Whats the best way to ask for money on a wedding invitation?

MoneyMiser

sugarwalsh wrote: »

Out of interest, why do you give less if someone has asked? I find it a strange thing to do. I still stand by the fact that if someone says something along the lines of 'we don't expect presents but if you want to give us something then we would like money' they are not ASKING for money, just making a suggestion IF you WANT to give them something. They aren't saying 'Give us money or don't come'! Do you give a lower priced gift if they have sent a gift list too?
Megan

Agreed this is what we have done. In both the day and evening invites we have included a poem that says IF you WANT to make a donation then we would be most grateful.

Really getting sick of some of the people on here with their 'holier than thou' attitude.

MM

sugarwalsh

I am just interested - personally I think it says more about the person who is giving if they reduce the amount than the person who sent our the invite.
MEgan

Idiophreak

I swear some people just have shares in toaster companies

DaisyFlower

funnyguy wrote: »

My daughter who has been living with her partner for 2 years is getting married in August.All they need is money for a honeymoon.How best is this to word this?.Would it be good to put account details oninvitation?

Just charge an entry fee, amounts to the same thing.

A marriage is supposed to be about the couple making their vows to each other, nowadays it seems a money making adventure for those that fancy a holiday or their house remodelling.

We decline all invites that ask for cash. A present is supposed to be given willingly, not asked for and certainly not asked for as cash.

lazer

sugarwalsh wrote: »

I am just interested - personally I think it says more about the person who is giving if they reduce the amount than the person who sent our the invite.
MEgan

2 reasons for it
1) I find it very rude to ask for money (or a gift in a fact) - even if it is politely put by saying that you don't expect a gift, if you really don't expect a gift, why mention it then?
2) When buying a gift, it tends to be something I know the couple want, therefore am usually prepared to pay more than I would give if its cash, that is all just going to be banked or used to pay for x,y,z. Whereas with a gift, the couple will actually use it, so paying more for something quality is more worthwhile.


In terms of a gift list - I'm divided on these, I would not include them with an invitation as I have said above it is an expectation that you will receive a gift, however if the couple have one, I would probably spend around the same amount on it as I would on a different gift. (Although if they didn't have the gift list, I could probably find the same item cheaper elsewhere and buy something along with it, or buy something bigger).

Idiophreak

DaisyFlower wrote: »

We decline all invites that ask for cash.

I think I'm just going to take a deep breath and walk away from the thread slowly...

sugarwalsh

I'm following you idio.
Megan

DaisyFlower

I dont see whats wrong with declining invites, i dont go everywhere i'm invited too.

I decline wedding invites asking for cash as i think weddings are special events to be cherished and shared with family and firends, I dont want an invite just so the bride can have the honeymoon etc paid for by others.

beckwa666

I never go to a wedding empty handed and much prefer to have some indication of what people want for their wedding present. I have two weddings this year and neither had any indication so I had to chase them both when I would rather have known up front what they wanted (coincidently they both want money for their honeymoons). Time is precious for me as I'm very busy with work and planning my own wedding so would have preferred to know up front. This is just my opinion!!

JOHN1982

Over 60 replies in 4 days! That's got to be some sort of record!

Perhaps one of these should become a sticky thread?! Save everyone having the same argument every time someone asks!







I'm definitely asking for money in our invites. Think I may simply word it as;
"We've lived together for half a decade, don't bring us presents, bring us cash!"