a fathers responcibilty to his kids

Seanymph

Perhaps his relocation is not in the best interests of his child.

As you have no other children why can you and he not move back so he can be nearer his child and offer more frequent contact and support?

Seanymph

*crossposted with thatgirlsam - great minds! *

killiebabe

also the LETTER states that they now expect my partner to travel 6 hour drive there to collect his child and 6 hour drive bk to scotland... they will NOT be meeting us half way as previously arranged.. afterall it was my partners fault for moving so far away. they want us to take the child more than what we do yet there not prepared to come n go with travel arrangements.. any suggestions here??????

thatgirlsam

Seanymph wrote: »

*crossposted with thatgirlsam - great minds! *

Makes sense to me!

To be fair to the Grandparents they are probably thinking - you upped and left to be *** miles away and your son and his mother need YOU to be here, not us!!

thatgirlsam

killiebabe wrote: »

also the LETTER states that they now expect my partner to travel 6 hour drive there to collect his child and 6 hour drive bk to scotland... they will NOT be meeting us half way as previously arranged.. afterall it was my partners fault for moving so far away. they want us to take the child more than what we do yet there not prepared to come n go with travel arrangements.. any suggestions here??????

You are coming across as very selfish

Yes, it was his choice to move so far away - ne needs to do the travelling, its his son!!

Seanymph

I agree - why should they travel?

killiebabe

at this moment in time we cant move south to be nearer the child due to job committments and having mortgage on our house it would mean giving up our jobs .. to become unemployed? with the current state of the british economy ,,, its not really an ideal thought

Seanymph

presumably though he DID live near his child - and had a job?

When you have children nothing is usually ideal, but you do what you have to in order to provide for you child. His child obviously needs more stability and support because his mother has been affected by her illness.

It shouldn't matter whether or not it inconveniences him, he shouldn't have moved away, and now this has become apparent he should be looking at moving back.

thatgirlsam

killiebabe wrote: »

at this moment in time we cant move south to be nearer the child due to job committments and having mortgage on our house it would mean giving up our jobs .. to become unemployed? with the current state of the british economy ,,, its not really an ideal thought

I understand that but it wasn't really ideal for your partner to move so far away from his son?

Honestly, I don't find it acceptable when his son's mother is disabled and needs support - that is just my opinion

The Grandparents are in their 60's and obviously struggling and so they are annoyed with your partner for moving so far away, fair enough if you ask me

killiebabe

lots of familys break up with children involved ... n move away,,, some further than others.. wer not being selfish we jus would like a bit of give n take from both party involved i.e the parents of the child... we feel we hit a brick wall everytime we contact his ex,, she is not willing to speak to my partner about arrangements for their son ... she leaves it with her mum to speak to us,, whom does NOT have gaurdianship/parental responcibility of his child.