Internet Dating Discussion

ms.prong

My mum joined match.com and is now happily married. She has been with my step dad for nearly 4 years. She is 50 mind, I'm not sure what its like for younger people

Snuggles

bristol_pilot wrote: »

A woman can ALWAYS get a man if she wants to...all she has to do is go to a bar and sit there on her own and someone will eventually approach her. So ask yourself why any even half-decent woman would join a dating site. Well, 'cos she's not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, she's a nutter, she's very unattractive or she's a gold digger. Join a club instead and don't waste your time and money on 'dating sites'.

What a load of rubbish! Half decent women join dating sites in the hope of meeting half decent men. Do you really think discerning women aspire to being picked up in pubs/clubs? I used a dating site as I wanted to meet an intelligent man who shared my interests, values and outlook. Fortunately I found him, and we're getting married next year.

Good luck OP, I would second the recommendation that you use a paid for site to avoid time wasters.

puddy

i agree, i used match.com and now we are 'togeva', just bought a place together

Trollydolly_2

bristol_pilot wrote: »

Well, 'cos she's not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, she's a nutter, she's very unattractive or she's a gold digger. Join a club instead and don't waste your time and money on 'dating sites'.

I dont want to Hijack this thread so will add my tuppence worth regards internet dating along with my rant...

Bristol Pilot Im sorry but that is a LOAD of tosh!!

I have used internet dating myself on and off over the years as have many of my friends and colleagues. I and others have met some wonderful people (along with some not so wonderful) and some have gone on to marry those people. Im currently in a very happy relationship so no longer do it, however If the need arose I would certainly do it again.

I see from your sign in that you are a Pilot, well Im Cabin Crew and quite honestly if I wanted an arrogant man that loved himself and his job more than anything else in the world then I could quite easily have gone out with one of the many many pilots who have asked me to.

I chose not to and to use internet dating instead as Im sure you will appreciate, being a pilot, it can be hard to start new relationships by going out/joining a club due to our work hours, time away, rest time, non drinking times etc etc it just doesnt sit right with alot of hobbies as you cant be at the same place at the same time every week. Lots of shift workers have the same problem, not just airline staff.
Im sure you will also appreciate that lots of men & women dont appreciate having a new relationship with somebody who is away alot of the time with goodlooking people of the opposite sex and when they are home they tend to sleep for the first day!

I can assure you that my friends, colleagues and I are/were most certainly NOT,,,

" not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, a nutter, very unattractive or a gold digger."

At the time I was single, very serious about meeting someone, didnt find it funny, im not a nutter (much), I wouldnt say I was gorgeous but Im certainly not unattractive and I am on a good wage with lots of perks, own my own home outright and drive a fancy convertable, so I have no reason to dig for gold.

Im sure Im not the only normal nice person that has been internet dating!

want2bmortgage3 Go for it!!! There are lots of lovely ladies out there.
My tips would be to message people with a decent message personalised to their write up, if they like bungee jumping ask them about it. My main gripe was getting messages of men that were obviously generic and had been sent to lots of girls all in one go. Make an effort to talk about them. Be honest from the start about what you want and what your looking for. Dont go wanting to meet someone after only a couple of messages back and forth, it comes across as just sleazy, talk to them as much as you can over a longer period of time (couple of weeks at least) before going for lunch or something.

Anyway Good Luck and enjoy yourself!!

fantasia322

bristol_pilot wrote: »

A woman can ALWAYS get a man if she wants to...all she has to do is go to a bar and sit there on her own and someone will eventually approach her. So ask yourself why any even half-decent woman would join a dating site. Well, 'cos she's not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, she's a nutter, she's very unattractive or she's a gold digger. Join a club instead and don't waste your time and money on 'dating sites'.

What a load of bull. Sorry if you had a bad time on dating sites (thats what I'm assuming).
I'm female and met my lovely OH on GirlsDateForFree 2 years ago. We are happily living together and getting engaged very soon.
I#m not saying that a few women dont use dating sites as a pick up point but the same can be said of men. But it is unfair to prejudge or tar every body with the same brush. Anyone who is out for sex on tap can use the sites which offer this (god knows there are loads) but there are some very decent people of both genders who use internet dating sites.

flutterbyuk25

bristol_pilot wrote: »

A woman can ALWAYS get a man if she wants to...all she has to do is go to a bar and sit there on her own and someone will eventually approach her. So ask yourself why any even half-decent woman would join a dating site. Well, 'cos she's not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, she's a nutter, she's very unattractive or she's a gold digger. Join a club instead and don't waste your time and money on 'dating sites'.

This is so unbelievably pathetic!

I joined a dating site because I was fed up of meeting men in pubs/clubs/general life who turned out to be married/attached. At least with a dating site you (generally) know they are single.

Browntoa wrote: »

www.plentyoffish.com

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I 2nd plenty of fish, I joined few months ago and have met loads of nice guys. Some I've just had emails with, others I've had a few dates from and I've gained two good friends from it. I like it cos you can have local matches. I don't really want to *meet* someone from halfway round UK!

I also tried the Sarah Beeny one but there were very few nice guys on there in my opinion.

Good luck!

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bristol_pilot

The OP is MALE, so posts from women saying they met a good man on dating sites are irrelevant. I'm sure they are a good place for a woman to meet a man, just not the other way round. A woman who is too precious to allow herself to be chatted up in a bar or engage in conversation at a badminton club etc will not make a good partner, IMO.

Yes, my original post on this thread does reflect my experience of dating sites, although there could have been a few female gems on there that I missed. The first three ladies I met had all joined to get material for writing a book about meeting men through a dating site - three of the four 'nutters' I met, the fourth saw dead people who weren't really there. The vast majority quizzed me about the value of my house or my salary - the gold diggers. Many others simply didn't turn up or 'dated' me for a month before revealing they already had a boyfriend.

Luckily partnered now so don't have to bother with this rubbish any more (met my lady in a bar, btw).

Running_Horse

I met my wife on faceparty which was free. Expect a lot of timewasters and a lot of unanswered emails, but you only need one genuine person.

The whole singles scene is unbelievably depressing, and the best advice I can give is to take up as many hobbies and interests as you can, in the hope of becoming the sort of confident and interesting man a woman might go for.

You could get lucky on an Internet website, but if you haven't addressed why women are put off you, then all the effort may be for nothing.

Good luck.

Snuggles

bristol_pilot wrote: »

The OP is MALE, so posts from women saying they met a good man on dating sites are irrelevant. I'm sure they are a good place for a woman to meet a man, just not the other way round. A woman who is too precious to allow herself to be chatted up in a bar or engage in conversation at a badminton club etc will not make a good partner, IMO.

Right, so all us women who have posted saying we used internet dating sites are not good partners? :rolleyes: Well, I think my OH would beg to differ. I am well aware that the OP is male, that doesn't make posts from women irrelevant. I (and no doubt the other women who have posted), am a perfectly "normal", respectable, intelligent woman, who used internet dating to meet a respectable, intelligent man. That is the point of my post - decent women DO use internet dating, and the OP might just meet such a woman. How is that irrelevant

newcook

where in the country are you?!?! I too am 28, single with no kids and Im female!!!