Whats the best way to ask for money on a wedding invitation?

White_Sapphire

OP, I hope you're prepared for the firmly-put views that a discussion of monetary wedding gifts usually provokes...

Personally, as others have said, I wouldn't put requests for money in an invite at all. We are requesting honeymoon contributions, and are setting up a website with wedding details like transport, maps, hotel info etc, and including our request there. Another option is for the couple to let people contact them asking what they want.

I feel that a slightly more polite way of doing it is to make clear exactly what the money will be used for; I'm thinking of setting up a list with items on it like a meal in a specific restaurant, or an activity. It somehow seems a bit more personal than putting money into an account without knowing what it will be spent on.

daisiegg, I think that it was very rude of your ex's sister to cash in gifts that people had spent time and thought buying. That, IMHO, is how not to do it!

PinkPrincess83

funnyguy wrote: »

My daughter who has been living with her partner for 2 years is getting married in August.All they need is money for a honeymoon.How best is this to word this?.Would it be good to put account details oninvitation?

I definitely wouldn't put bank details in an invite- to me that would come across very rude (I would take it that a gift is expected whereas in my opinion although a gift is nice it shouldnt be assumed that every guest will bring a gift)- plus you wouldnt easily know who it is from.

Ladybird_Lady

I'm getting married this year, and we're asking for contributions to our honeymoon for various reasons - lots of our friends have done it, and like them we have lived together for a while and are lucky enough to have amassed everything we need. We've included an information sheet with our invite, and on it have put words along the lines of "we're lucky enough to have everything we need, and are not expecting a gift. However, if you do want to give us a gift, we'd love a contribution to our honeymoon." Other friends have written little poems, but I do think it's important to put what you want to spend the money on, else it does seem a little like giving random cash. There are some websites where you can give people the option of buying you something specific like an experience on honeymoon or contribution to a particular piece of furniture that are quite nice ideas.

We know a few family members would prefer to give gifts rather than cash so we will probably set up a small gift list for those that ask.

I think asking for money is fairly common now.

NoAngel

Our friends included a honeymoon gift list - eg. romantic candle lit dinner, boat trip etc... I thought this was a very nice idea and indeed they got given money. We haven't yet decided what to do. I think we'll assume people will ask either us or our parents and we can request money then for our honeymoon, but otherwise will leave it up to each guest to decide.

Bigmoney2

They could ask for vouchers e.g. Trailfinders

wanchai_2

Bank details in an invite = :eek:

MrsDrink

dorsetlady67 wrote: »

So she is going to have a double sided save the day cards printed out
with the 'save the date' one side & this little message on the other side.

:eek: on the save the date card?! Eeeek!

mancitychick

My friend got married last year and she had a poem (like one of the ones quoted further up the thread) printed on to little cards, about the size of a business card. She popped one in each invite.

kaylee*

I think it's cheeky and a bit tacky to ask for anything!
I think you should wait for people to ask what you would like, then you can tell them.

EllieBelly1

We have booked our honeymoon with Kuoni and they have a gift list thingy on their website you can use. They send you out little cards to put in your invite. They were actually wonderful to book through, we went back and forth about what we wanted and they were really patient and informative and put together a fantastic package for us.