not really that simple. Do you think people didn't think about childcare and homelife when they were giving equal rights to women? Course they did, but it's all about BALANCE and what is right for YOU and your family.

Sadly l don't see the amount of women working today a result of feminism it's because it takes two wages to enable you to buy your own home and live a little. :cool:

OP, l haven't read the whole thread but you and hubby seem to have it sorted between you now your children should have their say. For me what my child had to say would be the clincher.

I don't see any harm if they are agreeable to it, lovely things have been invented like telephones, computers, skyping, face time, etc to enable you to easily keep in touch

lostinrates

crusty_toenail wrote: »

As a mother of young children of similar ages I agree that it would be most unhealthy.

Sadly the family unit is breaking down around us because of crazy feminists who lied to us women telling us we could have it all - but the work/home balance (esp with young children) is a nightmare.

My female friends, now in their thirties with young children would love to be stay at home mums.

I'm sorry girls but we were sold a lie, and now the family unit has broken down and we have a massive problem!

But this is not a new thing, boarding schools have been around for a long time, and think of colonialism, children being sent to UK for school while their parents stayed in India for example. The modern spin on this is its not both parents and the children will have a parent there.


I also have to say, i agree with the poster who says you cannot run away from problems and they may well get worse. Had i known about the incidents others have refered to earlier i might have cautioned differently for this family, which is why i think what is right for the family can be so differnt, there is no one rule.

I do worry as much for the familes where parents cannot cope with short breaks away from early teen children. Its not just the children, but the pressure on these children when they are young adults, struggling with independance and being self motivated and self provident emotionally.

quantumleap

Hovel_lady wrote: »

Thousands of service personnel are routinely posted to places like Afghanistan and Iraq for months at a time.
Does this mean their families are unhealthly?

I have a very good friend who has a wife and two children and has just finished a 6 month stint in Afghanistan and both he and his wife would freely admit that it has had a negative effect on the family unit. This happened because he rejoined the army after they married and had children so she found it very difficult dealing with what she perceived as him choosing to leave them. They are doing well now but it was difficult.


I think the majority of those serving and with families probably got married on the understanding that spending time away was a possibility and have no doubt prepared themselves for it.


I think to compare this with taking 6 months away from your family for hairdressing is silly really.

Person_one

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I'm fully of the belief that sheltering children from every little upset results in them not learning coping skills needed for when they are adults and don't have someone sheltering them from the knocks in life.

Mum vanishing for 6 months is not exactly a 'little upset' though, is it? Its the loss of your main carer and anchor in life. Skype at bedtime a few times a week is no substitute.

Also, as adults, plenty of us do still have love and support when times are tough. Most parents don't abandon their children at 18 with no more love available, and most of us have siblings, friends, partners, other relatives.

The world is not generally so cruel a place that an 8 and a 9 year old need to be deprived of their mum for 6 months in order to be tough enough to face it! If it were that bad 90% of us would crumble before 30!


Edit: Just read in a later post that you think boarding schools at 8 are normal and fine, so clearly we're poles apart on this.

Padstow

Is this the company who run salons on most of the lines? If so for 1st contracts it is nine months. Plus I think 3 months training staying at a hostel and the initial expenses are huge.
If this is purely a career move, getting a job with one of the big names who have their own training academy would be far more beneficial to your CV.
A "Sweaty Betty" type set up may be impressed you had worked at sea, the big names wouldn't.
How on Earth did you get a salon management position without having to prove yourself via a first contract?

Person_one

robpw2 wrote: »

you should go for it , if it was a man asking this question people would say go for it

I certainly wouldn't, don't assume everybody is sexist just because lots are!