My Dad 'tricked' me into giving him £5,000 & now can't afford to pay me it back

kaylz39

rdchick wrote: »

I think the bit about using your inheritance to buy a driveway sticks out for me most.

I see inheritance as a sort of 'final memory' of someone, so if you're mum gave you some money when she died that money should be used to make a memory and to be a part of your life. It's not like you want the money for the sake of wanting it, you trusted your dad and his advice, he's gone behind your back and spent it.

I think you should explain to your dad that you want that money back, I don't know how divorces work but you should ask to get your £5000 back from the equity of the house.

Hope you find a resolution soon xxx

Yes, you're right- the plan was to put it towards my wedding more specifially my wedding dress. I know my Mum would have loved to buy my wedding dress for me, at least she paid the deposit on it

kaylz39

Apples2 wrote: »

We had a post some time ago from a woman whose little cherub (about 6yrs old IIRC) received a lump sum inheritance. The parents were on here looking for ways to access the money, they even suggested charging the dearest daughter rent (at 6 years old!!) so they could get their hands on the money.
The opinion was overwhelming, yes, even I joined in explaining what I thought of them.

I can't believe this...and they actually thought they would receive replies advising them on how to get to their 6 year olds inheritance money?

Expect to see that poor child on here in 12 years time then!

elvis86

LovelyLeeds wrote: »

Oh you very silly person - do try to stop making inaccurate assumptions - you make yourself look errrr inaccurate.

I'm sorry, but from the kind of person that posts drivel like this?

LovelyLeeds wrote: »

Thing is, if you'd saved the money and given the money to your dad to invest I would have every sympathy for you, but this money was gifted to you from your mother's estate, so you didn't earn it.
Forgive your dad the 'debt' - it's gone and from what you say, he doesn't have the means to pay you back, so why continue to pursue it?
The nicest thing you can do as a human being, and as a caring daughter to your dad, is to say, 'don't worry dad, the money's gone, and that is that let's move on from it'.)

I'd rather look "errr inaccurate" than look like the kind of crazy person whose sympathies lie with a man who stole from his grieving daughter to get his drive repaved!

She turned to her dad in her hour of need, and he took advantage and stole her inheritence from her, and all you can do is point out that she was "undeserving" of her inheritence anyway and suggest that she forget about it? I'm really interested to hear exactly what you think her dad did to that rendered him more "deserving" of the money, and justified him stealing it from her..?

The OP was betrayed by her own father, and you urge her to "tell him not to worry about it and move on", and suggest that if she doesn't, she's not a "nice human being"?!

LovelyLeeds wrote: »

I'm rather hoping you never serve on a jury where a degree of commonsense, impartiality and intelligence is needed.

Touche!

You're the kind of moron that would encourage Elizabeth Fritzl to "be the bigger" person and forgive her dad, right after you found him not guilty (because after all, you only have one dad). I suppose Charmaine and Heather West should've been waiting open-armed for daddy at the pearly gates too eh?

I honestly despair sometimes.

londonTiger

Forget it man. You're being completely unreasonable asking for the £5K. You were lucky enough to get that money from your mums estate. (Assuming your dad didn't get anything).

It's not worth getting into family disputes over money. Espeically when you're better off financially than your dad.

londonTiger

elvis86 wrote: »

I'm sorry, but from the kind of person that posts drivel like this?



I'd rather look "errr inaccurate" than look like the kind of crazy person whose sympathies lie with a man who stole from his grieving daughter to get his drive repaved!

She turned to her dad in her hour of need, and he took advantage and stole her inheritence from her, and all you can do is point out that she was "undeserving" of her inheritence anyway and suggest that she forget about it? I'm really interested to hear exactly what you think her dad did to that rendered him more "deserving" of the money, and justified him stealing it from her..?

The OP was betrayed by her own father, and you urge her to "tell him not to worry about it and move on", and suggest that if she doesn't, she's not a "nice human being"?!



Touche!

You're the kind of moron that would encourage Elizabeth Fritzl to "be the bigger" person and forgive her dad, right after you found him not guilty (because after all, you only have one dad). I suppose Charmaine and Heather West should've been waiting open-armed for daddy at the pearly gates too eh?

I honestly despair sometimes.

British family values = nonexistent. We're just a generation away from suing our family members in court too I suppose.

elvis86

londonTiger wrote: »

Forget it man. You're being completely unreasonable asking for the £5K. You were lucky enough to get that money from your mums estate. (Assuming your dad didn't get anything.

londonTiger wrote: »

British family values = nonexistent. We're just a generation away from suing our family members in court too I suppose.

I seriously feel like I've entered the twighlight zone here!

So an angry response from the wronged OP (who's own father betrayed her when she was grieving for her mum) would exemplify the erosion of "British family values", but the act of a father stealing from his grieving daughter is fine?

londonTiger wrote: »

It's not worth getting into family disputes over money. Espeically when you're better off financially than your dad.

Easy to say when you're not to one who is £5000 down!

Please, some of you post me your debit cards and pin numbers, if you would be so happy to be stolen from!

missprice

Apples2 wrote: »

I used the word Paltry to describe the value of my parents to me.


Lets all agree that we hope the OP and Father never have any lifechanging experiences which would result in them needing each other.

Flame away :beer:

And what life changing experience might that be?
I can think of no reason in the last 30 years that I needed my mother
I may have wanted her to be there but never need.
I have had children, been married, divorced, about to emigrate and many other things between them,
and not once have I needed her
Having never had a father, again I have never needed him and since I found out who he is I never wanted him either:)

kaylz39

londonTiger wrote: »

Forget it man. You're being completely unreasonable asking for the £5K. You were lucky enough to get that money from your mums estate. (Assuming your dad didn't get anything).

It's not worth getting into family disputes over money. Espeically when you're better off financially than your dad.

I was lucky for my Mum to die when I saw 15 & for her to leave me & my sister her estate rather than it go to her ex-husband who had an affair and walked out on his 6 & 18 month old daughters...yeah you are totally right!!!

I'm better off financially that my Dad because I know how to manage my money, I could have quite easily spent my inheritance on holidays, cars, drink etc but instead I went to Uni and bought a house aged 19 & did not live beyond my means!!!

I'm sorry but you're obviously an idiot!

chesky369

kaylz39 wrote: »

No, my Mum appointed 2 trustees of both of our funds and they have to agree any money that's drawn on it. I think they would consult me first before giving her such a large amount of money.

Who are these trustees and what do they have to say about your father's actions? Did they approve your lending him the money?

kaylz39

chesky369 wrote: »

Who are these trustees and what do they have to say about your father's actions? Did they approve your lending him the money?

They are both my Mum's best friends, I haven't told them I gave him the money as I was 18 I didn't have to tell them.

To be honest I haven't told many people about the whole thing, just because I'm embarrassed by it. It sounds daft but I don't want people to think any less of him!