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How much child support?
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timberflake wrote: »She could have kept her knickers on just as easily. But it's always the blokes fault isn't it.
He was married, got her pregnant & then returned to his wife.
Now he moans about his daughter's lifestyle.
What a charmer he is.Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
timberflake wrote: »She also puts her in nursery 5 days a week which the father pays for when she doesn't even work, but I guess thats fine too.
I just cant see why people on this thread think its ok for her to hold him to ransom. He pays more than he should, he's written off hundreds of £ he's lent to her, he tries to accomodate her as best he can but she always wants more.
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No-one thinks it is OK to hold him to ransom.
We have now established that he pays more than he is required to. No-one suggest that he pays more.
However, your comments about the mother are and were judgemental. People take exception to that.
And by the way, if the nursery fees are included in the 17% calculation, then the better option would be to pay the money to the mother and let her pay the nursery fees, or not, as she wishes.
yes, she is going to ask for more and she will ask whenever she wants something.
He just needs to pay what he owes into an account and let her decide how to budget. Once she understands that she gets her CSA (or equivalent) and that is that, she will stop asking for more. By paying for things he sets himself up for requests for more money.
And really, what business of yours or his is how she spends her money?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
timberflake wrote: »I totally agree, father's contribution should pay 50% of gas, electric, water etc.
However, it shouldn't go to making up the difference on her housing benefit imo. Her rent is £750 a month which was covered entirely by housing benefit. This has now been reduced. She currently lives in a 3 bed new build house, so surely if she can't cover the difference between the HB and rent she should look at moving and not expect the father to pay the difference as she doesn't NEED a 3 bed new build house.
She's surely having a laugh.
She will have to move to a more affordable property.I'm not that way reclined
Jewelry? Seriously? Sheldon you are the most shallow, self-centered person I have ever met. Do you really think that another transparently-manipu... OH, IT'S A TIARA! A tiara; I have a tiara! Put it on me! Put it on me! Put it on me! Put it on me! Put it on me! Put it on me! Put it on me!0 -
He was married, got her pregnant & then returned to his wife.
Now he moans about his daughter's lifestyle.
What a charmer he is.
Wrong. Shegot pregnant, decided to move back to her family 200 miles away without any consideration for the father. After she left he & his wife reconciled.0 -
I'm with OP on this one. If the father pays for nursery 5 days a week in addition to maintenance, why isn't the mother working and supporting her daughter like the father is? It seems she is more than happy to benefit from luxurious housing supported by tax payers and the father, not so keen on the notion of supporting herself.
OP, why is he paying for childcare if she doesn't work? I don't get this!0 -
I'm with OP on this one. If the father pays for nursery 5 days a week in addition to maintenance, why isn't the mother working and supporting her daughter like the father is? It seems she is more than happy to benefit from luxurious housing supported by tax payers and the father, not so keen on the notion of supporting herself.
OP, why is he paying for childcare if she doesn't work? I don't get this!
It was originally agreed that she would go to nursery & the mother would get a job but she just never bothered.
My friend continues to pay for the nursery because the mother claims its too stressful having the child every day.0 -
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timberflake wrote: »It was originally agreed that she would go to nursery & the mother would get a job but she just never bothered.
My friend continues to pay for the nursery because the mother claims its too stressful having the child every day.
Firstly, the child should be receiving 3 free nursery sessions anyway. Is she?
Secondly, he needs to stop paying the nursery fees.
Pay the 15% and that is that.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
OP apologies if I missed it but does he have any children with his wife?0
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