i cant be doing with a miserable lot tonight. would say thanks for the input but you've not helped. not asked for your opinion, just asked for a way of wording something. i know our guests were more than happy to put money towards something we really wished for.
One prob with lists i guess is once all the cheap presents are gone what do you do then?
I think the best thing your friend can do is to NOT put a list or a request in with the invitations. If a guest requests to know what they can buy - then your friend should contact them personally. If she's expecting money then she needs to be able to ask for it in person. A standard 'line' may offend some people - something I'm sure no-one would want to do deliberately.
Okay it didn't completely work for me as I still got unwanted items, so maybe request gift vouchers if they don't fancy 'sponsoring' their honeymoon - which I'd be happy to do should a friend ask me!!
Here are some poems for you....An Ode to the Gift List
In a wedding invitation,
You usually find some lists,
For venues, menus and hotels,
And also for the gifts
But this one is unusual,
It comes in a different way,
As we're not asking for presents,
But for something else today
Now please don't think we're selfish,
Or that this comes from greed,
But we've lived together for a while,
So there's not that much we need
We would appreciate help though,
To send us on our way,
And allow us to have our honeymoon,
In a land quite far away
So now the point of all this rhyme,
The thing that we would like,
Isn't towels, toasters or microwaves,
But pounds and pence alike
And now you know the reason,
Behind this cheeky accord,
Please help to give us memories,
Of a dream honeymoon abroad.
:jWe know it's not traditional
It's not the way it's done
But instead of a wedding list
We'd like a bit of sun.
Please do not think of us as rude
Please do not take offence
We do not want to upset you
That's not the way it's meant.
We've lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We've got our plates, our pots and pans
Our plans have all been made.
So if you'd like to give a gift
To help us celebrate
Some money for a honeymoon
We would appreciate
:jWe are sending out this invitation,
And hope you will join our celebration.
If to send a gift is your intention,
In modesty we would like to mention,
We have already got a kettle and a toaster,
Crockery, dinner mats and coasters,
So rather than something we have already got,
Please give us money for our saving pot.
But, most importantly, we request,
That you turn up as our wedding guest
:jWe haven?t got a wedding list,
The reasons we?ll explain
It?s to save you all the hassle
As shopping is a pain.
We thought we?d ask you all
For something else instead
A small contribution towards
A holiday in the med.
So if you?d like to contribute
Towards our honeymoon
We offer you our heartfelt ?Thanks?
With love, the Bride & Groom.
:jWe haven't got a gift list, for all of you to see,
Because as you all know we never can agree!
But if you'd like to help us, start our married life,
cash or high street vouchers, would save a lot of strife.
Hope these help
They are miserable aren't they? My partner and I are getting married in August and we already live together and have all the household stuff. The only thing we would really like is a honeymoon but....we can't afford one! Lots of our family members have actually just assumed that they will be giving us money and to others who don't want to I have said John Lewis vouchers would be nice so we can upgrade some of the household stuff. No, I do not feel able to ask for the money so we aren't actually putting a 'wish list' for a honeymoon in the invite envelopes but my aunty suggested that if we did put something in the envelopes it would say something along the lines of: We don't ask for anything but if you do want to give something then a donation to a charity would be lovely or perhaps some money towards our honeymoon. This would go down better and you would get people donating to a charity of your choice.
Does this help at all?
what on earth is the world coming to?? I suppose next children should stop writing to father christmas incase he gets offended?
I don't class someone voicing a different view to my own as "Slagging me off".
You are extremely lucky to have friends whom all think the same as yourself. I have friends who I have fundamental differing views, but wouldn't hesitate to invite to such a special day because I wanted cash and they didn't like what it represents.
I would invite them to witness my marriage to someone whom I intended to spend the rest of my life with.
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