Internet Dating Discussion

becs

I just wanted to say good luck with internet dating and keep perservering! I met my husband online and we've been married nearly 3 years now. We went on a couple of dates and he decided he wasn't really ready for a relationship but we kept in touch online and 3 years later we realised our feelings had grown and we got it together! Neither of us have looked back since and I think we are a great match and can't imagine my life with anyone else.

ali-t

Is it that you aren't getting any interest or that you aren't attracted to the men that you are going out with? I found that when internet dating I didn't meet anyone where there was fireworks or butterflies, but one of my friends told me I was expecting far too much after 3 dates to have someone who hit everything on paper and have a massive emotional connection too. Just a thought.

watchingmymoney

Don't give up! I met my boyfriend of over a year on the internet and another good friend met her boyfriend a few weeks earlier on the same site (they bought and now live together in a huge beautiful house in the Surrey countryside). There are a lot of liars on the sites so do be careful, but just use your common sense as there are some real gems out there too. Don't give out too much personal information at first, meet in a public place for the first few dates, and most of all, take things slow. If he's worth it, he'll realise your worth it. Don't settle for less.

Ladyhawk

I have previously got quite a lot of interest... not always from the type of man I'd like though! I have met one fabulous guy that I really felt an immediate connection to and could see a possible future. Sadly after date three he didn't feel the same way.

I think all the guys, bar maybe 2 of them (and I have met up with loads) were really nice, kind and vaguely interesting. But I just didn't feel the initial wow. Maybe I am expecting too much initially? Surely there has to be a feeling at first that you could imagine yourself kissing the man sitting infront of you?

I think after this subscription I might try another site.

Mupette

How about writing it in man language.

I am not a shortarse, not needy, can buy my own drinks.
I can understand the off side rule, commitment is a swear word to me

Souk08

I think you need the WOW factor too, or they'll just be a friend and that's not what you're after.

Brighton_belle

where as for me, it took several dates to fall for my now OH. Tried to get out of a second date:o. Thank goodness I gave it a bit longer.
Ditto my friend who is now married to her internet date.

The instant wow factor is great, but maybe not the immediate answer all the time. There are lots of poeple who fall for someone suddenly after being just friends or colleagues for a long time.

Ladyhawk

Yes- but you could waste a lot of time and a lot of money on someone that you thought was nice but you don't have chemistry with. I do sometimes go on second dates just to be sure... but I always feel as if I am leading them on somehow?

Souk08

Ladyhawk, got to say I am happily single and always will be but do like to meet men for a bit of fun and so chemistry is majorly important. I don't understand why people would go out twice with someone they don't fancy but understand that we all want different things!

Ladyhawk

Thanks Souk - I am also quite happy being single... probably too happy TBH! I love the fact that I have my own space and don't have answer to anyone. I just get a little sad because all my friends are now married off with kids so don't want to do fun stuff anymore. I know what you are all going to say... get yourself some new friends!! (that's what my mum keeps telling me). So I am working on that too....

And I certainly don't think all my problems would be solved by getting myself a boyfriend...