So irresponsible with money

Birdy12

londonsurrey wrote: »

Although really disgusting, it might be a really good idea to take some pictures, of the wall, of the discoveries, of the towels. I'm sorry about this suggestion.

And put them on the fridge with the date and time of when found?

londonsurrey

Birdy12 wrote: »

And put them on the fridge with the date and time of when found?

*groan* Lol, no.

I was thinking more along the lines of if proof of unreasonable behaviour came up, for a divorce or custody of children.

January20

heartbreak_star wrote: »

It's making me retch a little bit just reading about his habits.

Me too - more than a little bit too...

HBS x

Birdy12 wrote: »

I know it's probably a daunting step to go it alone (with your DD as well, I mean, but it sounds like you've been doing your figures. I really hope you go for it. Sounds like you'll be a lot happier.

One question, you say you'd want to take on another year of tenancy in your current house. Do you think your OH would leave though or put up a fight?

It is a daunting step to go it alone and it is frightening (I know I have done it) but it will be so much better than the hell you are living in.

You say you want to stay in this house, but would it not be better to make a fresh start with you dd in a house where you oh hasn't lived and therefore he won't feel like he has "a claim" on it, and you won't have to make him move. Put your notice in, find another place to live with you dd and then tell him. If you decide to leave him that is.

Honestly, I don't know how you can bear to live in the same house as this individual?

RAS

January20 wrote: »

Put your notice in, find another place to live with you dd and then tell him. If you decide to leave him that is.

If the OP is in a fixed term contract, she does not need to give notice at all. However if she wants the agency to help find somewhere else, she would need to do this.

What she does need to do is get buggins out before the last date of the tenancy. She would be wise to ensure vacant possession which means not letting him muck things up by failing to move out.

bluescissors

This house is horrible and falling to bits. BUT On the plus side it is very cheap compared to other houses and flats around the area and is just round the corner from school. when it comes to high school if I move out of this postcode then DD wont be able to go to the same school as her friends.

I think my most sensible option would be to sign a tenancy for another year...yes it ties me to a yukky house but then i would be free to move when she is at High School. Another plus point for staying is that we have all our junk here and moving costs and hassle of moving would be high. It would be a hell of a lot tidyer if I was here on my own (with DD)

He is due home from work shortly. I shall see how he reacts when i mention the disgusting incident this afternoon again. Im reluctant to start taking photos or storing samples though!!!! Its not like these things happen every day, its just when they do its a reminder how little respect he has for me and make me even less attracted to him.

Just_Plain_Jane

bluescissors wrote: »

I shall see how he reacts when i mention the disgusting incident this afternoon again. Im reluctant to start taking photos or storing samples though!!!! Its not like these things happen every day, its just when they do its a reminder how little respect he has for me and make me even less attracted to him.

He's lucky I'm not his wife. I'd put those little 'discoveries' through a soda stream and serve them to him as lemonade.

Oh and they shouldn't happen at all, never mind 'not every day'.

cutestkids

You really need to get rid of him nothing has changed in the two months since you started to post about this if anything it has gotten worse.

Why are you with him at all what is it that is stopping you from telling him that you no longer want to be with him?

He seems to be very much in control of the situation and manages to talk you round every time.

If you are serious about leaving him then you have to do it now, otherwise you will end up like the countless other women out there who put up with it and never leave.

Is that the life you want for yourself and more importantly is that what you want your daughter to grow up with, believing that it is OK to be in an abusive relationship?

Because no matter how you try to play it down or pretend it is not happening you are in an abusive relationship.

I am sorry if this post seems harsh but sometimes thats what is needed.

DylanO

He's vile. You deserve a medal for not knifing him in his sleep, the dirty great !!!!!

JustinCredibleGillespie

Just_Plain_Jane wrote: »

He's lucky I'm not his wife. I'd put those little 'discoveries' through a soda stream and serve them to him as lemonade.

Oh and they shouldn't happen at all, never mind 'not every day'.

I have to agree with you there JPJ, I would do the same :rotfl:, I too would serve it as lemonade.

AND

If I knew he would be having a shower, I'd set his sh*tty ones back out for him to re-use. (Out of DD's way of course)

Just a thought.

JCG

xx

Sambucus_Nigra

bluescissors wrote: »

Im reluctant to start taking photos or storing samples though!!!! Its not like these things happen every day, its just when they do its a reminder how little respect he has for me and make me even less attracted to him.

Then lady - you are a fool.

Firstly for putting up with it and secondly for not realising that this is evidence for when you divorce him.