I hate my health visitor - rant

eyelinerprincess

Argh, she does my nut in, she *may* be due in today, or it *may* be Wednesday, so I'm sitting here like a ninny waiting for someone who may or may not come today! DS hates her as well, he screams every time she comes (last time he was laughing with my dad, she came in and he bawled the place down, then told me he was hungry when he had been fed an hour ago!).

"Highlights" include: When I told her I was going back to work next month, she goes "you're going back full-time are you?" in that really condescending way, as if to say "how dare you neglect your child". In reality there will only be two days a week that either me or OH won't be looking after him, and then it's either nursery or grandparents' houses.

Telling me he still has colic because he pulled his knees up when she lifted him up. We've had no problems with colic for weeks, he only starts when she lifts him (coincidence?)

Insinuating that I wasn't sterilising correctly when he had a stomach bug at 4 weeks, when in all likelihood he caught it from his cousin who had the same thing and was "playing" with him not long before.

He's 13 weeks now, surely he should be seen at the clinic instead of having home visits. It would make life a hell of a lot easier (plus I'd work on a Tuesday so wouldn't have to see her).

McKneff

Take control of the situation and organise for you to take him to the clinic, simple as that really

RAS

How about you tell her that you cannot stay at home on the off-chance that she turns up?

And that either she gives you the exact date and time of the appointment and sticks to it or you take buggins to the clinic?

fluffnutter

So don't see her. There's no law that says you must have a health visitor. If she winds you up that much, just ask her not to call.

rachbc

just go out and do what you would do anyway. If you are in when she calls you're in if not then not. Seeing a HV isn't compulsory - if you don't find it benefitial then don't see her.

mirrorimage0

eyeliner, i would not wait in for her, tell her you do not want her visiting any more, and just take yourself to the clinic as and when you want to hun
they normally only visit once or twice i dont see why she is still visitng at thirteen weeks?

whitewing

I agree with the carry on with what you would do anyway. There is no reason why you can't be given a proper date/time. It's unreasonable for you to have to stay in on the off chance.

sassyblue

Same as all the others eyeliner, go out and from now on go to the clinic if you need to see a HV!

I was lucky to have fab HV's but from reading this forum l know it's not the case with everyone, don't let yourself be treated like this. x

peachyprice

Just tell her you feel you don't need her to come anymore. It's not compulsory, if you worried about anything take your baby to the clinic as and when necessary.

mygirllollypop

You dont have to see the Health Visitor, Just tell her not to come. I never really saw Health Visitors with either of mine, they are perfectly fine

victory

You don't have to see her and she does need to be so vague with her visiting times/dates, if there is nothing wrong with your little one and you are not concerned about anything stop her from coming, contact your GP if you need anything .