new mummy friend

B4budget

Did you text? Hope you got to meet up and have a good time?

pinkshoes

Definitely text her.

If she's anything like me, she probably wanted to text back, got bogged down with sick child, work etc..., then felt it was too late to text again and had missed the boat.

I was in exactly the same situation, but probably the "other" person, and said friend did text me again - turns out her little boy had been poorly over xmas too, and we now meet up regularly.

CH27

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

an9i77

B4budget wrote: »

Did you text? Hope you got to meet up and have a good time?

Gimme a chance, only posted this an hour or so ago! I will text her though, so I will give her a text tonight or tomorrow. Thanks all:)

grey_lady

Have you thought about joining an NCT group locally?

pinkclouds

an9i77 wrote: »

I prob am over thinking it and don't want to appear desperate. But we got on really well before, so I guess that means I can stick my neck out again. I guess I am a bit shy and it took a lot of effort to initiate the whole meeting up thing in the first place. I suppose I can be the one to take the intiative a bit longer but if it's always gonna be me doing all the running then I would resent that, so there's only so long I could take that for. I've got other friends where that's happened, and it makes you feel like sh11t so those kind of people are not really my friends anymore. But I've not long known this person, so I guess she deserves a chance!

I'd agree with your assessment if it was pre-baby days but all that stuff goes out the window with a new baby in tow. Tbh, if it's her first baby you may not get a response for a couple of weeks if she's really stressed and bogged down with baby stuff. If you felt that you got on well together then it's very likely that you did. As I've said to many people before, I wish I could go back in time and kick myself for being so stressy when I had just one child - it was sooo much easier back then and I should have gone out more and done more stuff. Alas, I didn't realise how easy it had been until I had my second baby but at least I make more effort now... One of my friends is on babies #4 and #5 and even she sometimes goes for ages between meet-ups - sometimes it's all you can do to drag yourself out on the school run and you just let everything else slide. It's not necessarily anything personal.

Hope you hear from your acquaintance soon.

victory

Yes I would text her, I hope you get a reply and can start up a great friendship:D

patchwork_cat

If you want to get in touch then do so. I used to worry about things like this and would never ask for help from people etc. and noticed that some people had others running around after them and the difference was they demanded help! Now I can't be like that, but have decieded s*d it if I want to be friends I will call you, if you don't want to get together then you can say so. I am not thick skinned and if someone made an excuse for more than a couple of get togethers I would give up.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

But please don't refer to an adult woman with a child as a 'Mummy Friend' EVER again. I'd be heading for the hills if someone said that.

an9i77

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

But please don't refer to an adult woman with a child as a 'Mummy Friend' EVER again. I'd be heading for the hills if someone said that.

Er..she's a friend who's a mummy? As opposed to my friends who aren't parents. Is it the word 'mummy' you don't like?