My Dad 'tricked' me into giving him £5,000 & now can't afford to pay me it back

DebtFreedom_2

I'm so sorry to hear of this - One would trust one's father implicitly. It must be terrible, and frankly there's nothing to excuse what he has done to you. Morally, the money's certainly yours. Legally? well, you did give it to him, so he didn't steal it. Arguably there may be a case of fraud but pretty difficult to prove. More than that, it would be so difficult for the family.

Sounds like a catch 22. I've got nothing constructive to say, just sorry.

Rupert_Bear

aliasojo wrote: »

I agree, £5k isn't the huge amount it once would have been viewed as years ago and it would be possible to recover from.

However for me it wouldn't be about the £5k itself. It would be the fact that my Father put his wants before his responsibility to me. He wasn't backed between a rock and a hard place, he didn't have hard decisons to make about where the money to pay for food was coming from etc etc. He just fancied a new drive. The OP was certainly old enough to run that by but he chose not to and to do it on the fly anyway.

Would I want a close relationship with him thereafter? Not sure I would tbh. Actions speak louder than words, his 'Happy Christmas pet' round the Xmas dinner table would mean nothing to me, knowing that he's better at kindly lip service than caring action. Iyswim.

Thats right £5k is not a lot especially when it is someone elses money and not yours.

dealer_wins

Family hey, who needs it sometimes LOL

aliasojo

Rupert_Bear wrote: »

Thats right £5k is not a lot especially when it is someone elses money and not yours.

I'm not sure if you're agreeing with me or having a sarky dig?

I did not say £5k wasn't a lot of money. I said it wasn't the huge amount it could be viewed as many years ago. That is an entirely different meaning.

The OP spent many thousands of pounds on her wedding and is buying a house so although £5k would obviously mean a big help to her, it's all relative.

It would be a fortune to someone else who was struggling to put food on the table or money in the meter.

I don't see the point in getting hung up on the amount. The OP has been let down by her Father, would it make any difference it it was for more or less money? The action would still be the same.