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Sambucus_Nigra

Sorry but I don't believe a word of it; they've been scheming since they spilt the beans and that's the best excuse they have come up with? Total rot.

BlondeHeadOn

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Sorry but I don't believe a word of it; they've been scheming since they spilt the beans and that's the best excuse they have come up with? Total rot.

^^^ This ^^^^

I don't believe the given explanation either !

**curlywurly**

OP, I feel for you. The excuse you have been given is total tosh. How were they planning to keep this from you? Utterly ridiculous.

You are worth more, and you can see from the general opinion on this thread that's what most people think!

dontone

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Sorry but I don't believe a word of it; they've been scheming since they spilt the beans and that's the best excuse they have come up with? Total rot.

I don't believe it either. TBH OP I think you are better off without them, they seem rather selfish.

My best friend from school had a baby a long time ago, and through her pregnancy and after he was born she asked me to be his godmother. I was rather chuffed to be asked, so accepted. I bought her bits for him (as you do) and looked forward to it - we'd see each other regularly - you know, proper friend stuff.
Anyway, when he was around 4 months old, I saw her in town with some people I didn't know and when I went up to say hiya, she acted like she didn't want to know. It was really strange, it was like I'd interrupted something important. Then a couple of days later, I saw her and all was well, she was organising the christening, told me that she was looking forward to me being GM and invite were going out in a few weeks, yadda yadda yadda. Then she asked me what I was doing at the weekend, and I said that I was going to see my (now DH) BF and she was pleased that I'd found someone and what have you. Then suddenly, on the Friday - two days later - she rang me to tell me that the christening was on the Sunday. And I told her that I was going away and why not mention it before? She just said, "well, yesterday we got told that someone had cancelled!!" Completely knocked me for six, and I just said fine and put the phone down.
It turned out that she had booked it 7 weeks before and when I saw her in town, she was picking up her outfit and the people she was with were the actual GP's and basically she dropped me and didn't have the guts to tell me. Afterwards her mother told mine that she said that I'd backed out, and my Mam went beserk and told her the truth - which her mother actually believed my side of the story, and she apologised on her behalf.
I have never really bothered with her after that. When I look back, the friendship was one sided anyway. During our teenage years, she spent her time getting into trouble, and I spent my time getting her out of it. When the baby was born, it was a case of what she could get out of me, and suddenly, I'd served my purpose and got dropped like a hot brick. I don't see her much now, about once every couple of years, but when I do, I know that did the right thing by cutting her out of my life because I can see how childish and self centred she is.

What I'm trying to say OP is that people like that aren't worth the trouble. You would be much better off finding some new friends who will respect and appreciate your friendship far more than these people.

Ich_2

Walk away, head held high, don't contact them, don't reply if they contact you (it'll drive them mad).

I/we had issues about 12 months ago following a Caribbean holiday/wedding with what we thought close friends (the couple that got married), lets just say that things went pear shaped upon our return. I/we took the decision to just walk away as the other side would not accept any responsibility, despite insulting my OH and another close friend while we were there (and soon after our return).
Counting up they were just outside the handful of close and true friends.

Don't get me wrong it hurt me to do it & it still hurts now, I still care about them (but am not sure if they reciprocate) but there was no way it was to my/our benefit to stay in touch with them.

Buzz1024

Ich wrote: »

Walk away, head held high, don't contact them, don't reply if they contact you (it'll drive them mad).

couldn't agree more - just blank them completely as you're obviously not really part of the gang. Sure, it'll hurt for a bit but real friends don't do this to each other.

skintlass

You don't need friends like this. Is there a ringleader who is calling the shots perhaps? If they are not local it is easier to drop them and find new friends - yes it will hurt in the short to medium term but it will do you a lot more damage in the long term if you accept their treatment of you. You are worth more, and true friends don't exclude you.

motherofstudents

I don't believe this 'reason' either, it just doesn't add up somehow. I would just keep your distance and see what happens ie don't make contact and see if one of them contacts you. I hope you feel a bit better having read that this sort of thing has happened to other people and it is normal to feel hurt.

I had a similar experience to Steel. Went on holiday with 2 girls (they had been friends with each other for years) and while we were there we agreed we would go somewhere together the following year. When we got back home I went and got some holiday brochures and took them into work (I worked with one of them) She became very uncomfortable and eventually said she and the other friend were thinking of going to Romania (in fact they had already booked it) I was really upset and couldn't understand what had happened. Looking back I think that one of them felt that I was intruding on their friendship but I will never really know for sure. Anyway, I just kept a low profile and booked a holiday in Australia. It only cost me the air fare as I stayed with friends in Melbourne.

During a break at work, the subject of holidays came up and my friend said she was going to Romania - the others turned to me and asked if I was going so I said no.....I'm going to Australia. It was such a good feeling and my friend at least had the decency to look embarrassed.

So don't feel too bad, you are not alone but it is not a good way for so called friends to behave.