No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

LaineyT

That's one of the things that I like, no love, most about this thread, how gentle and easy going it is, just like minded people talking about the normal things in life?

So, new fridge freezer has arrived and how splendid it is is. Was thinking it about earlier and realised have never had a new one, only preloved or donated by relatives so forgive me if I happen to be seen gently stroking it's shiny surface as walk into the kitchen I did go shopping after work and picked up some YS meat / fish which have frozen, must admit to feeling a little worried not to have something in reserve so to speak. Daft really. No doubt will gradually build it up again over the next few weeks.

Not much else going on, had a new manager start at work on Tuesday and am already worried he won't be strong enough to stand up to our supervisor. His handshake was wet and weak, never a good sign! Anyways only time will tell, he might have hidden strengths, you never know.

Anyways, better get a wriggle on as need to pop over and see Bill, going to see a possible new home for him at the weekend.....in no hurry, will take my time and make the right decision.

Love to all xx

Friends indeed dear Candlelight x

candlelight_2013

Lainey you are entitled to be chuffed about your new fridge freezer. I know you and DH took some time looking into the right one for you, a pity JL let you down. I know the freezer part will be very tidy to start with :)

Your new Manager sounds like Uriah Heep in David Copperfield, do you remember. When he shook hands everyone had to wipe their hand because his were wet.

Enjoy your visit with Bill

Candlelightx

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Do we ever become so adult that it doesn't hurt when people you think you know and think are your friends turn into a combination of Brutus and Judas? My ignore list is considerably longer and I am sad!

candlelight_2013

Lyn, it doesn't matter how old we are, we can still be hurt. We are not immune to harsh words, and I think, perhaps, we take it more to heart as we become older.

Tomorrow is another day, if you can manage to have a reasonable nights sleep and if the weather is good I think you will feel more positive. Always know you are amongst friends here.

Sleep tight

Candlelightx

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I've just blasted poor old GreyQueen in a pm, I am very much out of order. It's been an intensely emotional few days and she thanked me for a post and I flew. It's been a lonely battle to keep that thread open, I've needed someone to stand with me and no one did, some lovely people kept me company and kept me trying and then we were all asked to join in the new thread because apparently we have lots of knowledge the new people joining want to know. I lost my rag for the first time in many years and I'm so sorry, done now, I just hope the poor woman reads my appology message but I won't blame her if she never speaks to me again. Words in haste should be deleted.

scottishminnie

LaineyT wrote: »

Not much else going on, had a new manager start at work on Tuesday and am already worried he won't be strong enough to stand up to our supervisor. His handshake was wet and weak, never a good sign! Anyways only time will tell, he might have hidden strengths, you never know

x

Pathetic handshakes are a real pet hate. Especially when it's a hulking great man who does it. I know I shouldn't pre judge but I'm afraid I've formed an opinion based on that handshake and it's not good.

My other pet peeve is people who can't make eye contact. Makes me so suspicious - and I'm usually right at some point:o

One of my colleagues calls the above my "unconscious bias". I keep telling her she's quite wrong. Bias it may be, unconscious it absolutely isn't, I'm well aware of it:D

Nargleblast

I agree with the bit about people who can't look you in the eye, but there are some cultures where it is considered respectful to keep your eyes lowered and downright rude to look straight at others! This manners stuff can be a minefield sometimes.

hoglet121

Oooh this all sounds very tough. I have to admit to not knowing what's happened becasue this is the only thread I read now, for all the reasons Candlelight gave. I help run an online book group though and we spend a lot of time trying to keep the peace amongst the members. It's a book group for goodness' sake - just get on and read some books!

candlelight_2013

Hello all,

Today is not a good day. Our dear friend Lyn has decided she cannot post on MSE any longer. There has been a lot of nastiness and I know she is very fragile at the moment. She feels let down, and I have talked to her but she must do what is best for her.

I will miss her friendship, humour and downright common sense and compassion. I do hope by the end of the summer she will feel she can come back and talk to us.

If that is not to be I believe our loss will be great.

Much love

Candlelightx

LaineyT

Oh Candlelight, say it's not so

I will miss Lyn's wisdom, knowledge and compassion more than she can possibly realise. I really hope that given time she will feel that she can return, and post again.

She will be hugely missed.

Much love
Lainey xx