Internet Dating Discussion

katiesmummy

bristol_pilot wrote: »

A woman can ALWAYS get a man if she wants to...all she has to do is go to a bar and sit there on her own and someone will eventually approach her. So ask yourself why any even half-decent woman would join a dating site. Well, 'cos she's not really single, not serious about meeting anyone, doing it for a joke, she's a nutter, she's very unattractive or she's a gold digger. Join a club instead and don't waste your time and money on 'dating sites'.

that is such a load of rubbish- for a start i am not a gold digger, and i don't consider myself to be particularly unattractive either.

i met my bf on a dating site. i was talked into joining by a male friend who met his fiancee on there, both my bf and my friend are two of the nicest men you could ever meet.

i dont get to go out much because of babysitting issues, so its very difficult for me to meet people in a pub/bar/club/whatever.

joining the site was the best thing i ever did cos i have met a man who treats me like a queen.

oh, the site was freedating.co.uk by the way.

angie_baby

Ive tried a few dating sites but none have worked for me! I must just have a face that says - married men here / men over 50! So i have given up. I did look at eharmony but the fees are quite steep.

Agree with others it maybe worth while paying that extra, but while trying to be debt free i just can justify it!

katiesmummy

angie_baby wrote: »

Ive tried a few dating sites but none have worked for me! I must just have a face that says - married men here / men over 50! So i have given up. I did look at eharmony but the fees are quite steep.

Agree with others it maybe worth while paying that extra, but while trying to be debt free i just can justify it!

i had over 300 messages when i was registered on the freedating site- and i really don't consider myself to be THAT attractive!!

i only replied to one though, which was my now bf

Mister_aaa

katiesmummy wrote: »

i had over 300 messages when i was registered on the freedating site- and i really don't consider myself to be THAT attractive!!

i only replied to one though, which was my now bf

And thats the difference for dating sites between men and women

Of course you found a nice man, you had the pick of 300 who were interested! The challenge for men is being the 1 out of the 300...

I think dating sites take the fun out of dating, all i ever used to see were women with enormous shopping lists, and if that man didn't fit the mold, no reply.

It's not as fun as meeting someone when you aren't expecting it, going for a drink, feeling the sparks start to break out, and you know the rest...

This is an interesting article (though a pinch of salt is required as it's the daily mail).

sarahs999

Met my husband on datingdirect.com (married five years now, it was my third date )
My best friend met her husband on match.com
My other friend has just had a baby with the man she met on Sarah Beeny's website (disagree that there aren't good men on there. I was looking only yesterday and there seem to be loads. Perhaps depends on your search criteria??)

sarahs999

Mister_aaa wrote: »

And thats the difference for dating sites between men and women

Of course you found a nice man, you had the pick of 300 who were interested! The challenge for men is being the 1 out of the 300...

I think dating sites take the fun out of dating, all i ever used to see were women with enormous shopping lists, and if that man didn't fit the mold, no reply.

It's not as fun as meeting someone when you aren't expecting it, going for a drink, feeling the sparks start to break out, and you know the rest...

This is an interesting article (though a pinch of salt is required as it's the daily mail).

I disagree. If you want to hang around in bars/supermarkets/badminton societies and hope that out of the 100s of people in there there might be one who is unnattached, interested in you, not drunk and reasonable, then good luck. If you want to settle down before you're 70 though, the internet dating sites are perfect. You get to meet people who want the same thing as you and can hone your choices very quickly.

And I think that actually there is great potential for old-style romance here. What could be more 19th century than wooing your intended through letters and words? Better than a drunken lurch in a nightclub.

Mister_aaa

sarahs999 wrote: »

And I think that actually there is great potential for old-style romance here. What could be more 19th century than wooing your intended through letters and words? Better than a drunken lurch in a nightclub.

I do agree with this. Providing you don't get messages like some i've had in the past, i can't really see them going down in the annals of 19th century literature!

"Wd u lk to cht som tme?"

Dilfred

from another bloke's perspective I met my girlfriend, now fiancee on match.com

i just logged in, filled in all the details/questionaires etc. spent some time thinking of good different things to say in the boxes to make it more original and actually worth reading.
Also a good picture on the front, maybe with a couple more in the main is good. It's amazing how important the first picture is.
despite what people say, it's the first contact with the other people and ignoring if it's right or wrong to go on first impressions, it's how i worked.

don't register to pay initially, just send winks out to people you like and see what comes back. Also it'll give you a chance to see how many people are in your area/field that you are searching for. if it's a low number, then maybe a different site is needed?

sarah beenies, My Single friend is meant to be quite good, though I found most people in my area were all farmer types (not that that is not good, just not what I look for) Also mucuh less people online there.
if you do see someone that you want to talk to, then send them a mail. match like other sites has some advice on what to and not to say, it's quite informative actually.
Also don't be afraid to write. it's all very fine winking or receiving a wink, but don't wait for them to write, make the first move.

don't stalk or be scarey (not really need to say,but it's amazing how over inquisitive people can be when they are meeting a stranger.)

All in all, try a few sites out, stay positive, don't bother subscribing initially until you get the hang of the site and what it has to offer.
Don't forget that they are real people you are talking to, so respect them as you'd expect them to respect you.

Dilfred

Mister_aaa wrote: »

I do agree with this. Providing you don't get messages like some i've had in the past, i can't really see them going down in the annals of 19th century literature!

"Wd u lk to cht som tme?"

lol
When responded too like that, the delete/ignore button really comes in handy.

it was nice romancing via mail, as it allows you time to compose what you say back, it followed on with MSN when we knew each other better

frames1_uk

I thought it was only me that can't abide ridiculous text speak and the shocking spelling!