Ms, Mrs or Miss?

PoorCharleyBear

I'm happily married but am still mostly Ms MaidenName.
Occasionally I am Mrs MarriedName, and even more occasionally Mrs MaidenName.

Generally I just use my first name, but if I am forced to give a title, I use Ms. It used to feel a bit 'feminist' but now it is just a good option.
Why does anyone care if I am married or not?

Use whatever you feel most comfortable with...there are no hard and fast rules.

Person_one

PoorCharleyBear wrote: »

I'm happily married but am still mostly Ms MaidenName.
Occasionally I am Mrs MarriedName, and even more occasionally Mrs MaidenName.

Generally I just use my first name, but if I am forced to give a title, I use Ms. It used to feel a bit 'feminist' but now it is just a good option.
Why does anyone care if I am married or not?

Use whatever you feel most comfortable with...there are no hard and fast rules.

Why are 'feminist' and 'good option' mutually exclusive? :rotfl:

sweaty_betty

OP I think it's completely down to you on which title you want to use.

I am similar to other posters in that I've been a Ms since I was a teenager as I feel it's no-ones business what my marital status is - I guess I'm also an 80s feminist at heart!

I made it very clear when I got married that I wouldn't be changing my name (to be fair, we included a section on the invitation letter (giving directions to the venue etc) on why NEITHER of us were going to be changing our names). The only people who call me Mrs Husbandname are those who are either trying to sell something or official people (doctors, solicitors, etc) who presume rather than asking (they don't do that more than once...!)

Our child has a double-barreled name - both mine and my husband's. It seemed a bit weird doing that as I'm not over keen on double-barreled names, but was the best solution as it didn't seem right giving just mine/husband's surname.

Personally I would like to see a time where all females are Ms unless they state differently, but I think that's a long way off:)

Four_leaf_clover_2

sarymclary wrote: »

I noticed in some recent mail from family & friends, that they had addressed me as Miss or Ms. On a couple of occasions I've been addressed by my maiden name (I married over 20 years ago).

I think its odd that people refer to you as anything other than Mrs XXXXX (whatever your married surname was). Just because you are widowed does not mean you would revert back to being a Miss or Ms or use your maiden name again. I thought women only did that when they got divorced. Even then its not a given and they dont have to.

My nan was known as Mrs XXX till the day she died and my grandfather had passed away 15 years before her. All her documentation remained in her married name.

I would not dream of calling someone by a different name, to that which I had always known them by, unless they advised me of being called something else.

I am in a bit of a bl**dy minded mood today, its not been the best. I would be tempted to send the mail back with a big 'not known at this adress' written on the envelope when it isn't adressed to the name you use. That would let the sender know that your name has not changed wouldn't it

msb5262

Another '80s feminist here - and daughter of a '60s feminist...I've been Ms since the age of 17 like my mother before me. I just don't get why people regard it as a militant thing to do!
MsB

Jei70

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

Here's my opnion:

Unmarried lady: Miss (Maiden name)
Married lady: Mrs (Married Surname)
Divorced lady: Ms (Maiden name)
Widowed: Mrs (Married name)
Seperated lady: Mrs (Married name)

In my opinion:

Unmarried lady: Ms
Married lady: Ms
Divorced lady: Ms
Widowed: Ms
Seperated lady: Ms

Unmarried gentleman: Mr
Married gentleman: Mr
Divorced gentleman: Mr
Widower: Mr
Separated gentleman: Mr

Simples!

janninew

Jei70 wrote: »

In my opinion:

Unmarried lady: Ms
Married lady: Ms
Divorced lady: Ms
Widowed: Ms
Seperated lady: Ms

Unmarried gentleman: Mr
Married gentleman: Mr
Divorced gentleman: Mr
Widower: Mr
Separated gentleman: Mr

Simples!

In my opinion:

Call yourself whatever you feel comfortable doing, be that Miss, Ms or Mrs!

Caroline73_2

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

I agree so much with this - why should it matter?

I have to address strangers in my job. I always address them by title and surname. It's good manners.

Wilma33

I wish all women would use Ms. My martial status is nobody elses business. I will always be Ms, regardless of surname.

getzls

A lot of good points here. I kept my married name as i didn't want to go back to my maiden name of Miss. Facelikeacowsbum.:D