I don't have a best friend..do you?

jetplane

Oh I feel blessed after reading this thread.

I have a best friend since primary school, over 45 years ago. We have been there through everything in each others life and I can't imagine my life without her. We have other close friends but we just 'are'. We never argue.

Me and my husband are best friends, there is nothing he wouldn't do for me, I am safe, I say we are opposites but friends say we are ying and yang. I find that a bit corny. We sometimes argue.

I have another best friend of about 12 years or more who gives me great advice, tells me how it is and puts life in perspective. We are different, we met, just clicked and have never looked back. I sometimes wonder if I get more out of our friendship than she does. We sometimes disagree and we have had heated debates, but they never linger.

I have sets of friends who I go out with but who don't mix with each other, some don't even know each other, but they all bring different things to my life.

I only have about 20 friends on facebook! I don't want to live my life through that medium.

catch_me_if_you_can

Glad I'm not alone

nakmeister

I've never had a best friend except my OH and I get on well with my mum but sometimes there are things I'd like to tell someone neutral or have a rant but I'm personally v shy. . .

deb68_2

Bangton wrote: »

I'm so sorry Deb68

Thank you
xx

bright_side

I do believe that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Whichever one they are, I also believe that we learn something from them all - be it good or bad, about ourselves or other people.

jenhug

I have a best friend I absolutely adore to pieces. We met stacking shelves! Been friends 10 years this year and we would do anything for each other. We even went out for dinner just the 2 of us on valentines day as our husbands don't do romance! LOL

spidersandsprinkles

I've had female best friends, but it's never really worked out. I don't know what I do wrong. Maybe I'm not girly enough. I do girly things, I just don't give it a seconds thought like a lot of girls. Think I spend too much time having a laugh with the guys. I do have girls who are friends who I can turn to though but its more a mutual 'Don't really have to make too much effort but I will be there if you wanna chat' kind of relationship.

barbarawright

Newly_retired wrote: »

I hate it when others make an arrangement in front of you to meet up. They are obviously "best friends" and I am excluded.
It is the same feeling when you see other people in your group/ choir/church etc giving out Christmas cards, but not to you. You think - so aren't I your friend then?

I spent a lot of time at university feeling like that and then I realised that people do tend to assume that everyone is much more sorted than them. So when I did my postgraduate course I was much more ruthless about saying 'Oh, are you going to see XXX' or just asking people to do stuff myself. People rarely turn you down . Why not just join in the conversation next time it happens? Or make a suggestion yourself - if nobody wants to come along, so what, you haven't lost anything. But in my experience, people will go along with anything if someone else organises it :rotfl:

murphydog999

All this is very enlightening, and comforting, as I don't have many friends, let alone a best friend. My ex-best friend admitted that she was jealous when I met my now husband (as she said, he he split us up) and then I couldn't believe that she didn't even contact me when she found out that my un-disputable best-friend - my dog - had died. She later lied and said that she didn't know, but she was in the room when my husband told a family gathering. We went to live abroad so things went downhill rapidly after that.

I think so many people move around more nowadays, us included, away from families and school friends that it makes things so much more difficult to fit in with new people. We've moved back to the UK, (my husband has now changed jobs + works away, so we are moving again, which doesn't help with building relationships!!) and couples, who know us as a couple, don't think to involve me without him. I've just started to get on with my neighbour (a single woman), but as we're moving that's another friend lost!!

It's a problem, but it seems I'm not alone!

daviecol

I don't, however I make friends very easily. I find the whole 'keeping friends' thing just too much effort. Besides I like making new friends when I change jobs or move, it makes life interesting.

Mind you, I've been blessed with a great family so maybe that's why it doesn't bother me?