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How to be more intimate?
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My BF and I have discovered a great way to shortcut the "waiting game".Also as regards to the differing sex drives, i think part of the trouble is that a woman needs to feel loved to want sex and a man needs to have sex to feel loved.
DH and i have discussed this and i have told him that i hate the feeling that he only shows affection when he wants to have sex, his reply was that he's a man, he always wants to have sex and kissing and cuddling turn him on there is nothing he can do to change that and i should be flattered that he fancies me so much.
Not that this means much when i have been dealing with 3 kids all day on 2 hours sleep.
I also hate and he has said so does he the 'waiting game' in bed, me waiting to see if he will try it on, and him waiting to see if he thinks i may want him to try it on!
No wonder so many couples have sex problems!
We talk to each other
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Ha ha ha we actually now after our chat have a question we ask, he asks if he should do something before bed (not saying what:o) and i either reply in the affirmative or negative, and i now find myself asking it more often too.Hovel_lady wrote: »My BF and I have discovered a great way to shortcut the "waiting game".
We talk to each other
It is quite a joky thing and always makes us laugh which takes away the awkwardness.
I find the trouble with him just asking if i want it makes me always say no just as an automatic answer, bonkers i know but true.I don't get nearly enough credit for not being a violent psychopath.0 -
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Think some of the posters on here need seperate beds or seperate houses:rotfl:0
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I have a similar issue but the other way round. I want it but BF doesn't! We've not been intimiate for 7 months now and its driving me mad. Last time we had sex was when we were on holiday and I initiated it everytime and that makes me feel like a bunnyboiler. When I've raised it with him, he says he's tired with working. The last time we did do it, he couldn't finish and that made me feel like he was only doing it to please me. I've considered having an affair just for the sex but don't want to do that. I've tried most things and just feel we are no longer compatible anymore and its now come to the end of the line.
OP, I hope you get things sorted.0 -
One issue no-one else has mentioned is what you do when you have older kids/teenagers in the house. I find it really off-putting when I know our teenage son is awake in the room next door - although it doesnt bother OH at all! We also have a younger child who is up early on a morning so there never seems to be a time when they are both asleep.
Oh for the days when they were little and you could put them to bed at 7pm and have the house to yourself!0
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