I hate my health visitor - rant

*Louise*

We don't still have HV's hanging about when the baby is 13 weeks.

Start going to the clinic and tell her you will just see her there from now on.

I wouldn't be hanging about all day waiting for someone who 'might' show up.......just go out if you need too and leave a polite note on the door for her saying 'sorry, waited in as long as possible but really needed to go out';)

Even if she does phone again to say what day she 'might' show up, tell her straight that you will only be in between X and X o'clock (or even just specify morning or afternoon) as you have got lots of other things to do.

VfM4meplse

mrcow wrote: »

Why exactly are you seeing a health visitor?

Absolutely pointless. Tell her to push off.

That's exactly what a colleague of mine did, because she saw no value to the service. When we discussed it I said I probably would have tolerated it, even though not much could be gained from it. Rudeness and defensiveness raise suspicion.

I'm not convinced that HV's are above acting with malice, the last thing anyone needs is to have their child's details added to the child protection register.

mrcow

VfM4meplse wrote: »

That's exactly what a colleague of mine did, because she saw no value to the service. When we discussed it I said I probably would have tolerated it, even though not much could be gained from it. Rudeness and defensiveness raise suspicion.

I'm not convinced that HV's are above acting with malice, the last thing anyone needs is to have their child's details added to the child protection register.

Is this a joke?

Telling a health visitor that you're not interested in seeing them is not going to result in your child being added to a child protection register.

That is scaremongering at its very worst.

jenhug

I had the most amazing health visitor, she always gave me a set time and stuck to it, and she bonded really well with my daughters. She was so friendly and really enjoyed seeing little ones grow. She even didn't mind the fact that my eldest refused to wear clothes indoors, and was constantly naked! She also said it made a change to see toys out and played with as most of the homes she went in were like show homes and it always felt like an unnatural environment.

If you really don't get on with her ask for a different one or ask to go to the clinic. My sister had a nightmare HV, I'm sure she was a spinster. On her first visit she upset my sister when she crossed out my nephews name and put someone elses name at the top! She had the cheek to say the midwife (our aunt) had written it wrong. My sister refused to see her again.

puppypants

I gave up with HVs when my second child was little. He was 6 weeks old and she had him flat on his back on the examination couch in the clinic, trying to force his foreskin back!!!!! He of course was screaming his litle head off, she then proceeded to carry out a hearing test and stated that she was worried as he was not responding properly!!! Grrrrrr. He never had any problems in that department and didnt need to be circumsized, things sorted out naturally!!

Never went back again with him or my next baby.

meritaten

the health visitor is just that - a 'visitor' - she is expected to help and advise you. Nothing more nothing less. She has no right of entry to your home and you have every right not to see her if you dont wish to! you also are NOT obliged to visit the clinic unless you have appointments for innoculations etc - even then you DONT have to have them done unless you want them.
Its YOUR baby hun, your decisions - if you dont like or trust this person then tell her that you dont want her to visit.

mummyoftwomonkeys

Aggh H.V yes I had problems with mine. The first I had with my eldest son was lovely, she chased up the hospital when we were trying to find out about our sons hearing problems and helped us a lot but the one I had 2nd time round did my head in no end. My 2nd son was 8 lb 4 birth weight and looked a little chunker, he was a good feeder I breast fed him and he took to it like a dream but my health visitor kept on and on at me that I should take him to clinic to be weighed I said hes fine I know hes putting weight on and I found it a struggle to take him because the clinic was up a big hill and I had to cross 2 roads to get to it with a baby and a 2 year old, she always turned up with another woman and once when they came my eldest son was being a !!!!!! I was holding baby and it was really hot and she kept asking if I was ok and asking if I was coping ok. They made me feel like I was being checked up on.

angelsmomma

In 1974 with my daughter the HV arrived to find me with a black eye and broken wrist as my then husband used to beat me up. Her response when I said I couldn't take much more was "a man who beats you is better than no man at all" :eek: I still shudder when I think of it.

Times have changed thankfully so just tell her its not convienient and you will go to the clinic as the others have said.

annie_d

I didn't see a HV and I didn't attend a clinic either. I am not anti intervention from others and had three high risk births but your child belongs to you...if you don't need the "help" don't have it. X

Mrs.W_2

With the first child, I thought these NHS sanctioned harpies had to be tolerated. A little older and a lot wiser with the second child, DD2 never saw a single one of the interfering, belittling, time wasting jobsworths.

The above is a polite description of the two HV's I saw with DD1.