No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

fuddle

Me too hoglet. Very saddened to hear NZ's awful troubles. Hopefully you and yours are ok. x

Floss

Hoglet, hope you & your family and friends are all safe & well.

hoglet121

Hello,

Thank you all for your concern, we are well away from the epicentre and although everyone else I know seems to have felt the quake, both DH and I slept soundly through it.

Mum leaves today, it's been OK but I have had to bite my tongue a lot. I had many very early nights. The funeral was as good as these things can be and we had a lovely family meal out afterwards.

Fuddle, so pleased you have a diagnosis!

Biked in today - after a grim weekend weatherwise we had beautiful weather this morning so a good day for it. Taking a half day off today to get mum to the airport - she made a huge song and dance about how was she going to get there and I said well I've taken the afternoon off. Then it was a huge song and dance about I didn't need to do that - well what choice did I have? I wish she'd just say thank you and leave it at that. Sorry for moaning but this is what I find hard about her - she won't accept things graciously just bangs on and on about she didn't mean this and I didn't need to do that. She means well but it's so irritating. If she felt so bad about it she could have booked a return flight that departed during our weekend.... Sorry rant over.

Must get onto some work - and nip out for some bread for breakfast.

much love
Hogelt xx

candlelight_2013

Good to "see" you Hoglet, safe and sound, you must sleep well if you didn't feel anything.

You can rant as much as you like, we all do it from time to time. Well the visit will be over later today and you can be back to normal. You did it and you have survived, albeit with a sore tongue:)

Take care

much love

Candlelightx

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Glad you're all OK HOGLET, the news here is featuring the earthquake as first item so we know it's a big quake. We had a 5.7 when we lived in Germany, there is apparently a fault line running directly down the Rhine Valley and we were woken up in the wee small hours by the house going side to side, back and forwards and up and down simultaneously, the oddest feeling trying to stand up and having the wardrobe coming to meet me and then going away again. The only damage was a bamboo cane falling over in the garden but up in Cologne there were houses damaged and folks injured.

Well done on staying level while mum was with you, you can choose your friends can't you???

hoglet121

Yes it does seem to have been a big one, a couple of deaths and quite a bit of damage near the epicentre. I think the tsunami warning has been downgraded though. NZ's not called the Shaky Isles for nothing!

LaineyT

Glad to hear you are all ok Hoglet and well done on surviving the Mum visit!

Well one thing that the last few days have taught me is that I seriously need to start looking after myself more, my immune system just isn't what it should be and this virus has laid me low. So will be keeping a far more careful eye on my diet, trying to ensure that at least once a day I take time just for me and on the whole just be more aware that I don't have unlimited reserves.
We did have Mum at ours for the day today which was fab, we didn't do loads but enjoyed every minute and I also managed to get over to see my lovely boy for a while which restores me no end.
Have some tentative plans for looking at cars tomorrow but other than that not a lot planned for the week, much love to all xx

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Morning all, milder here this morning by quite some margin and we got to see the super moon last night with a beautiful halo round it, almost a rainbow but not quite! A 'bitty' day today with both of us having a multitude of little jobs to get through usually in different places, I'll catch up with him this evening! Diet is progressing and most days are bearable although we both got really hungry yesterday afternoon so I pulled supper forward an hour or we might have eaten something on the forbidden list (most things sadly!). We'll do it though the end of this week and the weekend itself will be challenging as we have to go to Nell to take a mid week delivery for her and then I'm staying up for a concert until Monday and we'll have to make sensible and lower fat/calorie/sugar choices if we eat out, sad but necessary. I've made my second appointment with a different GP and will seek clarification of why the BP figures weren't OK but even I think the weight loss will be a good thing I just wish the surgery had some help available but they don't not even a weigh in clinic so I'll have to do it by myself, I can't do slimming clubs, no way!

Glad you had a nice day with mum LAINEY, you look after your little self too, we can't have you getting poorly too and your stamina does diminish somewhat as you get older so pacing yourself is a really good thing, be kind to Lainey and all will be well pet xxx.

fuddle

Hi everyone Yes, it's warmer here too but I don't know about magical things happening last night as I was tucked away behind my curtains.

I've met up with my dad's other sister today. I met the first one on the day of mam's funeral but the 2nd one was in Australia at the time. I haven't seen either of them since my dad died. My mam did a good job of pushing people away. A lot of chat about my dad and a lot of tears. My mam dying is opening up new doors for me in terms of support networks and stories about my mam and my dad of old.

I feel sad but comforted. This journey isn't over by a long shot and on a practical level I still have to get the probate application submitted. Not today, tomorrow.

Good to hear you and yours are ok Hoglet and Lainey please, please look after yourself. You'll be low with what you're coping with and take it from me, and I'm invincible , that a lowered immune system can knock you off your feet. I'm thinking of you a lot Lainey. Take real good care of you. x

candlelight_2013

Dear Fuddle it sounds as though your life is changing for the better, after having such an awful time.

How lovely to hear stories about your Mum and Dad when they were young, and from people who knew them well. Hopefully you will now have an extended family who will be there, even if it is just to have a chat with them on the phone.

I don't know whether you have actually noticed but your posts have changed. Yes, I know you are sad and upset about Mum, but you are beginning to sound so positive about your life, as though some great weight has been lifted. It is lovely you have re-discovered your Aunts and perhaps there are some cousins as well. I know you are a very private person, but isn't it good to know there are other family members you can reconnect with if you wish and were part of your Dad's life as well.

Look after yourself

Much love

Candlelightx