Fiscal Fast – 7 days no spending (at all)

modern_millie_2

Oh, Catznine, how disappointing. Hope you can claim on your insurance and plan another holiday.

Just opened a bottle of cava to celebrate weding anniversary, will have to drink it now as it will go flat....!

Have a good evening everyone.

taplady

trueblonde - the teabags were actually ok:) perfectly drinkable.:T

Catznine - so sorry about your holiday, hope you are soon recovered x x x

JackieO - nice to have you back:)

calicocat

Oh no catznine....that's not good , hope you manage to recoup some money to go again sometime.

NSD again , but havent done anything today , didnt get time to cook as overslept for work , so had to have 'mystery-soup' as it hadnt been named on bag, and will have to live on toast at work after that.

No road kill either as had to fly out of the door with no time to look at the floor.

May not make the full seven days as my poor friends little boy has died this week and not sure yet when funeral is (brain tumour) :(:(:(:( and will have to send some flowers etc................so sad,poor little mite was only 9yrs old. Kinda puts things into perspective some what doesnt it.

Good luck to everyone and keep going

craigywv

calicocat wrote: »

Oh no catznine....that's not good , hope you manage to recoup some money to go again sometime.

NSD again , but havent done anything today , didnt get time to cook as overslept for work , so had to have 'mystery-soup' as it hadnt been named on bag, and will have to live on toast at work after that.

No road kill either as had to fly out of the door with no time to look at the floor.

May not make the full seven days as my poor friends little boy has died this week and not sure yet when funeral is (brain tumour) :(:(:(:( and will have to send some flowers etc................so sad,poor little mite was only 9yrs old. Kinda puts things into perspective some what doesnt it.

Good luck to everyone and keep going

how awful, and distressing i cannot imagine what your friend is going through i myself have an 8 yr old boy ,dont even want to think about it my prayers are with you allxxxx

catznine

calicocat wrote: »

May not make the full seven days as my poor friends little boy has died this week and not sure yet when funeral is (brain tumour) :(:(:(:( and will have to send some flowers etc................so sad,poor little mite was only 9yrs old. Kinda puts things into perspective some what doesnt it.

Good luck to everyone and keep going

Oh my goodness that is so, so sad! I'm close to tears reading that! Many (((hugs))) I will keep your friends family in my prayers! Yes it cetainly does keep things in perspective! Our problems seem kind of small after that!

calicocat

craigywv wrote: »

how awful, and distressing i cannot imagine what your friend is going through i myself have an 8 yr old boy ,dont even want to think about it my prayers are with you allxxxx

Thank you,kind of you to say.
To be honest I haven't spoken to her (have spoken to husband) I'm not really really close to her and I am scared to ring her for various reasons.......does she want people ringing,I'm not family so would I be intruding at a time when I shouldn't.....and what the heck do you say??? I can't imagine how she is feeling and would hate to say the wrong thing.......it's a nightmare situation. I have sent her a txt which in the scale of things seems very lame,I will txt her hubby and see what he thinks I should do for the best as I am closer to him and he will give good advice.

I hope none of you have but any quick advice if been in this situation would be appreciated.

Thanks again though for your comment.

catznine

Calicocat - I have thankfully never been in such a situation myself and appreciate how difficult it must be. A mum from my dd's school did go through this losing her son at a similar age to the same thing. I made a point of talking to her but many didn't.

Reaching out to her with maybe a card, plant, touch of the hand, offers of help anything really helps more than you can imagine. So often people grieving are left feeling isolated as people feel so uncomfortable around death.

Big (((hugs))) to you too!

Catz x

calicocat

catznine wrote: »

Calicocat - I have thankfully never been in such a situation myself and appreciate how difficult it must be. A mum from my dd's school did go through this losing her son at a similar age to the same thing. I made a point of talking to her but many didn't.

Reaching out to her with maybe a card, plant, touch of the hand, offers of help anything really helps more than you can imagine. So often people grieving are left feeling isolated as people feel so uncomfortable around death.

Big (((hugs))) to you too!

Catz x

Well this is what also worries me,because of the unusual situation that people will shy away from saying anything to her...as it's so different from an elderly realtive dying etc.....and people don't know what to do (like me also) and so avoid doing anything ,and then that kind of isolates the person grieving further........if that makes sence?

But having read your reply (I have just txt hubby) I think I will do something,not sure what yet,but don't want to do the easy thing and avoid it due to me being uncomfortable.....as that really isn't important right now,she knows me well so would say if didn't want to take a call ,they don't live locally anymore so can't just pop in which would be the easy thing so could just give her a hug and no words needed.

God sorry I'm ranting a bit now.

Thanks a lot for your reply,appreciate it.

Hope I haven't put a downer on peoples day,not even sure why I put it in post ,still a bit shocked I think.

Thanks again .x

catznine

calicocat wrote: »

Well this is what also worries me,because of the unusual situation that people will shy away from saying anything to her...as it's so different from an elderly realtive dying etc.....and people don't know what to do (like me also) and so avoid doing anything ,and then that kind of isolates the person grieving further........if that makes sence?

But having read your reply (I have just txt hubby) I think I will do something,not sure what yet,but don't want to do the easy thing and avoid it due to me being uncomfortable.....as that really isn't important right now,she knows me well so would say if didn't want to take a call ,they don't live locally anymore so can't just pop in which would be the easy thing so could just give her a hug and no words needed.

God sorry I'm ranting a bit now.

Thanks a lot for your reply,appreciate it.

Hope I haven't put a downer on peoples day,not even sure why I put it in post ,still a bit shocked I think.

Thanks again .x

Bless you it is so obvious that you care, if a visit is not possible then how about a card to let her know you are thinking of her, amazing how much that can help! I lost my Dad under difficult circumstances (family arguments before hand ) so only a few sent cards but I treasure each and every one)!

lessonlearned

Just had to reply.

So so sorry to hear this. Whatever you do please do not shy away from this poor family.They really need help, support and words of comfort.

Just a simple "We are so sorry etc". Any practical help too.

And more to the point, not just this week but also in the weeks and months to come they will need a few kind words of comfort.

How do I know this??.

My situation is not the same, but I can relate. My OH became ill in 2006 with a rare neurological condition called Cerebellar Ataxia. He is now in a nursing home. Just think Stephen Hawkins and you get the picture of how my husband is now.

Over the years both he and I have been very hurt by people who we thought were close friends who have just simply stayed away.
We did actually hear through the grapevine that some people found it "embarrassing". I won't tell you how angry that made me.

So yes please do stay in touch with this family. They will need loving friends to help them.