Whats the best way to ask for money on a wedding invitation?

sugarwalsh

Goodness. ^^ that is just so tacky it is almost brilliant.

Megan

Idiophreak

74jax wrote: »

the website i use - gettingmarried.co.uk has a cash gift lift, I have not used it though so comment on that part.

yep, this is what I used.

Didn't actually use the gift list bit or paypal, but just gave a list of things with pretty pictures and said (in pretty non-offensive words) "we'd like contributions towards these things" at the top of the page.

Most people got the idea, we got a whole bunch of cash (both GBP and USD - honeymooning in the states) and a few cheques. Only had one person say "please use this money for XXXX", but still sent everyone a thank you card saying which of the things there money had been spent on.

Miskate

74jax wrote: »

the website i use - gettingmarried.co.uk has a cash gift lift, I have not used it though so comment on that part.

I've tried that one but you can only set up a cash gift list if you pay £15

I've signed up though as £15 is the cheapest I've seen so far! Thank you.

Hezzawithkids

Ladybird_Lady wrote: »

I'm getting married this year, and we're asking for contributions to our honeymoon for various reasons - lots of our friends have done it, and like them we have lived together for a while and are lucky enough to have amassed everything we need. We've included an information sheet with our invite, and on it have put words along the lines of "we're lucky enough to have everything we need, and are not expecting a gift. However, if you do want to give us a gift, we'd love a contribution to our honeymoon." Other friends have written little poems, but I do think it's important to put what you want to spend the money on, else it does seem a little like giving random cash. There are some websites where you can give people the option of buying you something specific like an experience on honeymoon or contribution to a particular piece of furniture that are quite nice ideas.

We know a few family members would prefer to give gifts rather than cash so we will probably set up a small gift list for those that ask.

I think asking for money is fairly common now.

I think this is a perfectly acceptable approach. When we got married 20 years ago we waited until people asked and then sent them a gift list but it's all different now. We had a wedding invite last year that used this exact approach as above and we were more than happy just to enclose a cheque with their card. The couple also put together a token gift list of small items for anyone who didn't want to give cash. No offence taken on our part at all. It's what the couple want after all, not what anyone else thinks is right.

EllieBelly1

Hadley1 wrote: »

Hi Ellie, I am thinking of using Kuoni to book a safari holiday. So good to know they are helpful. Have you sent out your invites yet? If so, how have they gone down?

Haven't sent them out yet, am still making the invites. Will go out next month, eeeeeee, so excited!!

Kuoni have been brilliant, if you go to the Winchester branch ask for Natalie!

I am towards the last of my group of friends to get married and all have had a gift list of sorts including a note in invite or a card with the details in the invite, I don't find it rude or offensive in any way. It is tradition to give a gift and I would rather give people what they would like. Putting bank details in is a step too far though!! We have covered the cost of our honeymoon ourselves so any gift contributions will be a lovely bonus.

PolishBigSpender

funnyguy wrote: »

My daughter who has been living with her partner for 2 years is getting married in August.All they need is money for a honeymoon.How best is this to word this?.Would it be good to put account details oninvitation?

There's no good way to do that.

lazer

ZsaZsa wrote: »

I've not only had account details on the invitation, but a request that the money be paid asap so the honeymoon could be booked :eek:

As a guest to a wedding, I find the requests for money offensive, and to be honest if I had received an invitation with your request on it, I would be giving you much less than I normally would.

My Normal contribution for a wedding would be £50 if its just me going £80 - £100 if my fiance is going to,
However if someone asks for money, this is reduced to £40 and £70 or maybe less depending on how well I know the person.

74jax

lazer wrote: »

As a guest to a wedding, I find the requests for money offensive, and to be honest if I had received an invitation with your request on it, I would be giving you much less than I normally would.

My Normal contribution for a wedding would be £50 if its just me going £80 - £100 if my fiance is going to,
However if someone asks for money, this is reduced to £40 and £70 or maybe less depending on how well I know the person.

That is what zsazsa was ASKED for, not what she REQUESTED.

lazer

74jax wrote: »

That is what zsazsa was ASKED for, not what she REQUESTED.

Sorry zsazsa - misread it!

sugarwalsh

Out of interest, why do you give less if someone has asked? I find it a strange thing to do. I still stand by the fact that if someone says something along the lines of 'we don't expect presents but if you want to give us something then we would like money' they are not ASKING for money, just making a suggestion IF you WANT to give them something. They aren't saying 'Give us money or don't come'! Do you give a lower priced gift if they have sent a gift list too?
Megan