name confusion

Saint_Chris

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Tiddlywinks

So you are the grandmother and your mother is the great grandmother - have I got that right?

When your kids (and other grandchildren) were growing up what did they call your mum - was it nanny? Is it a habit she has just gotten into?

Does she have any other great grandchildren? If yes, what do they call her?

Nan and Nanny are very similar and it is tempting when talking to a baby to say Nanny as it sounds, I don't know, more like baby chat I suppose.

I can see why you think it is important to get consistency so everyone knows - couldn't each of you be nanny+first or surname? That's what we do in our family.

heretolearn_2

this all seems a bit mountain out of a molehill, to be honest with you. 9 times out of 10 kids make up their own new nicknames for people anyway in the end, and while I can see why you want a name that's special to you, that's just your feeling, but I don't think it's confusing to the child at all to have the same. After all, did you dictate to the other set of grandparents what their names were going to be? It's very normal for kids to have 2 nannies or 2 grandas or whatever, one on each side. As I said, kids normally add a bit or change the name to distinguish between the two. My poor mum was forever known as 'big nanna' to my sisters kids - she wasn't an unusual size really but the nanna on the other side was tiny, and so 'little nanna'. I know a kid with a grandpa K and a grandpa Jim. You might end up as 'young nannie' and your mum as 'old nannie'

Saint_Chris

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Saint_Chris

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Tiddlywinks

Saint_Chris wrote: »

hi
yes i am the grandmother and my mum is the great grandmother

i only have 1 daughter and she always called her nan

no other great grandchildren

maybe we could, but i don't see why i can't be nannie and my mum nan, (she thinks thats 2 confusing for the baby, with my daughter calling her nan, and her great grand child calling her nan, so she thinks having 2 nannies is the right way to go about it.

I don't want to be sat in a room with my mum, and in the future someone say 'go to your nannie' and my grandaughter to to my mum.

So, come up with some agreed names now before the baby realises there's a dispute.

What is your daughter's mum in law going to be known as?

Don't you think you might be a bit precious about this because it's your first grandchild? Don't let this spoil everything as it's not that big a deal if you just take a step back and see it for what it really is - would it be so bad to be called something else and let you mum be nanny? Really?

faerie~spangles

I know how you feel. My son's gf is insisting their little one calls me gran and I don't want to be called that, LOL Her mother got to choose.

Anyhoo I plan to work on her when we Skype. They live abroad.



You could become Nonnie or Nonna, same but different

Saint_Chris

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heretolearn_2

it's no different to having two people in the family called Bob, you wouldn't make one of them change their name so as to not confuse a baby! One of my friends has just given her son the same name as his dad and grandfather - if they can get over that confusion without scarring the kid for life I think most kids can cope with two nannies.

I understand you have strong feelings about it and want to have your own name. Why not try to talk to them from that point of view, rather than taking the 'confusing for the child' route which probably won't be agreed with. It sounds as though you are trying to find a reason for it; just be honest.

JB1971

Can you not just relax and enjoy your grandchild? And allow your mum to enjoy her great-grandchild? It doesn't matter what either of you are called - she won't be confused, or love either of you any more/less! I had 15 sets of aunties and uncles, more cousins than I can count, two sets of grandparents and one great grandmother (as well as countless great aunties and uncles etc!) Funnily enough, I always managed to tell them apart (even though ALOT of the men had the same name!)

Eliza_2

Or maybe both be nan/nannie but with something else afterwards. My mum was Grandma Seaside for years, and two granddads in the family are named after their cats - so Granddad Tigger and Granddad Puss. They love it.

Nan and nannie are too similar, it's easy to say nannie when you mean nan because as someone else has said, we so often put the 'ie' sound on the end of words when talking to babies. Very easy genuinely to forget.

Don't see why the name matters really, could you not be gran or grandma? I'm gran but couldn't care less what they call me, I'm just so proud to be their grandmother. The other grandma is nanny and my mother is greatgrannynannie!!!