name confusion

mishkanorman

JodyBPM wrote: »

My children call my mum and dad Grandma and Grandad, and DH's mum and dad Nanny and Grandad. Obviously that means they have 2 Grandads. It's never caused any confusion though - if they are talking to us and need to clarify which Grandad they are talking about, they just say "Grandma's Grandad" or "Nanny's Grandad".

IIRC, Nanny actually wanted to be called Nan, rather than Nanny, but the children just chose to call her Nanny. Honestly, as the child grows up, it will make its own decisions over what to call you, and if a distinction is needed then the child will automatically do that.

This whole thing is a mountain out of molehill IMO, focus on what is important - your lovely new grandchild, who cares what she calls you!

Exactly the same for us, my parents are nanny and grandad, husbands are grandma & grandad, my nanny is called nanny (first name) his grandma is called great grandma.

Anytime they are not sure its nanny's grandad or grandmas grandad.

balletshoes

I had 2 Grannys and 2 Grandads - we knew which one was being referred to because we used their surnames ie Granny Brown or Granny Davies etc.

My sister's kids use the same system for their grandparents.

My DD has only known one set of grandparents, my parents, they are Granny and Grandad.

My other sister's kids had a slightly different system - my parents were Granny and Grandad Brown, my BILs dad is Grandad Jim.

My brother's daughter calls my mum Granny, and her mum's mum Gran.

Katgrit

Both sets of my Grandparents were "Nanna Surname" etc. My friend had Nanny Liverpool (who lived nearby) and Nanny Friday. So called because she lived in London, so was only visited at weekends - and they always set off on a Friday. At woman at work still has her own grandparents alive so her children, in addition to their own Nan and Grandad, have "More Nan" and "More Grandad" which i think is just lovely.

balletshoes

Katgrit wrote: »

Both sets of my Grandparents were "Nanna Surname" etc. My friend had Nanny Liverpool (who lived nearby) and Nanny Friday. So called because she lived in London, so was only visited at weekends - and they always set off on a Friday. At woman at work still has her own grandparents alive so her children,
in addition to their own Nan and Grandad, have "More Nan" and "More Grandad" which i think is just lovely.

yes, a friend of my DD's has her grandma and great-grandma living locally, they are called "little Nana" (grandma) and "Big Nana" (great-grandma) .

Savvy_Sue

*max* wrote: »

Often when they learn to talk they will get names wrong, and those will stick. I have been calling my older brother by the name I "came up with" as I was learning to talk, and I still do! And he doesn't mind, nobody does. It's our "thing" I guess!

:rotfl: DS1 called his best friend 'Nanny' for a long time: I think it was his version of his own name - I am [name with As and Ns in]; my friend is not a grown up, he is more like me than anything else I know, therefore he must be a [name with As and Ns in].

*max* wrote: »

My nephew was just born (my brother's child), and I had several conversations with my mum about what we would like him to call us. She can't make up her mind (even harder because her and the other grandma have the same first name! lol). We came to the conclusion that it didn't matter. Baby - and then toddler - will call us by the name that they 1/ can pronounce and 2/like. Baby will know who they are talking about, and will find a way to differentiate. And it will be special.

And one of my grandmas was always 'Gaga' - not because she WAS gaga, but because that's the first approximation to 'Grandma' one of us came out with! :rotfl:

*max* wrote: »

Edit: it's even more awkward because I live in the UK, but I'm French. They live in France, but my sister in law is American. So I will never know what language to speak with my nephew! It's started already, so confusing. lol

Again, the boy will understand. If it helps, I have English friends who brought their children up in France: Dad always spoke to them in French and Mum in English. They quickly learned that when 'out' we speak French, when 'in' we can speak either or both ("Moi, je not WANT that" springs to mind!) Only when in England, we speak English when out ...

sunshine2223

balletshoes wrote: »

yes, a friend of my DD's has her grandma and great-grandma living locally, they are called "little Nana" (grandma) and "Big Nana" (great-grandma) .

My Nan's are Little Nan and Big Nan

But Big Nan is actually younger than Little Nan - it all came about when I was very little and not knowing that I was being offensive, chose to differentiate by their size...

Luckily neither of them seem to mind and they have always been called Big and Little affectionately by my sisters and I

too_much_debt

sunshine2223 wrote: »

My Nan's are Little Nan and Big Nan

But Big Nan is actually younger than Little Nan - it all came about when I was very little and not knowing that I was being offensive, chose to differentiate by their size...

Luckily neither of them seem to mind and they have always been called Big and Little affectionately by my sisters and I

I also grew up with a Big Nan and a Little Nan, Little Nan was 5'11 and Big Nan was about 5'2, it was my brother who started those names.

I also had a Great Nan who was 'Great Nanny', my Great Nan died aged 95 when I was 19, I have now lost my other Nan's and my Grandad (I only had one Grandad).

My children have my parents who are Ma and Pa (Grandma and Grandpa) and Nanny (OH's mum, his dad is dead), they also had my Nan (Big Nan) who died a year and a half ago aged 93, they called her Great Nanny.

missmontana

Didn't see original post, just wanted to add my 2p....

Mums mum and dad were Nanny and Grandad Kneller, even tho I never knew them.

My Nan, was Nan, my dads mum, cos she was only 40 when my bro was born and she said Grandma made her sound old. My little boy calls her Nanny.

I purposely made him call my mum and dad Grandma and Grandad, to take the mickey cos they are old! He would call them Mom-ma and Dan-dan when he couldn't talk properly.

He calls my god father Mr Grandpa, cos his granchildren call him grandpa.

My friends little girl made a name up for her nan, which is Peppy! She's always called her that since she could speak.

So everyone is different

nearlyrich

My (Step) grandchildren call me by my given name sometimes I get "Nanny XXXX" from the youngest or even Grandma whatever it doesn't matter what they call me I just love to be part of their lives.

thatgirlsam

I had a Nan and a Granny and 2 Grandads, although me and my brothers did refer to one as smartie grandad (he used to bring us smarties!)

My ex had a black nanny and a white nanny

One had black hair and the other had white