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splishsplash

DVardysShadow wrote: »

This one is a repaste spam moron

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/....php?t=3791613

http://www.q0oi.com/q0oi141957/
http://www.homestagingguide.net/blog...uying-politics

Why do I feel I want a bacon sandwich?

Has your id been jijacked? :O

Hanging_by_a_thread

Without knowing the full circumstances it is difficult to say whether they lied to you or not. It also depends very much on the type of relationship you share and if there is normally an expectation for everything to be discussed before any action is taken.

Sometimes I talk things through with my partner, especially if the decision will ultimately effect him. Other times I just get on with it and dont feel the need to discuss it all with him first. I wouldn't consider that lying, just being a proactive, independant woman.

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burnoutbabe

it would also matter whether it affected you and mostly you. (ie some medical knowledge about you)

Or whether it affected mostly them and some side effect on you. (some medical decision about your child which they didn't want you to know about)

For example, would most people tell other people that their partner was cheating on them? probably not, as a lot of people don't want to know/blame the messenger/know and do NOT want anyone else to know that they know. Or it could all blow over/was a one off and maybe better to let the couple get on with it. depends on the person whether you judge that the REALLY would want to know.

aliasojo

victory wrote: »

I never asked them to play God with the knowledge, I never asked them to consider me, my feelings, my thoughts on it or my pain, they took it upon themselves to decide for me.

They knew it would hurt, it would floor me, I would be in this pain so it has not 'protected me' it has not made it easier, it has just delayed the reaction, that still being the same.

Ok, what's done is done. How you feel from here on in is down to you.

Is the situation something you can change now? Is it something you need to make amends for or someone needs to make amends to you? You can still deal with things after the event, in order to get closure and move on.

If it's not something you can deal with now, and is not something that affects your life now, then you need to accept that what happened is in the past and it's best to put it to bed.

In your post you say 'they knew it would hurt me', so I think you have your answer as to why you were never told whatever it was. You may not have acted the same way if the tables were turned, but none of us have a crystal ball and we all do what we think is best at the time.

I hope you can reconcile whatever it is that is bothering you and move on.

POPPYOSCAR

Victory I think you have raised a very interesting debate here, with many possible answers.

I hope whatever it is you can overcome the obvious difficulties it has caused.

Acc72

As others have said, it is impossible to give an opinion without knowing further facts.

However, based on the fact that you have started this thread and the comments you have made, if somebody has taken it upon themselves to not tell you something that may upset you, it is hardly surprising - you don't sound like the type who would have taken it well if you were told or not.

DVardysShadow

splishsplash wrote: »

Has your id been jijacked? :O

kitsonchen has been PPR'd - what you see is the evidence for that person being a repaste spam moron.