I don't have a best friend..do you?

BugglyB

Edwardia wrote: »

My best friend is a man. Don't see him often but he's very warm, sexy and funny and my ex-toyboy. We went from friends to fling and back to friends again.

Other than him and a few people I keep in touch with by email I don't have friends, which means no 2am phone calls from drunk girlies waking me up, no boring convos about little Joshua's playdates, not being dragged to Starbucks, no marathon clothes shopping sessions, not hearing about other peoples' boring husbands, no competitive dinner parties or BBQs, it's great

I think its a little sad that thats how you see friendship. It sounds like some Cosmo idea of what female friendship should be about. I have plenty of friends and none of them are like that. If they were I'd ditch them!

missindecisive

I have had a few 'best friends ' over the years , friends who you can turn to if your feeling down, at the time you think they will be there for the rest of your life.
unfortunately for me , ive realised that most people come into your life as you share some common ground at a particular time, eg you might work with them, your children might be a similar age, or you might share a hobby together. Then for one reason and another, they drift away, annoy you or let you down in some way and ive felt dissappointed. I think i expect too much from people. Just because they want to see a lot of you or are pouring their heart out to you, doesn't mean they won't treat you wrongly at some point, as in the end this always seems to happen with me. I confuse their neediness, openess etc with expecting some sort of loyalty from them which in the end, just does not happen.

so ive now come to realise, that its best to have a wide circle of female friends, but none of them as a best friend. my best friend is my husband of 27 years, he is the only person i can rely on.:T

fionamay41

I don't have any friends, many acquaintances, but not close friends. Having been and still in a rubbish marriage i have built myself a barrier not letting anyone get close, in fear of being hurt or disappointed. Sad and lonely , very!!!!! After 20 odd years you get used to doing things on your own. " friends" stop asking you to events or nights out because they know the answer will always be no. Would I want a best friend? Probably not. Guess I am one of society's unsocial people.