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Practically asked to give a job to another Managers family member
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Be careful how you progress with this.
Follow the trail of evidence, he is subordinate to your position, yet he still lays the request at your door and implies god knows what if you don't comply. He has already been successful with previous requests of a similar nature.
What can he bring to bear if he decides to take you on?
Your right I will have to tread carefully here.
1. I have only ever seen him around 6 times in all the years I worked here.
2. I don't know whom his connections are and why he think's I will do as I'm told.
All I know is that I don't do blackmail or intimidation so he better watch out next week, he has messed with the wrong person this time.It's better to regret something I did do than to regret something that I didn’t. :EasterBun0 -
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Why did you interview her? Does the company not have a recruitment policy? If you had over 200 applicants surely there was an application period and closing date? If so, did you agreeing to inerview the family member of another manager contavene this process? What he has done is wrong but I wonder if you haven't put yourself in a poor position by agreeing to intervuew her after the closing date. Just an observation and may be easily explainable but it deosn't seem very fair that someone related to a manager circumvented a process (if there is one)0
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Why did you interview her? Does the company not have a recruitment policy? If you had over 200 applicants surely there was an application period and closing date? If so, did you agreeing to inerview the family member of another manager contavene this process? What he has done is wrong but I wonder if you haven't put yourself in a poor position by agreeing to intervuew her after the closing date. Just an observation and may be easily explainable but it deosn't seem very fair that someone related to a manager circumvented a process (if there is one)
Yes the company does have a recruitment policy but I can use my discretion within reason to interview people whom have applied after the closing date.It's better to regret something I did do than to regret something that I didn’t. :EasterBun0 -
I agree that you need to play this carefully, but this other person has put himself in a very difficult situation.
1. He lied to you about the relative's experience in order to get you to waive your discretion about applicants after the closing date
2. He says that he has promised his relative that he will ensure she will get the job - something completely outside his control.
3. He has somehow secured details of your personal email address - potentially a breach of the DPA for both him and anyone else who assisted him (the family member).
4. He has made implied threats to you if you do not do as he requires.
5. He has used work equipment to do that.
In addition to the above, there are serious reputational issues for the organisation if it got about that only nepotism was a guaranteed way of getting a job - instead of merit. And, as others have said, your own team's performance and your personal reputation are at stake here too.
Make sure that you have the email stored on both your home PC and, if you are sure it's secure / confidential, forward it to your work PC so that you have evidence on Monday.0 -
Oooh, I would pay good money to see the look on his face when he finds out 'he has been defied'
Go for it OP, damned major respect for you. It borders on bullying and he really doesnt deserve to have a job.make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
and we will never, ever return.0 -
DVardysShadow wrote: »In any organisation I have ever worked in, improper influence on any procurement process for goods and services is a gross misconduct and any personal interest would need to be declared. Quite senior people go down sometimes for receiving the keys to cars which appear on their drives.
This is no different, HR is merely a specialist contract procurement department. I would take this to the senior HR person. Email, carpark, the lot.
I personally don't think there was anything to wrong in asking for the OP to interview the person....its just the undue influence/threats that went with it.The Googlewhacker referance is to Dave Gorman and not to my opinion of the search engine!
If I give you advice it is only a view and always always take professional advice before acting!!!
4 people on the ignore list....Bliss!0 -
I have been interviewing people over the past couple of days for a position in my I.T department.
I had over 200 responces and interviewed 10.
3 people stood out so I asked them back for 2nd Interview's and test.
Today one of the managers that works downstairs asked me if I could interview his family member as she had just lost her job. I agreed and I interviewed her this afternoon and she didn't meet the criteria I was looking for.
As I was leaving work he stopped me in the car park and asked how she had got on, I just said I will inform HR on Monday and they will confirm with her my decision.
Then he pipes up and says he hopes I give her the job because he told her he would sort it.
Now he has send an email on my private home email address implying that if I don't give her the job he could make things become difficult for me.
Now I'm not being funny but what makes him think just because he is asking me to give her the job I will? Also what makes him think I will not forward the email to his Manager and HR?
I believe in doing things fair and this is not and I refuse to be pressured into it.
If the application process was "fair" then you would never have interviewed another Managers family member on his request. That is not "fair" on other applicants! The closing date has passed, so why should his family member get an interview after the closing date and at such short notice? At the end of the day it was your choice to interview this Managers family member at his suggestion and your 'discretion'.
Any employers I've worked for (mostly public sector employers) have a very strict selection process and applicants are short listed by at 3 panel members and then interviewed by 3 different panel members to those that did the shortlisting.
However I do not agree with his tactics, especially emailing you on your personal email address, nor the threats he has made to you.
It depends on the selection process of your particular company but I personally do not think it was fair to interview his family member in the first place especially when they had not applied for the job in the first instance.
I do think telling HR the full story of how he approached you as well as the threats he sent via email and explaining your decision to interview after the closing date will be the best way forward - two wrongs never make a right no matter what your position is. I hope it gets sorted out though. It can't be a nice position to be in.Never look down on anyone unless you are bending to help them up.....0 -
I was also informed today that the incorrect closing date was advertised as 23.03.12 and not 16.03.12 so that means she applied in time.
I requested a closing date of 16.03.12 and have the paperwork to prove this so it looks like someone amended it.It's better to regret something I did do than to regret something that I didn’t. :EasterBun0
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