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QuackQuackOops

I dont know either. Perhaps you had indicated to them early on that you would find it hard to find the money or some other reason.
Maybe only 6 can fit in the apartment and it was first come first served.

But why ask on here? Go to them and ask them why you were left out?

Metranil_Vavin

oh dear, that does sound very hurtful.

I would say that unless it really was a genuine mistake, and they can happen in busy people's lives, I would be tempted to perhaps sound out one of the group and ask directly if you being left out was intentional.

If it turns out it was, personally I would be wanting to know why, and thinking to myself are these people really the sort of friends I want.

Might you have (unintentionally) upset someone in the group?

SandC

Oh Poltergeist, I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

Who knows why they have left you out but it's probably NOT that they all hate you. Sounds stupid but their communication must have been so dire that they left you out.

Oh I don't know what to say about it but in this case, I think the only options are to 1. walk away and remove yourself from this circle of friends completely. 2. pick one of them and have it out and demand an explanation after telling them how upset your are. 3. Send a group email to them all telling them you are really upset and you'd like to know if there was a reason you were left out of the arrangements.

The outcome of 2 and 3 might end in 1. anyway.

Please try not to take this too personally, it's a reflection on them and not you. If they do have a problem they should have said something no just left you out.

Peater

I think you'll just have to take it on the chin and move on. There's always 'one' in any group, it has been me a few times, been someone else others. C'est la vie.

Are you single by chance? I find that sometimes i seem to get left out of things as i'm one of the few singles in my group of friends. They feel like they are obliged to invite another single if they invite me, quite infuriating.

LandyAndy

Well they clearly don't want you on the holiday so move on and find some different 'friends'.

Why worry about the reason? If they don't want you along it isn't going to be for a reason you'll want to hear.

These people were out of your life before, Put them out of it again.

Do you want to be friends with backstabbing cowards?

ognum

Consider meeting one of the group that you have the best relationship with face to face, have a conversation about what has happened without aggression or preconceived ideas.

There could be many reasons for this and we are all inclined to make up the reason we prefer.

Please do not jump to conclusions, discuss it with an open mind, try to see things from th epoint of view of others as well as yourself.

Lastly and this is sometimes difficult, every situation is a learning environment, reflect on what you find out, the way you have written the title suggests you have already come to some conclusions so try not to.

deedee71

Poltergeist I can completely sympathise. A guy I went to school with since I was 4 contacted me on Facebook. We had a lovely 3 months together right up until he posted a relationship status update announcing he was in a relationship with someone else. Turned out a month after he met me he met someone else from school and had been seeing us both. We are all in our forties - not teenagers lol!

I guess what I'm saying is you're picking up the threads of friendship form many years ago and have no idea what kind of person they are now. And sustaining friendships when you don't have much common ground now can be hard.

Don't take it personally, difficult I know x

LandyAndy

poltergeist wrote: »

6 of us and sometimes more then less were going in June to Zante for a week, it got talked about, then put on the back burner as friends have family, commitments, money worries, kids, OH etc all in our early 30's all school friends, lost touch, then got back together, keep in touch on the phone, don't live close to each other but meet up, have long chats, email, text etc... chatting to one of them on th e phone, it seems they are all going and I am not.

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Do any of them 'start' these conversations with you? Or is it always you who calls or texts or emails first?

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LandyAndy

poltergeist wrote: »

6 of us and sometimes more then less were going in June to Zante for a week, .

poltergeist wrote: »

landy we all do yes not just me, I can pick up my phone and get a text or go online and there is an email or get a call on the landline in the evening so yes we all do our keeping in touch

So are there others of this group who are not going/have been left out?