So my question is: If an invite said, "bring us nothing, but if you really want to, make a donation to wherever", would that offend? Would people ignore it?
We'd have no way of knowing how much was donated, so people could donate as much or little as they wanted.
You could do with some knives as well, so you could ask for them if people would prefer to stick to gifts.
if you are happy attending a wedding which a 'friend' has perhaps paid the best part of £30 per head for their guests
i wanted everything i ever dreamt of for my big day and believe me i got it, my wedding day cost £28,000, yes i could have had a wedding that cost me £1000 but why should i when i only planned to get married once and wanted a day to remember!
Though knowing the in-laws, I'd be more likely to get some more clothes pegs and some personalised stationary with someone else's address on it.
As far as I'm concerned people are entitled to spend their money on what they choose, but how were you able to spend this much on a wedding? I assume it must have included a pretty swish holiday. I also got the day I always wanted but in came in at about £2000. I guess it's all a case of aspirations (perhaps my lack of!)
However judging by your username and the fact that you're on a money saving site with the rest of us, you're still paying for your dream day!
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