Can't bare to have toddler son sleep on his own in his bedroom

jackieb

Well said.

amandada

It's not how I've done it, or would choose to do it, but hey-if it works for you....

gravitytolls

:rotfl:

conradmum wrote:

Oh dear Gravitytolls, you are very strange! You must be one of those weird attachment parents who breastfeed their children to the age of ten!
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:rotfl: I must be. Still, that's life.

HappySad

Kimberley wrote:

My first a daughter was in her own room from day one, my second a son was in his own room from day one, my third shared with his brother from day one. No way could i have had a 2/3 year old in my bedroom when i was with a partner, i wouldn't have been able to have sex with a child in the room :rolleyes: I mean what if they wake up when your at it and you notice them standing up in their cot looking over to you

They should really have their own room from day one, but i can understand it if you only have a one bedroom appartment.

It has been stated that at the very least to have your child in the same bedroom for 6month or better 1 year for cot death reduction of risk.

It is good to know what is recommended from Health Visitors and then decide for yourself at take an informed decision based on the risk. I know a friend who smoked and also used a quit for their baby and that baby was OK as many who do this will say.... but their second baby was not as a few of parents are regretting to have learnt the hardway.

Oldernotwiser

HappySad wrote:

It has been stated that at the very least to have your child in the same bedroom for 6month or better 1 year for cot death reduction of risk.

It is good to know what is recommended from Health Visitors and then decide for yourself at take an informed decision based on the risk. I know a friend who smoked and also used a quit for their baby and that baby was OK as many who do this will say.... but their second baby was not as a few of parents are regretting to have learnt the hardway.

Any chance of a translation, please?

seven-day-weekend

I personally would not like a three-year-old in the bedroom when I was having 'private time' with my husband, but if it suits the OP's family situation I don't see anything wrong with it.

CFC

Conradsmum, I really can't be bothered arguing with you. You're just making snap judgements instead of just giving your opinion, as you did before.

To cover your kind concerns re my family, the swedish study that you cite had a sample of:

<<Quantitative and qualitative data were collected with five cohorts of parents and their 60 children who ranged in age from 6 months to 8 years.>>

Five cohorts of parents and 60 children between them. Hardly a massive representation. My extended Swedish family can muster 60 kids on their own, apart from all the people they know! Doubtless an interested researcher could probably find parents of 60 kids in the whole of the UK who have their children sleep in a bathroom because they think it's healthier.

And I actually do read sources - very often extracts are specifically chosen to look as if they give support to a particular viewpoint or other when they don't. Or vice versa. Not that statistics always mean much, hence the old statistician's joke, that with your head in the oven and your feet in the freezer, on average you are perfectly comfortable. Not to mention the old saw that there are lies, damn lies, and statistics!

As for study itself, funded by an education charitable 'think tank' - I blame modern education and modern education methods for much of the ills in our society that have arisen over the last 40 years. I'd as much trust their conclusions as I would stick my hand in the fire.

And I'd suggest you consider learning more about counselling methods. Asking if people agree with you or not, a la the OP, is asking for people's opinions, it isn't the same as asking for support. There's a big difference. Same as judging someone's psychological state from a few words in a forum - tell you what, it doesn't need advanced psychological knowledge, it's as simple as this: I actually read what people write and respond to that, not what I think they are writing. It's a useful tack in life generally, I find.

By the way, you haven't answered as to whether you are actually an attachment parent? No MY idea of an attachment parent, but an attachment parent as they describe themselves.

Not that I actually care two hoots whether you are an attachment or not. Your life is your own and you make your own choices in it. Just interested that you didn't answer the question.

You must know what attachment parenting is, because the site you originally quoted is an attachment parenting site (it says so in the url title, so you couldn't miss it if you actually read the site), so you could have answered simply yes or no.

Perhaps you preferred not to answer.

As I said, I don't care two hoots either way. People's opinions, and their actions, are their own.

liney

Translation. Babies are less likely to die of cot death if sleeping in the same room as their parents for at least their first 6 months. Babies with parents who smoke are more likely to die of cot death.

Many babies who do not sleep with their parents, and whos parents smoke are fine. However, of the ones who pass away from cot death, contributing factors are belived to be smoking parents, and sleeping away from parents earlier than six months.

Obviously the cause of cot death is unknown, but statistically those two factors play a part.

Spendless

I had to follow guidelines about letting baby sleep in parents room until 6 months. I knew if I hadn't and something had happened to them I would have just blamed myself for not following advice. Mine were both slightly older than this when they went in their own rooms around 10 months-ish, which was to do with decorating rather than anything else.

We holidayed with DS when he was 15 months and he had to sleep in our room whilst away, when we came back he didn't want to go back into his own room and we are still struggling with this years later. I doubt we get thru a week without him coming into our room at some point.

nickyhutch

conradmum wrote:

Now please tell me how any of those responses is answering the OP's questions?

But people posting questions leads to discussion, doesn't it? Is that not the point? The OP just asked "are you like me, do other families work the same way also?" Are you suggesting everyone simply answered "yes" or "no"?

Posting a question on here is inviting comment, particularly a question like this to which there is no straightforward, right or wrong answer.