April 2013 weddings

daisiegg

6 WEEKS TODAY FOR US!!!!

Am away at the moment so will update properly when I'm back....

butterfly2001

enjoy your break daisie!

caz that ain't a bad list you've done, all the main bits are there! Music/ photographer/ bouquet?

IloveScotsman- what a comprehensive list you've got there you too are doing well. How exciting and strange it must be trying to plan it for elsewhere!

My spreadsheet seems to be getting longer and the cost is going up! What I don't like is having lots of it orange because it's only deposits and payments on the day

Still in a flap over bridesmaid dress I think it will end up with "something that'll do" but oh well!

Decided to do gift bags for night before for the ladies but then I don't know what gifts to do on the day so will need my thinking hat on.

In the bags they have:
toiletries
warm drinks cup
fizz
chocolates

caz2003uk

butterfly2001 wrote: »

caz that ain't a bad list you've done, all the main bits are there! Music/ photographer/ bouquet?

*Ceremony music - decided and give to registry office to check yesterday
*Dj - booked and paid for - arranged by venue - need to contact him with first dance song and discuss music (dunno what to say tho lol)
*Photographer - is a friend of mine coming from Belgium I love his work and he is doing it for us as a wedding gift
*Bouquet - I have a foam rose year drop boquet in the wedding cupboard! Lol also my adult bridesmaids, child bridesmaids wand, groom and best man double button hole, and single buttonholes!
*Sweetie Buffet - Everything done for that! 14/15 jars and vases, paper sweet bags stamped with "Sweet treats, with love, Mr & Mrs McEwan" scoops and tongs and most importantly the sweets lol
*Wishing tree and tags all ready to go
*Post box chest again all ready to go
*Hair - is being done by my friend from Bradford! We marry on the Friday, on the Wednesday ill be driving 4 hours to Bradford to go get her and 4 hours back again! Otherwise gota wait for her mum to drive up to her and bring her back and we need as much time as possible to do my hair as won't get a chance before hand! She is doing my nails too!
*Make-up - my bridesmaids brothers girlfriend is doing my make up I just have to provide the make up

Think that's it? Lol anything else?

Faith177

Really need to have a rant as I'm in years.

My OH had his stag do this weekend I asked him not to do 3 things 1) was anything to do with women of a certain reputation 2) no strip or lap dance clubs and 3) no lap dances.

Just found he has broken 2 AND 3 I'm so upset. He knows I hate anything like that as I think it is sleazy, dirty and degrading.

He can't see why I'm upset and also one of the other girlfriends is so upset.

Are we being totally over the top or have they done wrong

Just found out he had 4 lapdances

jtr2803

Blimey hun, I think the point here is not how any of us would feel about it but it's all about how YOU feel about it. For the record, no, I am not bothered about strippers/lapdancers etc and if it was a one off I would allow it but that's beside the point.

If you asked him not to entertain that type of entertainment and he has, knowing that you were against it, then that is a problem. Did he know before hand that's what they were doing or was it a surprise?

daisiegg

Faith177 wrote: »

Really need to have a rant as I'm in years.

My OH had his stag do this weekend I asked him not to do 3 things 1) was anything to do with women of a certain reputation 2) no strip or lap dance clubs and 3) no lap dances.

Just found he has broken 2 AND 3 I'm so upset. He knows I hate anything like that as I think it is sleazy, dirty and degrading.

He can't see why I'm upset and also one of the other girlfriends is so upset.

Are we being totally over the top or have they done wrong

Oh dear

Did he actually agree not to do those things? That would make a difference for me if he had broken a promise.

I think you are totally within your rights to be upset about a broken promise. Personally I wouldn't be bothered about what actually happened - I think OH will probably go to a strip club for his stag and that is fine with me...but then I think I have a slightly different view on it than you as I've been to them with him with other couples and groups of friends!

I don't know what to say to help you feel better try to rationalise that at least he told you, so he is not trying to do things behind your back, and I'm sure it was just harmless fun. He probably got dragged along by the other boys. It's YOU he loves and is going to marry - does the fact that he watched some half naked ladies wiggling around change that?

You are not overreacting because you can't help how you feel. I suppose my only advice would be to really, really talk to him and make sure he understands why you feel what you feel. I suppose at the end of the day you are not going to call off the wedding over this (are you?) so it is in your interests to try to get past it as soon as possible because otherwise you will just feel cr*p and that's no fun

Faith177

He did promise not to do it which is why I'm so mad.

I'm not going to call it off ill calm down in a few days but it's his justification when I asked him why that has annoyed me to "I did it because it was my stag do. I wanted a tradional one. I wanted to go wild and do something different"

Also I have serious doubts as to why he told me one of his other friends told his girlfriend (the one I'm friends with) the friend then told him he had told his girlfriend cause she forced it out of him next thing I know I get a text from my Oh saying he is in trouble with the girl

cats2012

Faith I do sympathise.

I'm with the others in that I don't care about strippers etc at all (and know full well my OH will go to one!) but that's not the point. If he promised then he broke that promise, doesn't matter what it was.

I think that's how you should talk to him about it - there's no point having a debate about strippers but trust is definitely worth talking through.

sk00bie1

Oh dear Faith, I'm sorry to hear this.

I'm another that wouldn't have a problem with it myself but it's not over the top if that's how you fell about them. I would have an issue with him breaking a promise though.

Do you think that he promised not to with good intentions, then got carried away and has only said those things to try and justify it? Or do you think he always intended to go along with it? I think I'd be OK with the former, but not the latter.

Whatever the reasons he went back on his word and you definitely need to talk that over. I hope you get it resolved soon, big hugs xx

cats2012

sk00bie1 wrote: »

Do you think that he promised not to with good intentions, then got carried away and has only said those things to try and justify it? Or do you think he always intended to go along with it? I think I'd be OK with the former, but not the latter.

I totally agree with this xx