How much child support?

shegirl

timberflake wrote: »

There's no resentment, but she doesn't contribute anything of her own towards bringing up her child, its all given to her. And when the goverment take some off her she immediately turns to the father expecting him to make up the shortfall.

Thanks for everyones input, at least he can now tell her that no further funds with be forthcoming as she already gets more than the CSA would take.

Yes she does -she provides a home for her,she cooks for her,clothes her,puts her to bed,cleans her,teaches her,gives her time to her..and the long list goes on!That's all a contribution of things she has-the most important provisions.I get sick of hearing 'the pwc doesn't do anything why should I have to pay' well they do,they do one hell of a lot,not working for a while doesn't mean they don't do anything -they do one hell of a lot more and sacrafice one hell of a lot more than someone who just pays a bit of money every month and in some cases spends a bit of time with their child.

Ok,so she isn't working,her child is under 5,she doesn't have to yet.Her choice and one that is given to her.Many mothers don't want to work with a child under that age and that's fine.Nothing wrong with asking for help from the father either -takes two to make a baby

Jacks_xxx

timberflake wrote: »

The main issue seems to be that my friends ex seems to forget that the money he provides is "Child Support" and not "Ex Support".

She seems to think that he should pay the difference between her rent and housing benefit, which he might be willing to do if she wasn't living in a 3 bed new build costing £750 pcm. She could just as easily find a nice 2 bed house for £50-£100 less a month.

She also thinks it's his responsibility to feed her as well as the child.

Where do you draw the line, if the housing benefit was cut by £200, would people still expect the father to pay £200 extra a month so they wouldn't have to move.

All he wants to do is make sure he pays the correct amount to ensure his daughter is looked after. This includes paying 50% of utilities, food, clothing, childcare, etc, but not making sure she's fed and kept in the lifetyle to which she has become acustom.

Sure. Absolutely. None of us would want our children to live any better lives than absolutely necessary.

timberflake wrote: »

There's no resentment, but she doesn't contribute anything of her own towards bringing up her child,

Seriously? :eek:

CH27

timberflake wrote: »

There's no resentment, but she doesn't contribute anything of her own towards bringing up her child, its all given to her. And when the goverment take some off her she immediately turns to the father expecting him to make up the shortfall.

Thanks for everyones input, at least he can now tell her that no further funds with be forthcoming as she already gets more than the CSA would take.

She loves her, she clothes her, she feeds, her, she nurses her, she educates her, she transports her, she dries her tears & hugs her.

Your bitterness is very unpleasant.

eta Shegirl said it quicker:D

lilymay1

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Ho hum, yet another newbie getting on their high-horse about nothing that concerns them. At least I have an opinion about the subject at hand. In case you hadn't noticed we were invited to comment. And OF COURSE I don't know the specifics of the situation, none of us do. From the description of what's been going on this man has left the woman to raise his child on her own but sounds like he wants to control what goes on in someone else's household and the purse-strings as well. Fortunately real life doesn't work like that. The woman in question should go through the CSA and be done with it if she thinks she will get more. I suspect she may get a whole lot less.

But thank you for your most valuable contribution nonetheless.

I may be a newbie to MSE forums, but I am not a newbie to life and know nastiness when I see it. Besides, being new doesn't mean I am any less qualified to comment on 'matters that don't concern me'.

You come across as quite an unpleasant individual so I shall just ignore you and our paths won't cross again.

timberflake

She also puts her in nursery 5 days a week which the father pays for when she doesn't even work, but I guess thats fine too.

I just cant see why people on this thread think its ok for her to hold him to ransom. He pays more than he should, he's written off hundreds of £ he's lent to her, he tries to accomodate her as best he can but she always wants more.

CH27

timberflake wrote: »

She also puts her in nursery 5 days a week which the father pays for when she doesn't even work, but I guess thats fine too.

I just cant see why people on this thread think its ok for her to hold him to ransom. He pays more than he should, he's written off hundreds of £ he's lent to her, he tries to accomodate her as best he can but she always wants more.

Well if he had kept it in his pants he wouldn't be paying anything would he?

timberflake

CH27 wrote: »

Well if he had kept it in his pants he wouldn't be paying anything would he?

She could have kept her knickers on just as easily. But it's always the blokes fault isn't it.

shegirl

timberflake wrote: »

She also puts her in nursery 5 days a week which the father pays for when she doesn't even work, but I guess thats fine too.

I just cant see why people on this thread think its ok for her to hold him to ransom. He pays more than he should, he's written off hundreds of £ he's lent to her, he tries to accomodate her as best he can but she always wants more.

The father pays for nursery does he?Is that out of the maintenance or seperate?

How old is she?She's probably having sessions like a lot of preschoolers do.

shegirl

timberflake wrote: »

She could have kept her knickers on just as easily. But it's always the blokes fault isn't it.

To be fair,he's the one who is married,got this woman up the duff then went back to his wife...

timberflake

shegirl wrote: »

The father pays for nursery does he?Is that out of the maintenance or seperate?

How old is she?She's probably having sessions like a lot of preschoolers do.

in addition to maintenance. The child is 4 years old in August.