No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

pollyanna_26

Lainey I am so happy you were able to allow the much needed respite for your DB and his wife . You are dealing now with day to day and between you all you will get through this time and know you are all united in love . Most importantly your Mum is aware she is surrounded by love and that will make things easier for her in the days ahead . Thank you for your kind words I did sleep for eight hours and dd seems to be sleeping for Britain 14 hours so far !
Lyn So lovely to have seen the beloved baby , not long at all now until you can give him an Oma cuddle . Thank you for your wise words and prayers . I am afraid dd is not a believer in much at all as trust went out of the window for her many years ago but she welcomes empathy and kind thoughts and has been grateful for your good and caring words in the past as I am sure she will be when she eventually wakes up .
She has a small number of real life friends . One is in her forties some ten years older than herself . She always puts me in mind of dear Monna . She is a very active member of a small local church and has appointed herself unofficial 2nd mum to a number of people from young to old . Like Monna she walks the walk supporting all in need by feeding them , listening to their worries and just being a friend . With a shared love of literature she sends poems , and quotes to my daughters phone and hilarious jokes .
Yesterday my daughter was so afraid and full of despair and she was inundated with love via her phone from her real life and virtual friends . Her beloved DW forum and emporium kept her going as did many others . I confess until a few years ago I had a deep distrust of the internet but looking at this and other threads I now recognise the value of .
Anyway I seem to be rambling - that's what comes of full nights sleep . Take care all and thanks for being here x
polly

pollyanna_26

Wish I knew how to edit a post !
Just realised I never got to the point re dds church friend . She phoned my daughter early yesterday morning and asked would she mind if the congregation prayed for her . Reply was I need all the help I can get . The dreaded assessment seems to have gone well so hopefully prayer and her beloved Terry Pratchett helped .
polly x

candlelight_2013

Oh dear Polly your poor daughter, she has obviously been ill for a long time. The strain you must be under, loving her and wanting her health to improve, whilst trying to cope with your own illness. I know how I felt when my DD was ill after her operation and took a year to recover, but nothing as long as your DD.

I hope you have some family support to help you through the very dark times, and you know we are all here for you, to listen to you if you want to offload, to support you, albeit virtual, and I know we all send our love to you and your DD. Will you tell your DD that we all wish for her illness to improve and that we send love to her.

I light candles every night for all of my friends, ill or not, and I do send a prayer. I think we all believe in something, and if that helps, so be it. It doesn't have to be a God, just something or someone that we feel we can talk to and hope to be listened to.

Polly I send strength and love to you both, and perhaps next year will be the year to see some improvement, in the meantime just love and look after each other.

Sending love and healing vibes

Candlelightx

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POLLY my friend, we believe in your lovely DD, we believe in you and because you are a cherished and valued part of our online family we hope, pray and wish for all that is good and loving to be in your lives. To support you both with our thoughts, prayers, words and caring is only what families do isn't it love? life is very hard sometimes and for me at least the knowledge that you are all sharing your warmth and love with me when I'm at lowest ebb lifts me and reassures me and helps put me back on a level footing as I hope it will do for both of you, blessings, Lyn xxx.

fuddle

You know, both Lainey and Polly's posts puts parenting into perspective. Parents want so much to protect their children, no matter how old. To have to see children suffer must be incredibly hard especially when the parent can't do anything at all to help, change or influence.

As an adult child I feel that we don't need that protection but it will never go from our parents even though I wish it could because it would ease some of the hurt for them in already upsetting times.

I know what I mean, but worried I'm talking in riddles or being insensitive. My circumstances are very different but essentially I am in the place now where I understand that my mam just wanted to protect us but got it all lost and muddled along the way. If I could say to Mam now I would say that I never needed protecting and it's through experiencing and dealing that I have gained strength.

As a mum I get it and as a daughter I get it but I will parent the way your family does Lainey and Polly - through discussion, support, belief, honesty and understanding.

Ignorance is no protection. It's in the understanding and in the dealing with that we get our strength. You're shining examples of that because that's how you've been brought up I guess. How I get to that point from the exact opposite I don't really know. I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks

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School of hard knocks my FUDDLEY ONE teaches values as pertinent and valid as those taught by parents. You've got to where you are today in both who you are and what you are by your own graft and determination and sheer guts and resilience, you've never given up and you've never given in and you ALWAYS move forward in spite of what this erstwhile world has dropped in your path. You my friend are GOOD PEOPLE!!!

LaineyT

Your integrity shines through all your posts Fuddle and I have no doubt that you have and will continue to create exactly the kind of family life that you believe in. You all have been so supportive of me through the recent hard times, have literally felt the goodwill flowing my way and that has lifted me many a time. No matter who and which deity you believe in or not, people who have such loving spirits will always project the right blessings to those around them.
Mum is at home with us and my heart is content, just little things mean the world like standing side by side in the kitchen, stripping the remains of Sunday's chicken for soup and nattering away ten to the dozen. It doesn't matter how long we have left, all that matters is the here and now.

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Not many people realise that love, enjoy, enjoy, enjoy bless you all it's what we've wanted for you, to achieve peace of heart and mind and find contentment and you're there NOW!!! xxx.

pollyanna_26

Just lost a long post that I began over two hours ago and kept leaving for long phone calls from eldest and middle daughter .
Will wish all a peaceful , warm and restful night .
Love to all , so happy you and mum are happy and content Lainey .
Fuds you are doing fine as I always knew you would .
Thank you dear Candlelight for your never ending caring support . Happy to see you looking forward to a return holiday . Do you think Himself will get Christmas over before " how many sleeps " begins .
Thanks as always for Lyns wise words .
Night night
polly xx

pollyanna_26

Good morning all . What a difference two proper nights sleep makes , today I feel energised again so will be getting stuck in to housework .
A very cold and frosty morning but the sun has got his hat on and it's nice and cheerful after the grey , wet and dismal last few days . I hope you all get some of the same .
I keep meaning to ask Lyn how the eating plan is going and whether you have seen the other doctor yet . The trouble with having to catch up on posts is I lose track . I know things were looking hopeful with support in school for your dd Fuds do they seem to be implementing the recommendations ? I hope it is making a difference .
I've been thinking over your post about parents . I had a good childhood not much in the way of material things but a library ticket from a very early age . We were well fed and clothed as well as could be afforded but back then I don't think working class parents had any idea that a child could be unhappy . Authority figures knew best and were never questioned . I think it isn't about a parental thing I think it's about whether you have empathy for all who need it not just your own flesh and blood . As Lyn said the school of hard knocks teaches a lot and as we are all individuals we know what is right for us . At the end of the day both your mum and dad loved you in their different ways and helped make you the strong woman you are today . If you had the time to go back over the years on the threads you would see how very far you've come .
Well I'd best get going on the day .
I hope Lainey and Mum had a good night .
Much love
polly xx