No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

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Good morning my friends, am back home as of late last night and so is Nell. They had a fantastic Paris trip and I spoke to her at half ten when she got into the house to an ecstatic welcome from Pushycat!!!

Ezra was really poorly, a horrible bug going round the nursery and laying the staff low as well as the babies. He's the snotty champion of the world and we've had a couple of days bonding (not that we needed it) and gently playing and looking after him. He seemed much brighter yesterday afternoon but because of his congestion he hasn't really eaten for a week and is hungry but can't eat what he wants when he is given it. Yesterday he had some jelly and finished the bowl, a first so hopefully he's on the mend, poor pickle.

I've slept like a log and have woken up with a very sore knee (playing trains on the floor) and a very sore shoulder ( carrying a poorly boy when he needed it) so I'm going to have a reasonably easy day, just a bit of housework and making us Irish Stew for supper as I have a stew pack in the fridge that needs using up.

FUDS so glad you're on the mend love, you and your sister are being wonderfully strong over Mum and will see each other through this traumatic period and it will strengthen your relationship like nothing else could. Lovely to hear you each have a role and are supporting each other through it and each doing what is within your 'area' of expertise. Bless you both, it's a dark time but it will pass and you'll find 'level' again.

Hope you are all keeping well, not too chilly here today which is nice, we have Cookie until tomorrow afternoon and of course Zebra isn't well enough to come for this weekend so all plans on hold until he is able to come. Going to chat to both girls today which will be nice and then just 'pootle' through the rest of the day, home IS nice!!! Lyn xxx.

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We have just sat and podded out 1lb 9oz of beautiful haricot style beans from the old hairy hoary beans that I let dry on the vine. Food for nothing, food that will keep all winter can't be bad can it? now we both have back ache but it's worth it!

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Lyn, well done, have a nice cup of tea now to ease the back.

I hope Ezra is feeling much better now and Nell is happy to be back with Pushkin.

Not too cold here today and definitely dry. Himself went for his medicaton review this afternoon, so the box is ticked and he can have more prescriptions now.

My sister and BIL called this morning and it was nice to see them. My sister and I had both been looking for celeriac to make soup and neither of us could find it, but then yesterday I found some in Sainsbobs so I bought one for her as well. I made our soup yesterday and it was lovely, I have never made it before.

Not a lot planned for the weekend, Himself is a bit down at the moment, so I just have to go with the flow. I understand why, but he is on an even keel thankfully, but he finds it difficult to accept sometimes that he will never be the way he was. I just have to keep re-assuring him but it can be quite draining sometimes. Sorry, self pity over now.

We have to pop out for a few things tomorrow, I forgot to buy bleach yesterday so I must have that and some sweeties for Halloween. Last year we didn't have many callers, so I don't know what this weekend will hold.

Lainey I hope Mum is still relatively well and enjoying all her visitors.

Fuddle, are you home yet? I expect you will be pleased to sleep in your own bed, but remember steady does it. I am so pleased you and your sister can share the tasks ahead, some people are good with the practical things and others with the endless paperwork to be filled in. You are one brave lady planning the Eulogy, I don't think I could do that. I have a friend on here who did it for her beloved husband recently I think she was so brave.

Have a good weekend everyone if I am not back

Much love

Candlelightx

fuddle

Beans beans beans. What will you do with them Lyn?

I can understand why Himself will be down candlelight and I can understand how draining propping up negativity can be for you. To have to be the strong one with all the words must be draining.

We are home candlelight. Nice to be back. I promise I am taking it easy, and DH helped me, but I have wrapped the armless armchair this evening. (It's a sofa that DH has cut to bits to make an armchair for our bedroom - except it has no arms! It's been uncovered but well used when I had pneumonia again and had to sleep upright) We wrapped it in the summer duvet because it would be cheaper to replace that than invest in wadding. It's looking good.

