I don't have a best friend..do you?

beautiful_ravens

My best friend of 15 years lives 150 miles away and I havent seen her for about 3 or 4 years, I guess she is still my best friend as we can just instantly start chatting on the phone like not a day has passed, but Ive lost touch with her day to day life.
I dont have many friends where I live now, but I have other things and people in other places which is fine - Im a bit antisocial really and couldnt bear people just turning up at mine for coffees and chats when Im in the middle of something, so it suits me! I go to them if I need to

beautiful_ravens

spidersandsprinkles wrote: »

I've had female best friends, but it's never really worked out. I don't know what I do wrong. Maybe I'm not girly enough. I do girly things, I just don't give it a seconds thought like a lot of girls. Think I spend too much time having a laugh with the guys.

And this...always been very friendly with the no nonsense lads and have found a lot of women to be b!tchy which is something I have no time for [school is the reason for that!]

Uniscots97

I had one best friend throughout university and immediately after. We studied the same thing (although she was a year behind me and she's 8 years older than me), we chose different paths in careers. She had said she'd do a wedding album for me when I got married and 10 months later I didn't have one, it caused quite an issue as I had 2 very ill relatives at the time who I wanted to see the album (my other friends and SIL rallied round and put together photos for me). Since then the relationship has been off and on. I got my photos eventually but no album. I had to do one myself. Fast forward 3 years and I thought we were getting on better and I did her hair twice a few months ago. I've texted, called, replied to her messages on facebook and she's gone quiet again (although she's been loooking me up on business websites but not contacting me!).... goodness knows why. Everyone that knows her thinks its green eyed monster, but I'm getting to the stage now I don't want to chase it again.

dizsiebubba

OH is my very best friend and was a really close friend before we became a couple. We have lived together for 4 years, been a couple for 6+ years and have known each other for 8+ years. We met when we were just 15 & 16 years old so have grown up together and luckily not grown apart in this time. Other people often comment on our realtionship because we are like one person sometimes, but very different still! However, as he is a man I do feel the need to have contact with women from time to time!

I have 3 girl mates from school who I used to be very close to, but my life, realtionship, career are all moving much faster than theirs so its putting distance between us... they are still very immature and are good for a giggle but nothing serious! I do not trust one of them at all - very wary of her!

I had another good friend I met through work 6 years agao & up until a few weeks ago we run a club together. She is suffering from depression I think following a MMC and cannot cope with me being pregnant so has abandoned me and actually turned quite nasty over it

I have a fabulous friend who is the wife of OH's good friend. She is amazing and a really good laugh, but we haven't been friends for long time (known for 3 years, good friends for a year) and she has her best friend already so I wouldn't say we are best friends, but very good friends.

I also have my mum - who is amazing but I don't tell her much about me & OH (not that there is much to tell) so wouldn't run to her if we had an argument!

podperson

I tend to find I get on better with guys, I prefer people to be straightforward with me and I've never bothered with the b11tching and silly games some woman seem to enjoy. That said at one point I did have 2 best 'girl' friends - when I moved away we drifted apart a lot though. One I do still keep in touch with and meet up with when I can though we just don't seem as close now, the other never makes the slightest bit of effort and after about 2 years of me contacting her every time, arranging to meet her when I was in only for her to constantly stand me up at the last minute (and I'm not talking once or twice but nearly every time - out of about 10 possible meetups she came to 1, and this was even after I tried to arrange them around her and her family) I just realised that if she couldn't be bothered making the smallest effort that I was probably better off without her. It does make me sad though, I have people I would class as friends but not really anyone I could just pick up the phone and chat to for no reason, or that I would turn to if I had a problem.

Edwardia

My best friend is a man. Don't see him often but he's very warm, sexy and funny and my ex-toyboy. We went from friends to fling and back to friends again.

Other than him and a few people I keep in touch with by email I don't have friends, which means no 2am phone calls from drunk girlies waking me up, no boring convos about little Joshua's playdates, not being dragged to Starbucks, no marathon clothes shopping sessions, not hearing about other peoples' boring husbands, no competitive dinner parties or BBQs, it's great

cleggie

Yes, i am lucky enough to have met the most wonderful friend in the world. We are like teenagers sometimes (i am 32 she is almost 50) when we are together! We are totally opposite in so many ways, but i wouldnt be without her.

Rev

I have 5 best female friends. All of which I've been friends with since nursery, our friendship has survived living at opposite ends of the country, new jobs, houses etc, families being started. They're at the other end of the phone no matter what, I see them all at least once a month (usually more) and speck/txt them pretty much daily.

That said, as an adult I've not made new friends, I'm a bit anti social like that lol.

KingTVYN

I find that there is almost no one who knows all of you. Sometimes best friends could be a hindrance. I don't like to rely on many people

Shandygirl

I dont have a best friend.
I had a close friend last year.But gave up on her,she wanted me when she needed a lift somewhere,or had no one else to go town with.She one asked if i drank,because i said not a lot.She started going for girls nights out with other friends of hers and never asked me to go with them.Am i not allowed out because i dont drink a lot.
These days i like going into town on my own and bargain hunting!
I sometimes feel lonely but not bothering geting close to anyone just to be used and let down!