I hate my health visitor - rant

Aimless

All the health visitors I've seen this time seem nice enough, but I don't like to encourage them to visit! They came to the house twice, and the second time only because my other half thought they ought to, I was in the middle of politely declining. If I need them, I'll go to them, I can access 2 or 3 different drop in clinics.

peachyprice

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

she visits weekly to my friends house and he's now one. she cant tell her to do one yet because she's just had another baby thats in special care.

Yes she can. There's no reason whatsoever for a HV to be visiting a 1yo weekly and the SCBU have their own HV team who will come out when baby is discharged.

Nicki

peachyprice wrote: »

Yes she can. There's no reason whatsoever for a HV to be visiting a 1yo weekly and the SCBU have their own HV team who will come out when baby is discharged.

A severely post natally depressed mum, or a mum not coping very well with a sick child, whilst pregnant, and after the birth of a premature second child could be two?

Clues from that post could be a mum not dressed during the day many months after the birth, a house which needs cleaning, and medicine taken so frequently that its kept in the fridge.

I've had good and bad Health Visitors in my time. My current one is awful in the same way many have described on this thread, but where mums are struggling and kids may fall through the net, they do have a role IMO

blue_monkey_2

I went to see my HV when my son went to nursery aged 3 and they picked up on some issues - I did not know who else to go and see and they gave me a letter outlining all of his issues. I told the HV that it looked like Autism and mentioned Aspergers and she said that she did not know what that was...... her husband was a GP as well.

peachyprice

Nicki wrote: »

A severely post natally depressed mum, or a mum not coping very well with a sick child, whilst pregnant, and after the birth of a premature second child could be two?

Clues from that post could be a mum not dressed during the day many months after the birth, a house which needs cleaning, and medicine taken so frequently that its kept in the fridge.

If that were the case I would have thought atrixblue would phave put 'My friend who isn't coping too well gets weekly visits from her HV?

Mrs.W_2

Nicki wrote: »

A severely post natally depressed mum, or a mum not coping very well with a sick child, whilst pregnant, and after the birth of a premature second child could be two?

Clues from that post could be a mum not dressed during the day many months after the birth, a house which needs cleaning, and medicine taken so frequently that its kept in the fridge.

I've had good and bad Health Visitors in my time. My current one is awful in the same way many have described on this thread, but where mums are struggling and kids may fall through the net, they do have a role IMO

My pnd was 'missed' by my HV, even though all the outward signs were there. I even discussed it with her and talked through the symptoms I was experiencing. She gave me a copy of 'Family Grapevine' and told me to get out more with baby.

Later that week, at my OH's insistence, I talked with our GP. He wanted to know why I'd not seen the HV. The HV denied ever having talked with me about pnd. That was the point at which she was no longer involved in healthcare for my family.

Make-it-3

Nicki wrote: »

A severely post natally depressed mum, or a mum not coping very well with a sick child, whilst pregnant, and after the birth of a premature second child could be two?

Clues from that post could be a mum not dressed during the day many months after the birth, a house which needs cleaning, and medicine taken so frequently that its kept in the fridge.

I've had good and bad Health Visitors in my time. My current one is awful in the same way many have described on this thread, but where mums are struggling and kids may fall through the net, they do have a role IMO

Really? I'm still in my PJ's and it's nearly 11am, my house is a mess and I have antibiotics in my fridge (as that's where you are supposed to keep them). Somebody better get on the phone to my busybody HV right away!

Nicki

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Really? I'm still in my PJ's and it's nearly 11am, my house is a mess and I have antibiotics in my fridge (as that's where you are supposed to keep them). Somebody better get on the phone to my busybody HV right away!

I'm not intending to "diagnose" either PP's friend or you :rotfl: I was responding specifically to a post which suggested it was OTT and unnecessary for a HV to be visiting so long after the birth of the first child, with reasons why. I had bad PND after my second child, and once it was diagnosed my Health Visitor did use to come and see me at home every few weeks and was very supportive. She was one of the good ones, and actually it was she who first picked up the developmental delays my DD had, which lead to her diagnosis early with severe learning difficulties and autism, and on to support being put in for us. So we as a family did benefit from her "interfering" and questioning what she saw.

My current HV as I said is a waste of space, and I am sure I have complained about her here before. She was "too busy" to weigh my failure to thrive newborn to the schedule required by the consultant and drove us completely batty. And we did not have an opportunity to change to someone else in a wider team, and believe me we would have tried.

So I am not a blanket supporter of all HV, but I do recognise there are situations where they do provide good support and telling them to do one, is not necessarily in mum or baby's best interests however tempting at the time.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

scbu has contacted the HV to "help" set up at home for the baby when he's released wich will be soon.

there are are a few HV that are pretty nice so im not slating all, we had a HV that came to us when we had prem twins, after the third visit she said ok ill let you get on you wont see me from now on unless you come to clinic at injection times and pre school check and never made sly comments to us.

eyelinerprincess

Just had a thought....

If we're not in when she comes tomorrow (since she didn't come yesterday), which is likely as taking DH to see the nursery we're enrolling DS in once a week, then he'll have to go to the clinic. On that day I'm working and DH is doing a half-day he owed his work, so MIL will need to take him...And as much as MIL does my head in at times, I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of her scorn...

*fiendish laugh*