The Eulogy was a difficult thing to do, not least because it was upsetting but it was trying to find the lady that essentially she was, that others saw from the woman who hasn't been herself because of the drink. I worked with her when I worked in secondary schools so I could comment on her work persona, the girls told me a funny story, I told a funny story and wrote about how she brought up both me and my sister, mostly on her own and through her grief and that we were strong women with the tools to cope with life. I hope I have done her proud. My sister has done hers too. I won't be talking on the day and it will hurt to hear my words in that situation but I'm going to be a mess anyway.

These are times that I haven't experienced before and not sure what to expect but as the days go on I am gaining in strength and losing the tears.

Candlight DH is celeriac soup maker in our house. He follows Hugh Fernley Wittingstall recipe and has often been our Christmas dinner starter. We love it

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I will dry them on the boiler on a tray for a couple of weeks, then they'll be bagged up and go in the freezer for 48 hours to make sure there are no insects and then they'll go into a kilner jar and I'll use them for soups/stews right through the winter. I soak them overnight in water with some bicarbonate of soda, I prefer pulses with softer skins and that does the trick and then simmer them with a bay leaf and sometimes an onion slice until they're soft and cooked but not mushy. I just love the idea of not wasting the beans that get to fibrous and hard to eat as green beans.

fuddle

I still have a lot to learn Lyn I love that idea too. I especially love how you don't shy away from a bit of graft to harvest useless stuff to make into useful food stuffs.

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I'm just greedy!!!

LaineyT

Hello all,

Just a quick visit as am picking Mum up soon to spend the day at ours. On the whole she is not doing too badly, managing to enjoy her various visitors and making the most of things. We have almost abandoned all hope of getting the needed care from her home county and have asked for everything to be transferred to Cambridgeshire instead. We did have a visit from a lady from the local hospice and she has promised they would provide help when the time comes, let's hope that is the case.
Am so glad Fuddle that you and your sister are working together to sort everything out, how right that you have written the eulogy and remembered the woman she was. Gentle hugs to you all x

Likewise Candlelight, it must be hard on both of you that Himself is down at the moment, don't think the shorter, darker days help, love to you both x

Hope Ezra is feeling better Lyn and your joints are recovering from the recent visit!

Must dash, much love to all and enjoy your weekends xx

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Hi LAINEY Ezra is back to his 'naughty' little usual self according to his mum and is eating again and going through the night in his own little bed so I think he's really on the mend thank goodness, poorly little man he was!

Glad to see mum is as OK as she can be and still able to enjoy the odd trip out with you and you are very sensible to secure the best future treatment and help for her that you can it's that 'post code lottery' thing again isn't it with the variations in what's available in different areas, a nightmare.

My knees and shoulder are OK, it's just unaccustomed use over a sustained period that makes me creak, I'm going into town on the bus this morning for a couple of things I need and then Cookie is going home this afternoon when her family are back from their hols in the west country. I'll miss her but it will be nice to not have to remember to keep closing all the doors upstairs, many trips from half way down have been made, it's an age thing!!!

fuddle

Aw Lainey, you post so affectionately and warmly in a time that is so upsetting. Gentle hugs to you too. x

I've come home to next door's rabbit in my garden. She's been there a while because of the droppings. I knocked for them to have her back and found they don't want her back. She took it moaning that it bites, wrapping it in a blanket when it wriggled free. I caught it and carried it the way it should be carried, still and heart racing out of fear into their garden.

I awake to find it back in the garden today. I don't know what to do other than just let it roam. Two girl rabbits would surely fight even though mine has been speyed. She would be good company for mine though but I could be opening a whole host of problems. I just feel for her and worried she'll be lost if we leave the gate open.

I'm off with my sister to visit our cousin's today. (My cousin is married to a girl who has been in the family since I was little so she is my cousin too) we were all very close in the years after my dad died but as with everything and everyone mam pushed them away gradually over the years. I feel comfortable with them though. I consider them to be my only other family - plus they have a beautiful doggy and a new puppy.

My electric went off this morning. Mid wash load. It's likely to be back on by 11 but bang goes my scrambled egg on toast and although I could get the camping stove out I cannat be bothered and will have cereal instead. <

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rubbish prepper sometimes :rotfl: